Do you have any advice on how to handle these insecurities and move our relationship forward, both emotionally and physically 🙏?

[Anonymous]

Hey Dear sisters, I could really use some advice. So, I’m in a loving relationship with this girl, and we’ve been together for 2-3 months now after being friends for over a year. She’s been emotionally supportive, and I’ve really grown to care about her. We flirt, tease, and imagine scenarios, but here’s where I feel stuck…

I’m not super experienced in relationships, and I’m not sure how to take things to the next stage—like, we’re still at the hand-holding and cuddling stage, and I’m not sure how to transition from that to something deeper. I want it to feel natural and not forced, but I just don’t know what’s the right way to go about it.

Another thing is, I’ve been feeling a bit insecure. She’s still in touch with her exes and occasionally drinks and smokes with them. I don’t drink or smoke, so I don’t go to those hangouts, and I trust her, but I can’t help but feel insecure about how she sees me compared to them. I know she says she loves me a lot, but I wonder if my lack of experience or not being part of that lifestyle makes me seem less exciting to her.

Do you have any advice on how to handle these insecurities and move our relationship forward, both emotionally and physically? I really care about her, and I don’t want my feelings of insecurity to mess things up. Would love your perspective on this. 🙏

First love vibes

U sure bro?

Insecure much?

Lovely to hear

Not interested

Creep

Updates

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New news she met my parents! Good impression... But sisters pls share ur opinion 🥺🙏

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the thrill of moving a relationship to the next level while navigating the roller coaster of insecurities! It's like walking on a tightrope with your heart in your hand, isn't it? Let's sprinkle a bit of love magic here. Communication is your golden key. Sit down with your lovely lady, in a cozy and intimate setting, and share your aspirations and concerns. Open up about wanting to deepen your connection and your feelings of insecurity without making it sound like you're blaming her. It's important to frame it around your feelings and desires for the relationship.

Regarding the exes, it's all about trust and boundaries, lovebird. Express how their hangouts make you feel without demanding she cut ties. It's more about finding a comfort zone that respects both your feelings and her freedom. Remember, vulnerability is attractive; it shows strength and commitment.

Lastly, every relationship unfolds uniquely. There's no rush to match someone else's pace. Keep building on the emotional connection, and the physical intimacy will follow, feeling as natural as a sunset kiss. Who knows, with a bit of courage and a lot of heart-to-heart talks, you might just find yourself in a love story that rivals the classics. Stay true, stay open, and let love do its thing! 💘

[Anonymous]

This will ONLY come with time. If she TRULY cares about you she'll want to work with you on this. If not, then you've lost nothing because you never had anything. When you tell me she's still in touch with exes I'm naturally skeptical about this woman. Because why would she need to be in contact with them? Because YOU are enough! You need to start believing that. Whether this works out or not you need to KEEP believing that.

One irrefutable truth I've learned with women over the years. If you're genuine, you CAN'T mess things up. Because If she didn't RESPECT the real you, it was never going to work out anyhow.

The gut feeling i get from this is you're one of her toys. I would say have a talk with her but I think that's going to result in your humiliation because I don't think she really even cares about you. I would stop worrying about ruining this relationship and treat it as practice. Treat her with respect, but DEMAND respect back and let the chips fall where they may. Because I think they're going to anyhow.

And the next time you have a relationship demand respect from the start. And know your boundaries at all times. Know what you're willing to tolerate. This is healthy for both genders. Believe it or not, we teach people how to treat us.

Good luck man. Let us know how it comes out.

[Asker]

I will do so... Though can u once look at reply I sent the guy who commented before to get some more insights... I'd love out if u fo

[BetaBucks]

100% of my experience seeing girls still in touch with their exes is they're going to bang them eventually. Obviously a bunch of female liars will pop up here to talk about how they don't do that, but you gotta remember that this site is almost exclusively people lying to push an agenda and manipulate askers. You should even consider me a liar, just to be cautious.

My advice is to put her in the situationship category, or to walk away. If you go with the first suggestion, just make sure not to commit to anything serious with her, and just accept the fact that she's going to be swallowing other dude's cum whenever she feels like it, so you have to use protection.

You'll probably ignore me, figure out ways to rationalize it (with the help of a few pink account sociopaths here) and then have a stress-filled, humiliating relationship that ends in misery for you. Just remember this comment though. It will help you learn a lesson once all the pain subsides.

[Asker]

Thanks bro...
I understand.
Will keep in mind.

Though I do have a follow up:
She has been in toxic relationship and was raped once... I feel her... She was in heavy depression with her ex.
It took her 10months to get over him.
And now the way things are moving I think she might be genuine.

Like trauma makes u sympathize... But blind trust is also a factor.

Seeing this what do u suggest?

Thanks a bunch for ur time man! I appreciate it🙏🤓

[BetaBucks]

You react this way because you are a good person. A few things to be aware of. Some people experience trauma and then take it out on the good people around them. Some people experienced trauma and toxic relationships because they, themselves, are toxic. Some people even lie about trauma as a way to manipulate the good people around them. I don't know her and can't suggest she fits in any of these categories. But it's something to keep in mind.

Another thing to keep in mind, is that if she went through toxic relationships, she should be even more willing to be good to you, instead of being toxic to you. Which she is being. If I went to drink and smoke with exes, my wife would divorce me. Especially if it was one of the toxic ones. Instead, your girl is creating another toxic relationship. And will almost certainly describe you as a toxic abuser if you stand up for yourself in any way. So, if you bail, be clever about it. "I'm just not ready for commitment to a woman as great as you" kind of thing.

[BetaBucks]

And you're welcome, by the way. I'm happy to chat as much as you want about it. You can even DM if you need.

[Asker]

Thanks man!
Got it I'll think it over deeply... Will have to stop thinking of having a future with her and see how things flow 🥲🙏

[Asker]

Absolutely will do bro!

[BetaBucks]

Right on man! Good luck to you 🤝

[Asker]

Aye aye *MAJOR MAJOR MAJOR* 🫡