Any hints on how to get back into dating / sex after a long relationship?

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I have been in a very long relationship. It has been sexless for at least 12 years because I don't cheat. I am fairly shy because of rejection. Some younger women seem to flirt with me and age doesn't really matter. I like women with an open attitude, cute, like to communicate. I am just an average guy with the average dad bod but no kids.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well the first thing to remember is to take things slow if someone’s just going way too fast you have to wonder if there is some ulterior motive going on. The extremes like future faking and rushing things trying to push marriage within a year.

12 years is a really long time for someone to waste your time and it’s a shame. Because people stick with someone wasting their time until they find someone else.

Just remember finding someone can take time and never expect a relationship to be the same. Allow yourself to grieve this relationship and don’t expect it to be the same. You may have learned what you like and dislike. But don’t expect it to be the same because it won’t be.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

After my amicable divorce after 20 years of marriage, I joined a few online dating sites. Met a few women, and dated some. Met my current wife on a dating site.

Try a dating site, you might like it. Be careful though, there are scams and fake profiles, but also some real people.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

Which are you specifically looking for? Relationship or just sex?

chrissykerdock · Accepted Answer

it would be okay to meet a girl for blowjobs

WendyJoel22 · Answer

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Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Slow and steady. Your older now and woman have been going through all different experiences and things while you were with your ex so there's going to be some you need to be careful of.

But I think the best thing to do is not go looking for one and first try to get your friend group back. It's much easier to manage your relationship status with a friend group that helps get you out of the house and interacting with new people.

Your brain is a little like a muscle and the muscle group you need to work on is being social and charismatic.

SunnyGirly · Answer

Honestly I have no idea because I haven't done either of those but like going to places where it has the type of people you want to have fun with

Nikki1989 · Answer

Expand your social circle and you will meet someone eventually.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Go to SE Asia. It's almost impossible for a woman over 30 to find a partner there and there are plenty of decent women. And you can live like a king for not a lot of money.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Approach and engage. If she is interested you will know. If not, you get practice. In all situations always be kind and smile, even if she's rude. There are lots and lots of nice ladies out there.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Go where the women are! Volunteer Bookclubs Senior social events Enlist a single wingman Dating apps

Crazzyyworld · Answer

We all want sex and money everything els cause drama

In_Trance · Answer

That's got to be a real challenge at your age

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