Girls, am I so bad? ... I am so lonelly and never had a girlfriend because of my introversion that really makes it impossibile for me to talk to girl?

[Eusebio]

As i said in the title i am very shy and i dont really understand if I will ever someone to end my lonelliness and depression caused by it , I just want to know because I feel very wrong sometimes and like a mistake since no one ever showed any real interest in me and Id just like to read some opinions. I know I am not a smiling guy or take the best pictures as you can see , but I didn't really had any reason to smile , it's rare that I smile.

I had a ldr but it was all a mistake , love wasn't something present there since it was all dictated by beliefs and a lot of sufferings.

I am curious to know what is wrong in my look and with me , ty. I can send the picture in private.

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be proactive and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety since those are part of your problem.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

If you are dissatisfied with the way you look, then simple steps may have a positive impact on you. Try first to change your hairstyle and clothing. They may be one of the reasons why you feel insecure. Learn to smile because people are also judged on how they appear to others. If you frown all the time and never smile, you will be tagged as a person that is difficult to befriend or be with. Good luck.

[_Maya_]

I don't need a picture. Your words say a lot. There is a lot of insecurity in those words. I am betting that it is only driving the depression. As for an introversion that is not something easily changed. There isn't much can do to change your personality. There are ways to try and help that. My best advice is go out with a group of friends. People that you are comfortable with and don't push yourself. Go into things gradually. Just work on it slowly. Don't dive into the deep end. Just work on talking to others in the comfort of a group of friends. As for the depression that needs to be diagnosed and treated by a doctor. You need professional help with that because it can become dangerous if left untreated and festering in your head.

[Nikki1989]

You will have to come to terms with your insecurities if anything is ever going to improve for you. You have work to do.