Do you prefer a shy girl or outgoing girl?

Question

My guy friend seems to think that guys really like shy girls but I beg to differ because my best friend isn't shy and they love her.

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

I don't think anyone could or should choose someone based on one character trait. There are times and places when a certain degree of extroversion seem appropriate and the same applies to introversion. No matter how often it is asked I don't think you will ever find anyone who sincerely believes that they like or are attracted to someone because of their personality, the size of their tits or dick, how sexual they are. Human beings are complex and trying to reduce them to a certain physical or emotional trait in order to decide where or not they are attractive is a fools game. The entire package is always unique and I don't think it should be simplified. Someone is attractive and we try to make their acquaintance. Once we have, we decide whether its someone we want to put time and energy into or not. That decision is based, at least for me, on the entire personality and physical make up. Once I know someone I might be able to say something like I like her outgoing personality but even then it's part of her and does not necessarily mean I woul;d like that same personality in someone else.

ManInChains · Accepted Answer

Nerdy/geeky, bookish and shy 😍

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

The funny thing is it seems like opposites attract for this. Out going guys always liked me and I was shy and I felt that made being able to talk to them and open up much easier. And it seems the cool quiet guys always end up with outgoing, talkative girls.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

You know what's funny? 1/2 the gals who claim to be shy and helpless are bs-ing to get a guy, then drop the charade and become nagging women guys regret being with. Smh.

HawkPerception · Answer

I used to think I did because I was shy myself back in high school/college days. Well I learned after dating a couple shy girls that it's actually kind of frustrating conversing with them and getting them to open up to you.

I prefer a girl that isn't afraid to voice her opinions and has a lot to say about different topics. I love getting to know a girl that has a passion for life and outgoing girls seem to have more of that vibe.

I'm not the old me that was okay taking my time being patient with people that take a while to open up. Time is valuable to me. I want someone that's on the same wavelength as me.

It's honestly okay if she's shy, as long as she has no issues conversing and being open about herself and her opinions.

AviatorTom · Answer

It really doesn't matter. Both types have their plusses and minuses.

Datboi65 · Answer

I don't mind either tbh. I'm introverted, but I'm very confident. I'm sociable, but I get exhausted from a long day of hanging out with friends/ new people that I have to spend at least 3 days by myself. An outgoing girl isn't a problem if she understands my need to keep my space, and a shy girl isn't an issue either since I prefer my own company over that of others. She can be there without being there, just sort of in the background.

What I care about most is value alignment, and I find that introverted women (not necessarily shy but also could be) happen to be more likely to match my values, but that's just a broad generalization of course and I would need to know the person more.

MicahRaine · Answer

50/50 I prefer a girl who is sometimes shy and sometimes outgoing. In other words, a girl who is very comfortable with herself but also doesn't feel a need to seek validation.

If I had to choose, I would say I prefer a girl who is genuinely shy. Just because those girls are generally a bit more kind.

Outgoing girls are great too though, being outgoing can be a superpower when it comes to making connections and moving forward in life.

Fortunately for me, Raine embodies the best traits from both worlds :)

Redstang88 · Answer

Neither really, reserved would be a better word? The typical timid/shy type isn’t really my thing, I like a girl with some confidence. But super outgoing people aren’t my thing either. I’m definitely not anxious or uncomfortable around a bunch of people, I just prefer peace and quiet

Iron_Man · Answer

Outgoing, shy girls don’t talk at all hardly what do we have in common if they don’t say two words, but just Nod their head. Do you know how boring that is? I like outgoing girls, but I don’t like girls outgoing to other men when they’re with me

Johnagain · Answer

I just asked 4 guys at my job. They all say shy girls. It's because they think an outgoing one is more likely to be a who're... I don't know myself, anymore. I'm 59, and am able to sift through them & get to the one that gets real with me because she likes ME. 😎

Anonymous · Answer

it's a lie. i grew up shy (still kinda am) and every guy says "oh yay a shy girl, i love shy girls, i'd rather not have someone talk all the damn time"

and then they're like "oh.. wait... why is this girl so shy? this is getting nowhere. i have no patience for this!"

and they leave

so while they say they like shy girls, they have no idea what it actually means to date a shy girl

convo_king89 · Answer

A shy modest girl sounds like good challenge. I’ve always had this fantasy where I get to bang the girl next door/school girl type. She usually wears a t shirt, jeans and regular panties. Her panties are full coverage simple basic that come in a pack. She could be a slut behind closed door with me as well..

nawtee_me · Answer

I think a lot of both girls and guys are shy at first but open up quickly after a few dates. Others are really shy and it may take a while for the wheel to break. Knowing this I like both and will give the time needed to see if a relationship is worth pursuing.

homegal99 · Answer

A guy I know mentioned that he likes Asian women now because they have family values and I noticed that whenever an Asian woman ignores him, he makes sure to mention how he loves white girls who are very outgoing and not shy.

Seems like it all circles back to outgoing girls.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It depends on the guy. In general, introverted guys like shy girls band extroverted guys like more outgoing girls, but there are exceptions

Starrrboy · Answer

I'm an introvert and my type should be shy introverted girls but I don't know why outgoing girls are the ones who stand out to me.. maybe shy girls are too much work..

ZS007 · Answer

just to clarify shy and introverted are not synonymous.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

In dating id say a shy girl. Just to meet people in general I'd say an outgoing person just because it's easier (and because I'm pretty reserved initially though I wouldn't say shy)

HungTexan · Answer

I like outgoing women, but shy ones can be fun too.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I prefer a shy girl, that is so cute!

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I prefer selectively social artistic, geeky, nerdy gamer girls.

paledreams · Answer

Shy to outgoing is closer match to me 🙃😋 though it's on my terms lol

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Outgoing, but the lady I'm pursuing now is shy, so it's not a strong preference.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I'm not into shy women.  I like women that are friendly, open and outgoing type of personality but nothing to the extreme neither.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

All girls go crazy anyway. We all are crazyyy

LiamJHayden · Answer

As long as she adores me I do not care if she is extroverted like me or reserved.

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

Honestly, I can't choose. I like both meek, subby girls and energetic ones.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Outgoing, because I tend to be really shy among women.

Still-alive · Answer

It doesn't matter really as long as we are compatible. i can relate to shy girls as a once shy guy myself and i can also take outgoing girls which can balance me out a bit hehe

Jimmerjammermama83 · Answer

I think shy is better in shy at first then very outgoing

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I love that shy one I thing that's soooooooo sexy!!!😍😍😍😍😍

Anonymous · Answer

Outgoing girls. Most women that claim to be shy are really just narcissistic.

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer outgoing girls, because I'm too shy with girls.

Jerre · Answer

I’ll take the outgoing girls anytime.

thearchjoker · Answer

Outgoing for the win

worldscolide · Answer

I kind of like a combination of both.

art84 · Answer

Outgoing girl.

OtterMan68 · Answer

I clash with outgoing people.

LiamS95 · Answer

Somewhere in between shy and outgoing.

CVNT5 · Answer

i love me a shy girl💕

msc545 · Answer

Something in between.

Jpie555 · Answer

Outgoing all day long… no shy ladies!!

CubaPirate · Answer

I'll take one of each please

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Shy girls hurts in bed lol..

Anonymous · Answer

Shy girls are a massive turn on

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