How many dates before you kiss?

[TurbulentDan12]

If you're looking for a relationship with someone and you're taking things kind of slowly...approximately how many dates is appropriate before you kiss?

Would you kiss on the first date?

Would you want to wait until the 3rd or 4th or maybe even longer?

[Anonymous]

Navigating the dating world and figuring out the "right" time for a first kiss is definitely one of those "how long is a piece of string?" questions. Truth is, there's no one-size-fits-all answer, as it really depends on the connection between the two people and what feels right for them.

Some folks are all about that spark and might go in for a kiss on the first date if the vibes are right. It's like, "Hey, we're both feeling this, let's see where it goes!" On the flip side, others might prefer to wait until the 3rd or 4th date, or even longer, especially if they're taking things slow and really want to build a strong emotional connection first. It's like simmering a good stew, you know? Gives you time to savor the flavors before diving in.

Personally, I think it's all about reading the room (or, in this case, your date). If there's mutual interest and you're both comfortable, a first date kiss could be a beautiful start to something new. But if either of you prefers to wait, that's totally cool too. Building anticipation can be pretty exciting in its own way.

So, would I kiss on the first date? If the moment felt right and there was a mutual connection, sure, why not? But there's also something to be said for waiting until the 3rd or 4th date, allowing that tension and excitement to build up. It's all about what feels right for you and your date.

[blunty]

How many dates before a relationship is official?

The number of dates required before a relationship is formally recognized might differ significantly depending on personal preferences and circumstances. There is no set method because every person's journey is different. It may take longer for some people to build trust and compatibility than it does for others to feel a deep connection.

It's critical to be honest about your sentiments and objectives with your prospective spouse. Spend some time getting to know one another better, and when you both feel ready, the topic of exclusivity and commitment will inevitably come up. There's no rush; allow the connection to develop naturally and make sure that everyone is on the same page before making it official.

When should the first kiss happen?

Every couple has a different first kissing schedule, but it should always feel comfortable and natural. There is no set guideline or precise time; rather, it depends on how comfortable and connected both parties are. Observe the environment and one another's body language for hints. Go for it when the time is right, but always respect one another's boundaries.

How many dates before kissing?

The number of dates before kissing is subjective and depends on the individuals involved. Some may feel a strong connection early on and share a kiss after just a few dates, while others might prefer to take things slower and get to know each other better before being physically intimate. The key is to communicate openly with your partner, gauge each other's comfort levels, and respect boundaries. Let the relationship develop naturally, and when the moment feels right for both of you, a kiss can become a meaningful expression of affection and attraction. Remember, there's no rush; trust your instincts and enjoy the journey together.

Is it okay to kiss on the first date?

Yes, it's okay to kiss on the first date if both individuals feel comfortable and consenting. Some people may prefer to establish a deeper connection before being physically affectionate, while others may have an instant connection and choose to express it through a kiss. The key is to be respectful of each other's boundaries and communicate openly about your feelings. There's no right or wrong answer; it depends on the individuals involved and what feels right for them at that particular moment.

How should the first kiss with your lover be?

The first kiss with your lover should be a memorable and special moment, reflecting the emotional connection you both share. Take it slowly and allow the moment to unfold naturally. Look into each other's eyes, and if you sense the right atmosphere and mutual desire, lean in gently. Ensure you both feel comfortable and consenting, as communication is crucial. A tender and respectful first kiss can deepen your bond and set the tone for your relationship. Remember, there's no rush; let your feelings guide you, and savor the sweetness of this intimate milestone together.

[kdizzleforizzle91]

Phoenix1991 hit it on the head, I think. When you first go out with a person, you're just getting to know them as a person and don't know how much of a future you'll want with them romantically. That being said, I don't think a kiss should happen on the first couple of dates, aside from a peck on the cheek. The cheek kiss can be used for anyone, from your friend to your grandma. Until you think you may actually want to start a relationship with that person/date them exclusively, there shouldn't be any kissing, unless it's the friendly peck on the cheek. People rush too much with kissing, like they think it has to be done. Chances are that if you do it too soon, at least one person there isn't completely comfortable with it. This is only my idea of how kissing should happen. In reality, people are in too much of a hurry and rush such physical things.

[7gnat]

Great answer and sorry Jenna Jamison must of stopped by to thumbs down you-(I will +1 you)

[kdizzleforizzle91]

Thanks. :) I don't know why my answer is so bad that people had to disagree with it, but oh well.

[MrPickles13]

I think your 100% right. I aren't sure why so many disagree but I think taking it slow is always best. You can get to know each other in a mostly friend like manner. There just wouldn't be that pressure and I imagine as well on early dates it maybe hard to judge if it's a good idea.

