Why are men approaching me and don't have their stuff together?

[cth2188]

Like a job , car , home , and financial stability while expecting me to deal with them while they get themselves together? I have yet to find a man whose together? These same men get upset when I tell them I'm not interested in them because it seems they're not ready for a relationship?

Updates

1 y

I don't date potential men - never did , never will

[BetaBucks]

Some want to see if you're down for them or if you're using them. I always acted broke when I started relationships. If they love me for me, they'll get the rest of what comes with that. This was in my teens and 20s.

But, at your age, there's no reason to be messing with guys that don't have their shit together. These guys are probably not testing you for love and loyalty. They're just unsuccessful. If you want attention from more successful guys, you have to get your appearance together. That's the only way it works, with barely any exceptions.

[cth2188]

I just said I don't date men who aren't together - I simply move on and don't invest life is too short to deal with low tier men.. these men never get a chance with men

[cth2188]

There's nothing wrong with my appearance - I'm not longer in the dating market and gave up on dating a decade ago because most men don't have their shyt together, looking for a mommy replacement, and or low tier

[BetaBucks]

Then why do you care that low quality men are going after you? And why are you even gauging them for quality? Are you sure you're not on the dating market, but just not getting high enough quality men shooting their shots?

No judgement, just trying to make sense of where you're really at. Or were you just here to make fun of low quality dudes?

[cth2188]

Because these men are approaching me and I have to reject them.. yes it's frustrating, but I'm tired of these low tier achievers if you're gonna be in my face have you together

[cth2188]

I don't date men online - and not interested in a so called high value man.. if men approach me have the basic requirements ( job , car , home and stability) not with the baggage and bs

[cth2188]

Men can't stay out of women's faces

[BetaBucks]

Alright, so you're on the market then. Not a bad thing. But if you want to attract highER quality men, you have to be a higher quality woman. Which is 99% about looks, age and acting feminine.

[BetaBucks]

"men can't stay out of women's faces" just sounds like you're angry at the world. Trust me, I know where you're actually coming from. And it's painful af.

[cth2188]

Yes most men should stay out of women's faces if you can't meet the bare minimum - men shouldn't get upset if they're rejected. No woman owes a man time , energy, or sex

[cth2188]

No I am not on the market , but have men still approach me as I still function like a human being

[cth2188]

It's ain't painful it's called me having standards and most men can't meet them

[cth2188]

It's a tiresome job to keep rejecting men who know they ain't together, but still expect a chance because they have a job

[BetaBucks]

No, I get it, trust me. I get a bunch of old or overweight women trying to fuck, and it gets annoying after a while. Makes me feel like a loser too. If they want my time, resources and dick, they need to be better quality. I'm not wasting my time on low quality women.

I'm not on the market either, but I still can evaluate them as not being worthy. And I still take the self esteem hit when someone that low quality thinks they have a chance with me.

[cth2188]

Not overweight and not looking to fuck actually been celibate, single 15 years plus own a business, and career oriented

[cth2188]

I have a BOB battery operated Bob to take care of my sexual needs

[cth2188]

It seems for the last 15 years I've been taking care of me without a man

[cth2188]

I just made the commitment to stay single now for my peace of mind and sanity

[BetaBucks]

I didn't really want to hear about your masturbation habits, but thanks for sharing...

Good luck with everything 🤞🏼

[RavVid]

This is like girls that dress hot complaining that men they feel aren't hot looking at them in the gym. Show your tits off and all men under 80 are going to have a good look.

Of course men you don't feel worthy are going take their shot as well as more worthy men. This is simply life.

[BadApple69]

Seems you are hanging with the wrong crowd. The men you seek are out there.

[cth2188]

I'm not on dating apps , but I meet men like this out and about they're not men their little boys

[cth2188]

I stopped dating 15 years ago

[BadApple69]

To be honest I don’t know where the best place to meet men are. But if you ever did want to date again, I suggest you look into clubs that have your interest. No better place to meet people with at least one interest in common. Good luck in whatever you do

[cth2188]

I'm not interested in this crazy dating era AIDS and monkey pox on the rise plus I'm not having sex with a man unless married - too many people fornicate too much for me

[cth2188]

Choose to be single and celibate

[Juxtapose]

"car, home" is too materialistic to me. And what if they're on disability or retirement?

[cth2188]

Basic human needs if you can't sustain this I don't know why you're dating

[Juxtapose]

How is owning a home a basic human need when you can rent? And many people get by without cars, especially in European countries when you can just use the public transport system for €50 a month.

[cth2188]

Who said owing a home? I said have the basics- car , home, and job / career.. I'm sick of little boys approaching me and knowing they're not together

[cth2188]

Too broke to date and not a man if you can't sustain yourself how I see men who don't have their own.

[Juxtapose]

Yikes.

[cth2188]

Men shouldn't be in women's faces not equipped

[cth2188]

Not just financially some men aren't together mentally or emotionally

[cth2188]

Just have your own whether you rent or own

[cth2188]

At some point a man should be established before meeting a woman so when he finds the right one he can move that woman in his home or they can buy a home together

[jamesgoldman]

Won't get that these days

Liberalism is pushing to ban all of them

[sirderpsalot123]

Wishful thinking

[cth2188]

Ikr and I stop expecting anything

[eagle1951]

may be nervous shy hard to say

[cth2188]

No most men are low tier below average shyt ain't together