Why does everything feel so shallow and meaningless?

[KezHarris]

I constantly feel the need for deeper connection and mutual understanding but feel like people just want to use eachother etc.

[Summeroflove]

Well you’re not wrong many relationships are transnational many are also just sexual.

There are people who don’t find anything deeper because all they wanna do is have sex until the sex gets boring and their relationship lacks any other substance.

Also relationships that are based off of let’s say for instance money. The man pays, the man does all this, and only gets sex in return. Those type of relationships are doomed to fail almost every time. Because again there’s no genuine connection it’s just using someone for what you want out of them.

Another big problem is it’s Russian roulette when it comes to marriage sometimes. It’s just the first person they knock up (for men) or the first person they get knocked up by (for women) again that’s pretty scary.

Finding a genuine connection may take time for someone whose looking for that as well as deal with people who pretend to be someone they’re not. But at the end of it all it’s worth the wait.

Some people become too desperate to be in a relationship even get married and start a family. So they start it with the wrong person and end up more miserable then they ever were single.

[Finchie40]

Because life is a rollercoaster ride that makes us go through constant ups and downs , sometimes we can be up and sometimes we can be down but only you can decide what path you want to follow. Don’t depend on anyone else to make that decision for you. If you want to find love , find someone that chooses you the same way you choose them , someone that has your back the same way you have theirs. Love will only grow when you choose that someone the same way you hope they choose you , don’t depend on them to bring you happiness , Happiness should come within yourself , a loving partner will support your happiness and be happy for you , if a partner isn’t supporting your happiness and constantly bringing misery into your life , you are best to walk till he other way. We all have one life to live , so try the make the best of it best way you can , without hurting others’ in the process of doing so. Learn to remove selfishness , Social media is one of the main reasons more people have become selfish. Learn to wear your partners’ shoes the same way you hope they wear yours , it won’t always be perfect but you have a better chance finding love when you learn to do so.

[Daniela1982]

Some people just need religion to see the value of their existence. It's very hard to find in this dog-eat-dog world. It gives you the reason for living and dealing with life's problems and knock outs.

[IslaTheWitch]

people are different... it takes time to get to know them... in addition some need more time to open up than others...

[ProbablyClueless]

People my age and younger just really suck at forming personal connections. We simply aren't able to do it. Friendships, relationships, colleagues; really much of anything

I was talking with my father the other day about how I distinctly remember going through k-12 and all the bizarrely serious responses I would get from girls when I asked them out on dates. I remember being in middle school, asking a girl out to a movie and she said something like "I don't see a future with you." And I remember the way that hit me because it caught me so off guard. Like, I'm 14... of course you don't see a future with me. I barely see a future with myself. If nothing changed about me by the time I get married, I think there's a problem.

But that kind of thing was how all the girls saw dating. It was this really intense, playing for keeps thing by a group of people that took themselves way too seriously and almost never had any kind of forward momentum or sense of direction in life.

[Texaskid1]

I feel this way about American culture in general ( I don't know where you , OP , are from though). There is tremendous material growth and much potential in the US yet everything feels shallow , rehearsed. I go to work and my supervisors will say things like" It's great that you are a part of this family!!!" bla, bla, bla. If I go to a Starbucks the baristas will "Hi!!! Welcome!!!" bla, bla , bla... If go to a a restaurant the waiter is all chippy and upbeat.

Of course , it is all bullshit. They are trained to act this way and it is all part of the business. I have been thinking a lot about this lately and the whole idea of how American culture is fake and rehearsed. Very few people give a shit about you ( or me or anyone else for that matter). I also find that I am avoiding people more... I don't like going out to my favorite place anymore. I don't want to deal with the noise and the sounds and all the bullshit. I find most conversations to be bland and vanilla. Most people are not very interesting and bore me to tears.

As of late I find my self reading more in my spare time.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

A lot of people want to use each other, without even realizing it, sometimes even without bad intents. That's your role to differentiate, understand when you are being used, establish when it's genuine, assess what you want to share, with whom. This is a constant path, but it does get clearer with practice :)

I'm speculating, this deep connection can also be seen as too high of a demand for someone. Or even not understood by someone who doesn't function/relate this way with people. In any case, it all goes back to you reflecting upon the relation to people you want/need and if they are, or they are not, really wanting/needing it as well in a similar way.

[Anonymous]

You live in a fallen world and have been given tools to being heaven on earth through Jesus. But if you don't know this, and others aren't aware, then all you will see is hell on earth. I've seen miracle healings and seen the power of Jesus cast out evil from all kinds of situations, even simple ones.

[msss98]

You probably need to work on urslef for a bit, learnt to be happy alone then seek company not the other way around

[KezHarris]

That’s bad advice

[msss98]

good luck getting used and discarded then

[rienna888]

Yes I agree girl. I think people use eachother due to they themselves are experiencing pain or heartbreak. They use people like how people abuse drugs and alcohol.

[chrissykerdock]

what bothers you seem to have a lot of love inside you

[Unap0logetic_]

I feel the same way.. the toxicity has finally taken over and everyone is being forced to adapt to it.

[clampfan101]

I completely understand. But life’s not meaningless, just difficult.

[Berethor]

"The purpose of life is to end." - Agent Smith

[MrGSpotHer]

Because people a underwhelming even if you got to know them they become pointless or like a chore

[RavVid]

It's a bit like that -especially for sex and money. It is not universally so though , so good luck

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/sLLyWBySGwg

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[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You may be feeling some depression due to how people seem to treat you.

[MicahRaine]

What more is there to life if you don't believe in a higher purpose/power?

[Anonymous]

Aren't you the one who said you voluntarily give yourself to men in hookups to be used and discarded?

[In_Trance]

The way you present yourself as an individual to the rest of the world has a lot to do with it

[Jejdjdejwifujejwdi]

Welcome to life. You're starting to see the world for what it is.

[karlainsd]

At first it is with someone

[noohair]

Social media caused what you are feeling.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ur depressed prolly

[Walksbehindtherows]

You are dreaming

[eagle1951]

good question