Friends with benefits denial?

[Anonymous]

Been in a friends with benefits for nearly 3 years and we’ve been friends a lot longer.
We recently had a chat about what we do. He asked me if I wanted more from him, said no I don’t think we’d work. Which I partly believe. He went on to say he was no good and better off on his own basically.
It pisses me off as he is a good person, yes has flaws just like anyone else does.

but I feel bad as I don’t know if we’d work. There is a big age gap. One of us has two teenage kids and one no kids. One has a house one doesn’t. one travels a lot one don’t.

care about him a lot and we get on great and the sex is probably the best I’ve had.
I do wish I could see him more but don’t want to push him away. At the moment we only see each other every few months. Sometimes less sometimes a lot more.

am I wasting my time or am I still doing this because it suits or deep down I want more but to scared to admit it as I don’t wanna lose someone again.

sick of being so confused

[ManOnFire]

"There is a big age gap. One of us has two teenage kids and one no kids. One has a house one doesn’t. one travels a lot one don’t."
- With all that I would say let it go. If you were both young and single I might've said see if a relationship can happen, but it sounds like there's some serious gulfs there that you guys would have to cross. I don't think even he is really serious about a relationship either.

[itsannalee]

If you want it just take it, if you trust him just try it.

[MicahRaine]

^^yep. No point in prolonging the pain lol

[Anonymous]

They never work out

[Anonymous]

I'll never work out