[Anonymous]

definitely by the second date if not at the end of the first one. I've always wanted that walk up to the door with a guy, end of the first date and you had a really nice time, and he leans in to kiss you leaving you something to think about when you go to bed. Just a short one, but nice none the less. It also tells you if you have chemistry with him, and if he's a good kisser, and will be able to be there physically and mentally on the same page. All important things to find out. If the date goes poorly, no kiss on the first date, and probably no call back. However, if the date is so-so there will either be a hug, or a let's do this again some time, but not kiss.

[rebeliouse]

whats your views sex on first date?

[NHI2017]

@rebeliouse I’ve done it, My wife and I had sex before we even started dating. She use to get around

[rebeliouse]

@NHI2017 does she still get around?

[NHI2017]

@rebeliouse no, not anymore before she met me, guys ran through her left and right,
It stopped when she met me,

[PrincessBubble]

depends on how long youve known them beforehand and how well the date went and how attratced you are to each other.

me & my boyfriend kissed on the first date, we had been talking for several months before that and our first date was amazing (lots of laughter & chemistry) and we've been together over a year now.

but to be a gentleman, kiss on the 2nd date. if its longer then that she may think your uninterested.

talkign about it and being in the heat of the moment are two different situations tho.

but good luck! :)

[BlackJeep]

If there's no kiss on the 2nd date then there is no interest. If the date went well and there was no kiss then it's friendzone

[rebeliouse]

how long was it before u had sex with your boyfriend?

[TheDigitalSaint]

I've waited as long as five dates to kiss a girl. Sometimes you just don't know if you like her yet or not. It takes time to determine if there's anything more there than physical attraction. There's no point leading her on to think you fancy her if you're not sure about her personality yet.

[Phoenix1991]

1st date - no kissing.

2nd date- light peck on the cheek at the end of the night.

3rd date- 5 second light kiss on their lips.

by then, I would go with whatever pace she desires.

[kdizzleforizzle91]

BA! The only thing I'd chance is in the 3rd date, unless your last statement was included as part of that. I think that on the 3rd date, if both people are comfortable and some feeling or chemistry is there, then the kiss on the lips is appropriate. But everyone's pace is different. I just think this is what mine might be like.

[Phoenix1991]

its both apart and separate regarding to her pace, I don't really mind if she wants a passionate kiss or a light kiss, either way, its all about what she's comfortable with.

[lisabisca]

perfect

[lisabisca]

definitely give this guy the BA

[Phoenix1991]

please don't lol

[DextroShade]

If there isn't at least a kiss by the 3rd date it's time to move on.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't want to take things THAT slow!

At the end of a first date, if I feel that there is mutual attraction, I will give a girl a goodnight kiss on the lips, but no tonsil-probing tongue action at all. If I think it is too early, I will wait until the end of the second date. If she doesn't want to kiss by the end of the second date, I will probably conclude that I am wasting my time.

[ohsheeT]

Before I take her any place I'm going to kiss her because I want to know everything about her and in that first kiss that tells you so much it's just like looking into a girl's eyes

First it's the eyes then it's the kiss
And if both are good is when you are light-headed you're dizzy you're not yourself and you say hey I'm going to be doing this this weekend would you like to come with me blah blah blah or just whatever and that's where it starts

[AviatorTom]

A nice goodnight kiss at the end of the first date... let's your date know you're interested in them.

[Avicenna]

First if there is clear mutual attraction, otherwise the second one

[bermudaphoenix]

there isn't a set date or time period its the mood and the atmosphere that make the moment for me. In that second it just feels right... so I guess I just wait til I feel comfortable with him, however long or short that could take. And then there is that moment when I catch his eye, it goes quiet, and its almost feels like our faces are being pulled together by invisible magnets... and then we kiss :)

[brettb]

There should be no predetermined amount of dates that will make it socially acceptable to kiss or not. It is just a matter of how much attraction is there and a little bit of taking a risk. My current girlfriend actually made the first move to kiss me on our first date. Needless to say we were attracted to each other and enjoyed our first date very much..

[electromagnetic]

I normally wait until the 3rd date before I actually kiss someone

The first is the "get to know the person" date. This way, I can decide if I want to take a second date or not. If I kiss on the first date & I'm not interested, it sends the wrong message.

[Hidden_P]

I've only kissed two people.

One, I was trying to get over my ex and I worked with him. Really regret it. So date 1?

My ex, it was the second time we ever met haha.

*feels like a slag* promise I'm not a whore, I just love my ex and the other guy I was thinking stupidly.

[tex151]

1st date always the 1st date, unless of course you don't want to go on another date with her. If your younger then 18 I don't know couple of dates I guess, chances are you will see her multiple times in school.

I have always kissed a chick on the first date, and every single time it has gotten me a second date, and even further, the one time I didn't I never got a second date.

