How many dates should you go on before you kiss someone?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I genuinely think that it depends, I do feel a kiss should be saved for someone whose special not just for anybody. Dating stages is really getting to know someone, seeing if you’re compatible, getting to know someone for who they genuinely are and either a connection is made or it’s not.

Every relationship moves at its own pace both people need to be communicating where one another stands with each other. Because what can happen is two people are in totally different places but assume they’re on the same page.

A kiss be it on the cheek, forehead, lips, or anywhere else should just come when it feels natural and both people are comfortable enough with each other. That makes it more special once you kiss too many people it looses its meaning

EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's a set answer or a right answer for this. It really just depends.

But definitely read the room though. The context is important.

If even as early as the first date you're getting along great and getting close to each other then I'd say it's fair to kiss then.

But if you're not getting along that great yet, take some time to get to know them better before doing anything.

A rule a lot of people use though is never on the first date, though I don't necessarily agree with it. That it's safer after at least a month or so of consistent dating, preferably even later than that. Though again I don't necessarily agree.

Overall, it's up to you to figure it out.

Unap0logetic_ · Accepted Answer

Whenever you’re ready and comfortable to do so.. things have changed drastically, dating isn’t the way it was decades ago. (It’s a lot of meaningless interactions)

TacosRAwesome · Accepted Answer

Well if I don't want to kiss them by the 3rd date I'm out because chances are ill never want to kiss them. That said, wait as long as you need.

ohsheeT · Answer

. Well for me I'm going to know I like that person before I even date them there's going to be a chemistry there's going to be a connection there's going to be an energy between us both so I mean I want to at least give one very slow soft tender kiss the very first time we go out but that's just me I want her to feel that energy between us both to become one with each other

Finchie40 · Answer

No set time limit , if you feel a great connection with that person and feel you both have a lot in common , kiss on the first date if you want to , if they feel the same way for you , they more than likely won’t hesitate

HawkPerception · Answer

There is no black and white rule. Just go with whatever you feel comfortable with whenever you feel comfortable to do so. Go with the flow.

The right guy will never judge you negatively for being into him and clearly showing your intentions.

AviatorTom · Answer

One. I usually made it a point, if the first date went well, to kiss her goodbye at the end of the date, to let her know I'd like to see her again.

V_Injector · Answer

You don't even need a date to start fucking.

Tarifa · Answer

I didn't really go on any date with my wife. We just met and kissed when we said goodbye. Saw each other the next day and been with her ever since.

For dates before that, I'd say kiss or let the other one know they're special on the second date. If nothing happens on the third date, it might never happen. Someone will have lost interest by then.

razelove · Answer

First date. If the feeling isn't there, then it isn't. Don't try to force triangle squares into square holes. There are more women out there.

I get if younger women want to hold out on sleeping together on that first date, as it will definitely trigger the buyer's remorse. A kiss isn't as serious unless you're working by prostitute rules though.

Lliam · Answer

Hell, I have almost always gotten a kiss at the end of a first date. I'm not talking about tonguing and face sucking. That comes later.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

However many you feeling comfortable with. Nothing wrong with kissing on the first date or the 10th.

Arkire · Answer

There is no specific number. Do you want to kiss them? Then get consent and do it.
First date, no date, 5th date, whatever you're comfortable with.

Most guys will wonder what's up if you go more than two dates without one, but anyone worth will stick it out if you just say you'd like to get more comfortable with them first.

More traditionally guys will expect at the end of the first or second, but again, the time table is 100% up to you.

coolbreeze · Answer

It depends if the timing is right and if the date feels right and ends well Not all dates end well and the chemistry can be off. I think the connection and chemistry is key for the first kiss.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If love is in the air & sparks really fly you will most likely smooch on the first date however nowadays I think people kiss via text message instead of the real thing.

Nikki1989 · Answer

One. I would expect a goodnight kiss at the very least.

bowenw · Answer

No rules. Just do it when it feels like the right time.

LostandFound__x · Answer

I’d say a few. I don’t want some random man’s lips on me lol.

MisterWack · Answer

If the guy is going on 4+ dates with you, that means you are really hitting it off and should probably kiss him.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Your feromones will "decide" for you when the time is right... and your brain will let you know...

Fireguy17 · Answer

it can be on the first date, 3rd or fourth or never. It depends on the chemistry between both parties, do you have the urge to grab her and kiss her, or is it like being out with your sister?

MicahRaine · Answer

I think it really depends. My ex and I never kissed. But my girlfriend and I kissed before our first official date. For context, we've known each other for over a quarter of our lives lol

Likes2drive · Answer

Generally 3 but it can happen at 2 or 5 , it really depends on them, some move fast and some take their time, I would try on the second or third date but sometimes it can take longer when you feel it’s right

slatyb · Answer

Forget should and do what you feel. Any man who judges you for moving to fast is not a man worth dating.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Not in 'till the third date Then on fourth date. 💕

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Whatever feels right. Dating is kinda all about judgement and it only gets better by trying

BCRanger10 · Answer

I say wait until after you've become "official".

Anonymous · Answer

These days you should have sex on the first date lol

jshm2 · Answer

Depends where you are a kissing them, I suppose...

RavVid · Answer

Go in for the kiss when it seems appropriate.

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

Why every time featured in the thubnails of similar comments are they featuring a black guy with a white girl? That is what I would like to know.

exitseven · Answer

it depends. i have kissed on the first date and also waited several months.

RingOfFire · Answer

As many as it takes so you don't get cooties. 😄

EtherealQueen01 · Answer

Well with my boyfriend and I it was the 3rd, we knew it was time, it’s up to each couple but you’ll know when it’s the right moment for sure 💋

ABC1x1x · Answer

If you don't kiss on the 1st there shouldn't be a 2nd

dragoblack · Answer

When one of you ask and it feels comfortable to do so

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Should be about 90 minutes into the first date.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That depends on you and the chemistry you have with that person

Anonymous · Answer

When the vibes are right. Sometimes it’s the first date, other times it might be the fifth date.

Anonymous · Answer

Kiss ar the second date, blowjob at the fourth

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Whenever you feel comfortable. ❤️

luvstoned4him · Answer

Maybe a couple but definitely not on the first

BetaBucks · Answer

For you, ten. For me 0.

Makeushiver · Answer

Often the first. Depends on how it turns out

DrPepper12 · Answer

1 or ♾️. Your call!!!

chronickol · Answer

We gotta be official first

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am open to it on the second date.

Staximus · Answer

When it feels right

Crazzyyworld · Answer

With drug, right away

foxsquirrell · Answer

It can be the first if it feels right?

zombiewoof · Answer

Follow your instincts

fuddly · Answer

That would be the first date

Irene97 · Answer

I’d say 3 dates at least.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends even more then 4 sometimes

9in_Serpent · Answer

Zero

dudeinohio · Answer

First date.

art84 · Answer

Three dates.

jahaims · Answer

No set number

Founding_Daddy · Answer

0 dates!

nawtee_me · Answer

One date

Ladsin2 · Answer

Second

Anonymous · Answer

First

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