Do you believe age plays a major role in dating/relationships?

[Justneedtokno]

I always flirted with the idea of being with someone that is older than me never really thought of someone being younger than me, and having a more mature mindset than me

I think my age cap is four years ahead, 1 younger maybe

Because I still want you to get some of the things that I get and I feel like you’re not going to understand certain things if you’re way younger than me

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1 y

I’ve been learning that older is not always mature and younger is not always better. Because when I was young, and I know this is a woman standpoint I always felt older or felt responsible and needed to do certain things.

[DizzyDesii]

I never understood people relating things in common to age. I share things in common with super old and super young people. But i ain't gone date anyone super old/young. Back in school, I always preferred to date someone within the same grade or one grade above/below. So for the longest, my age gap was 1-2 years up/down. Once i finished HS and college, it shifted 3-4 years up/down. However, i still prefer to date men in their 20s while I’m in my 20s. Once I hit 30 then i’ll go for more men in their 30s. I did try to date one older guy who was way above my age when I was 21. I honestly felt he was too mature for me. Plus he was 30 and had his mind made up that he never wanted marriage/kids/etc. We werent gonna work. In general, i try to avoid dating anyone of any age whose still in college. Its hard enough balancing work/school. Adding a relationship is prob too much for them so i prefer someone whose just working and not still in school.

[DizzyDesii]

But yea i dont think age plays much of a role other than which men and women are prob more fertile/have higher sperm count

[Justneedtokno]

I understand age shouldn’t play a big deal but somehow it does. I guess the maturity thing has a lot to do with it like I just said 30 meeting someone that is 27 sometime they’re not on you don’t think they’re thinking the same things you don’t think they wanna be in a real relationship

[DizzyDesii]

I think it depends on the person rather than what the majority do. I was serious about all of my relationships beginning at the age of 14. I know some people who were serious about their early 20s relationships but because it didn't go over well, they are less serious in their late 20s. I know some men in their 30s and 40s saying they won't settle down until 50. So i just go based off the individual

[silvermoon84]

My age gap is 10 years older, 6 years younger. I want someone who grew up the same time as me, because we’re at the same stage of life, we grew up with similar experiences, we get each other’s pop culture references, similar struggles, etc. Everyone I know keeps telling me that I need to date someone 15 to 20 years older than me, but I don’t relate to that age bracket at all (no offense to all of the lovely men on GAG who are 55+, but I don’t). As an older millennial, I relate better to younger gen x or fellow early millennials.

[Finchie40]

Age shouldn't really be a deciding factor when you meet someone that you have great chemistry and connection with , and you are attracted to as well. Age doesn’t determine our attraction to someone. What matters is their heart and how they treat you , how they listen to you , how they are always there for you , making you their priority the same way you should be making them. I have dated younger girls’ and older girls’ there age didn’t had nothing to do with the chemistry and connection we shared for each other. Why I feel people are only limiting themselves , when they hold age as a deciding factor , just because someone is 10 years older or younger than you , doesn’t define who they are as a person. Some of the younger girls’ I have dated were more mature than girls my age or older that I dated. Why I don’t hold age as a deciding factor when meeting a beautiful girl

[Anonymous]

I do think dating has GENERAL age rules. Guys find younger women attractive. Women find older guys attractive up to 10 years older, no more. Younger guys are more likely to consider older women. Most older women unless they feel old are not likely to date younger guys. Older guys are less likely to date older women. And guys over 40 generally do not find women over 40 attractive.

Of course people are going argue with what I just posted. And as always there are EXCEPTIONS to every rule. As I said, "general age rules".

[mandyfire98]

I mean for me personally it does because I'm attracted to older men.

[AviatorTom]

Like suze, age is not important.

[AviatorTom]

*size... fat fingers I think, mea cupla

[Berethor]

Men tend to prefer young women, so it sure play a rule in that sense, no doubt about that.

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[ProbablyClueless]

I think it does... it's a question of where you're at in life, and what each partner is looking for.

My latest ex taught me that it doesn't matter how great a connection is; if someone decides that they aren't ready for a relationship in that moment, that's the end of the conversation.

[Apple1996]

It does for me. I'd only date someone my age or younger. Millennial men just give me a ick like they've never matured so I can't do older

[Justneedtokno]

You’re absolutely right because sometimes older is not always mature

[natured]

Age will never define your maturity, education or your mindset.
I know 20 year olds that are WAY MORE MATURE in many things than a 40 year old.
Age is just a number in many things, but I would not go as far as dating someone in their early 20s because to me it's not a natural thing being in my mid 30's... but it has nothing to do with their mindset or maturity.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Really contextual to where you are in your life in fact, maths don't seem to help much here, because they are abstract values. What seems to matter more is the phase you're in, in your life. Phases like "looking for babies", "established career", "recently divorced", "wanting to marry" etc.

[MicahRaine]

I think it can but it often doesn't.

I've known so many young people who are wildly mature and so many adults 20-30 who have no idea what they're doing lmao.

[Nikki1989]

It always did for me. I would have never dated a younger man.

[RavVid]

Clearly age is a major factor in relationships.

[DannyUk2017]

It does plays a major role, either it will be "no experience" or it will be a " narcissist/impulsive type" if the age gap is too big.

[Vanny20]

Age is nothing but numbers, what matters most is the heart and what the heart has got to offer

[Walksbehindtherows]

Absolutely yes. A person should only date women their own age. I really don't understand people who date older women.

[Wiredone]

These days I don't think age plays any role

[gag6474]

il date anyone thats fertile if she's 60 and infertile than no

[Goahead76]

Age = experience
Experience = interesting

[NathanDavis]

not in mine...

[msc545]

To a point age is better.

[LiamJHayden]

For most it does.

[andy530]

I believe it can

[DrPepper12]

Of course!!

[eagle1951]

very much so