[Horizon]

You can start making out in 10 minutes after meeting a girl. There are no dates needed. Usually you want to put in the time (even if she is ready to be kissed) first, if you want a relationship. But don't be dogmatic about it. Forget all that number of dates thing and just gauge her comfort level and go as far as she is comfortable with going.

[natedawg0620]

Its not about a number, its about being attentive to the chemistry or lack thereof. Chemistry is immediate, that doesn't mean you go in right away, it means you play it by ear and the situation should determine that first kiss not an arbitrary number. Of there's chemistry and it doesn't happen when you want it to, you need to be patient.


If you eat dinner barely talk and play on your phone all night and go in for one at the end, expect an open palm comin in hot on your cheek 😂


Dating takes work and patience, but being in the moment and being attentive to body language and things like that will tell you when to make that move. Just like you will not be promoted to manager by the end of your first week, don’t expect things to move forward without effort and work…

[Nick1976G]

If you and the person you're dating are both feeling an attraction, go ahead and kiss on the first date. If you're trying to take it slow, look for the signals he/she is giving off. There are some people that don't want to get physical (even just kissing) until you're more established... and that's ok. There's no guidelines to say when the perfect time is for that first kiss.

Mine was during date #1... and then again at the end when I took her home. Kissing her is the most natural thing in the world now. You will know when the time is right.

[7gnat]

If you feel it you feel it. If you don't then you don't. If I have a good feeling that I don't want to kiss her there would be no reason for a 2nd date anyway. I usually know the 1st date and will kiss her. Sometimes I like the wait and enjoy drawing it out but rarely would it wait till the 3rd date or further.

[Smashingdoozy]

Kiss on the first date then you know if they're a terrible kisser and not to waste your time with someone who drools into your mouth 🤢

It sucks so much spending a few weeks getting to know someone and it's all going great and then you kiss and boom sparks gone. It's mediocre at best. Had a dude I went on a few dates with immediately shove his tongue in my mouth. 🤢 Gah damn no.

[lmea78]

I think depends on both...sometimes people are not looking for the same thing...that's the problem...can be only physical attraction, but you never know! If you are meant to be together, you will be together! :)

[Catie101]

ive only been in a relationship with one guy before (3 yrs) and I kissed on our first date. I don't know if I would do it again, it would all depend on how strong my feelings were and how comfortable I felt.

[artgorgeous]

Oh yeah? And if she wants you to kiss her on a first date (you kinda recognize that, for example), so you tell her what? - Sorry i am taking it seriously, i am not ready yet and bla bla... What will she think about you? There are no specific standards, you act upon situation. Women like when everything is upon situation (it should seem to them so, even when you've planned and set up everything).

[Jemini_Crocket]

I'd like to add my opinion. I think it depends on the moment and how you feel about each other, but it's better not to wait too long. Being physical is important (to me and it's gotta be to my partner just as much).

Ideally, the kiss would happen on the end of the first date or definitely during the second date. A simple 5 second kiss at the very least, ideally something more passionate.

[Senator754]

Generally speaking I allow the lady to show me how she is with me via her body language. While I look her into her eyes and just smile. Even then, I wait for her to make the first move. All I can do is manage my side of the street until that moment happens.

[darlanoy0510]

If there is a strong attraction to each other then first date is fine. Now if go on the date with a dude two times and he never kiss me then I don't think he is attract to me.

[rebeliouse]

what if he makes more of a move than a kiss do u take that as attraction or is it bad?

[mattclark242]

so far 3 dates and she dose not want a kiss she want someone to get her food. I never kiss a girl.

well not on the lips. I have not date that much.

so far it been a crush got nothing

a friends with benefits got a hook up

a girlfriend got her lot of food and she want a hook up.

another girl just want attention.

a girl gave me her number I call her and she shock I call her. so a phone call.

A girl/ boy old women flash me.

[Anonymous]

Second date on the lips...if she really likes you...it does't matter how shy she is...she will appreciate it.

[Reorx]

I don't just BAM! & go for it. Touch is something you start with, slowly escalate. I'd start by holding hands, touching her shoulder when conveying or explaining something etc.. There's a time where her eyes meet mine & I just know to go for it, sorry, guess thats not much help :(

[chrissykerdock]

if you kiss on a 1st date it's very likely it will end up with a blowjob... that's just nature calling... and he will get hard if you wear a short dress.

[rebeliouse]

your amazing love your confidence :D hope u sat on his face too :D its not a one way street he should kiss both sets of lips ;)

[chrissykerdock]

@rebeliouse sometimes they do... when you wear short dresses guys will get hard

[gaggleii]

No rule. If you're feeling, do it. But if it feels forced, maybe wait.

[RavVid]

I'd go in for the kiss on first. She might turn her cheek to my lips but that's OK. It is still physical contact - the longer you leave pc the harder it is to start it.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

If the attraction is strong, I'd kiss on the first date.

