Is it ok for ex g f to be my Ab d l care taker?

[Anonymous]

So to start, I am an ab dl. It is more so a comfort thing and less of a sexual thing. When I started dating my ex, I explained everything to her. She was hesitant to try but did. Eventually, it became more and more common and I became more into my “little”role. Over time she decided she need more of an actual man, and we broke up but I still wanted a regular mommy. We are no longer together , but we actually still lives with me but now as a “mommy”. She has a new boyfriend but basically is just my full time mommy. She’s cool with it as am i

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude, I don't know if having your ex as your caretaker like that is such a good idea honestly. Even if you're both cool with it now, that type of dynamic could get real messy real quick.

I mean, she left you to be with her new man right? So clearly she wasn't fully happy playing mommy to you before. What's to stop her from deciding again down the line that it's too much and bouncing, you know? Then where does that leave you emotionally?

Plus what about her new dude, is he 100% comfortable with his girl being the "mommy" to her ex still? Guarantee that's gotta lead to jealousy or issues between them too eventually.

And not for nothing, but keeping your ex so close like that is probably not helping you fully move on from the relationship either. Might be better to try and find another caregiver, or even try slowly phasing out that role altogether. Because if she dips again, it'll just hurt that much worse.

I'd say try talking to her, see about slowly distancing that dynamic. Just seems like a messy situation that's asking for drama down the road, ya know? Gotta think long term bro, do what's healthiest for you. Just my two cents though, you do you man.

[Asker]

Thank you for the input.

[Oliverlogan263]

You're welcome man. I get why that setup feels right for now since you've been doing it for so long. But it's good you're open to considering other perspectives too. Relationships can get messy after a breakup, even if you're still pals. Just wanna make sure you're both really happy with how things are, you know? Don't want either of you getting hurt down the line if feelings change or whatever. Maybe have an honest chat with her about any concerns, and look out for each other's emotional wellbeing too. You seem like a caring dude so I'm sure you'll figure out what's healthiest long-term. Whatever you decide, just focus on communicating openly and doing what feels best for you guys. You've got this!

[Juxtapose]

You should really move on from this before you get emotionally hurt.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Umm... ok. Well, you know, as long as it doesn't involve real children I don't see why it would be a problem as long as everyone is consenting and ok with it. I'm curious if the new boyfriend is ok with it and will let it continue if things get more serious between them.

[Asker]

Hey thanks for the input… obviously it would never involve real children. It is consenting between us.. he is aware and we have meet. The relationship between her and I is strictly more mommy /son than anything and I’m pretty sure he understand that.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Np.

That's cool that he is at least understanding but let's say they get serious and want to move in together, what happens to you?

[Asker]

I don't know.. that’s a tough thing to accept. At that point I’ll have gotten to used to having a mommy that I real don’t know how I’d feel.. but I guess I gotta just accept that nothing good lasts forever… 😔I can’t imagine there are ton of women out there who would be a mommy to me even if they were compensated

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'd imagine that would be hard to find to be honest, but I'm also sure there are fetish sites that would cater to what you are looking for.

[JustRollTheDice]

I think you're aware this is weird but if it works it works and they get a free place.

[Asker]

Yes I acknowledge that☺️

[Nikki1989]

Sorry, but you both belong in therapy.

[strateguy632]

Seems a bad idea and she won't agree