Do you have any advice on how to handle these insecurities and move our relationship forward, both emotionally and physically?

[tpskchats]

Hey Dear sisters, I could really use some advice. So, I’m in a loving relationship with Vaishali, and we’ve been together for 2-3 months now after being friends for over a year. She’s been emotionally supportive, and I’ve really grown to care about her. We flirt, tease, and imagine scenarios, but here’s where I feel stuck…

I’m not super experienced in relationships, and I’m not sure how to take things to the next stage—like, we’re still at the hand-holding and cuddling stage, and I’m not sure how to transition from that to something deeper. I want it to feel natural and not forced, but I just don’t know what’s the right way to go about it.

Another thing is, I’ve been feeling a bit insecure. She’s still in touch with her exes and occasionally drinks and smokes with them. I don’t drink or smoke, so I don’t go to those hangouts, and I trust her, but I can’t help but feel insecure about how she sees me compared to them. I know she says she loves me a lot, but I wonder if my lack of experience or not being part of that lifestyle makes me seem less exciting to her.

Do you have any advice on how to handle these insecurities and move our relationship forward, both emotionally and physically? I really care about her, and I don’t want my feelings of insecurity to mess things up. Would love your perspective on this. 🙏

Updates

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Just happy to announce! We are now on the stage where our parents know each other 🙃

[Selene1600000]

Take things slowly and focus on comfort, affection, and honest communication instead of trying to “level up” physically too fast. If you want more intimacy, start with small moments like longer hugs, kissing, or telling her directly that you want to feel closer to her and see how she responds. Your insecurity is more about fear than reality, so do not compare yourself to her exes or their lifestyle because being caring, stable, and genuine is exactly why many people choose someone seriously.

[Nikki1989]

When you find yourself feeling insecure, try to identify and challenge the negative thoughts that are contributing to your feelings. You need to take control of this NOW.