"Been there. Done That."

[rebeliouse]

too right girl have u ever gone all in on first date?

[Anonymous]

When you feel like kissing really, when you have the feelings there. The type of kiss depends on what you think the other is feeling too.

[Lily_lilac]

I know people like me will get judged by the society, but i’ll go with, after engaged or at least on that track… if i know we will get engaged anytime soon, then yes, that moment will be it

[Mixedmartialarts]

Hi I'm a guy and when it comes to kissing her you should beable to tell when she is ready if through the date she is holding your hand well then to me you are in a womans not going to hold your hand and not be intrested that's how I norm know or if she's not playing with her phone the whole time then that might be a good sign that she likes the date if she keeps getting close to you then to me that's a good sign too well those are my thoughts

[LovingJo]

It depends how well it goes.. If there is chemistry, then the first date, otherwise whenever feels right

[rebeliouse]

ever done more than kiss on first date? @LovingJo

[LovingJo]

Of course 😂

[rebeliouse]

you confident minx lol love it :D @LovingJo

[mobiusforniner]

there's no one size fits all to this. I've had some girls expect it on the first. I've had others freak out if I kissed the top of their head during a hug on the third or fourth.

[cyrus7]

5th date or longer, I'm not one for kissing but who knows

[Starsonfire]

For Me, Kissing is a "Make or Break" a Date kinda thing. If we're both attracted to each other, then absolutely a Kiss on the First Date... and like I said, at least you'd know if you want to go on another Date by the way she/He kissed you?

[catiecatie]

Shit I’d kiss on the first date. But depending on how it was going and if they felt the same.

[rebeliouse]

ever gone further on first date?

[catiecatie]

Nope. Never have. I’d like to be in a relationship before doing anything else.

[gallie]

3rd date with peck on the cheek. Shows you are interested but you are not trying to rush things and wanna know each other more.

[Fireguy17]

could be on the first date or third, it really depends on how things go.
There is no set number.
It will happen if and when the time is right.

[ShadezMcgee]

I usually went for it on the first date if I felt the vibe was right. The sooner you make a move the clearer your intention is.

[molonski2]

Normally , on the assumption all is going well , passionately on the first date , some take a little longer however.

[Billlewis]

I may very well be permitted to kiss her ass on the very first date, but that's usually the extent of my sexual access to her.

[exitseven]

I have kissed on the first date if it seems to be going good. I dated somebody for a few months without kissing her. I don;t know why but it just seemed scary.

[smilelots]

That my friend depends on the two of us that are together.. there is nothing set in stone. for how long it should take.. hell you may kiss when you first meet each other it happen to me once.

[MikeTheBartender]

If we haven't had sex by the third date it's not going anywhere for me. Unfortunately kisses don't mean as much as they used to for me.

[Wonderingguyy]

I usually want to know someone really really well before we kiss. So however many dates it takes

[Simslover92]

If the chemistry was there it could be the first date.

[summiter]

Many times it happened on date #1 sometimes not

[nolabels]

In recent years I've come to view kissing as quite gross, so...

[chrissykerdock]

i've kissed much older men and it wasn't bad

[strateguy632]

forehead kiss if like her, but at end first date. lip kiss third if want to continue

[Anonymous]

It'd take a LOT for me to agree to a 3rd date if there was no kiss in the first 2. And there's no way there'd be a 4th without one.

[AnusNdaPainus]

I say 3rd or 4th as well but don’t be an idiot like me if she is leaning in and facing you and tilting her head , making eye contact and smiling/laughing she wants you to kiss her

[Juxtapose]

I want her to be the type of woman that shoves me against a wall and shoves her tongue down my throat 🤤

Yeah, I know most women are not like that.

[Nikki1989]

I would expect something on the first date.

[Alex-Snow]

I guess it depends on the chemistry and their age and if there is a good vibe. But for me usually it has been a kiss on the first date

[Anonymous]

1st date is good for a kiss if in ATTRACTED TO HIM in first f-king place.

Sex on the 3rd date.

[lucky00909]

Kiss dose not depend on date it depends on feeling of each other on themselves they can kiss any time but we can't say which time and time can be bad or good but people kiss when they feel to not seeing how many date

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’ve kissed many before our first date. That being said, many whom I kissed didn’t even date me!

[AimeeKyle]

Depends on the vibe of the first date. Maybe a quick kiss to end the date either the first or second date.

[dudeinohio]

My generation almost always ended the first date with a kiss. The intensity of the kiss determined how much you were into. each other.

[Subflics]

Doesn't matter to me. If I liked her I'd wait 10 dates if she wanted. Granted, there better not be anyone else

[CallmeTheKnight]

It should be at least 2 dates and at the end of the 3rd date