I have been with my husband Matt for 5 years. Yes, I have been cheated on in past relationships but I truly don't think this is why I'm insecure. It's more of a "I'm so wildly attracted to my husband that I think every woman wants him" type of thing. I literally know full well that he isn't doing anything and it's just my insecure brain telling me that all these women are trying to bang him.
So I've actually been doing loads better lately after doing so much self reflecting and basically just coming to terms with the fact that this is literally all in my head. But some issues sparked up recently because my husband was just asked to switch departments and now he works with a girl named Molly who drives me mental. I don't trust her, though I have reason if you go based off her reputation alone. With that said, again, it's my fucking head. This girl has done nothing wrong, to me. I know that she has definitely been the "other woman" with at least two of my husband's coworkers but she has NEVER wronged ME or my husband. So again, this is all insecurities and I don't know how to manage it.
I did speak to my husband. Our communication is top notch. So I expressed my concerns and told him "hey, listen, I know it's not you or Molly and it's literally just my head but I feel I need to tell you that I'm getting a bit paranoid for no good reason and I'm worried about her swooping in and trying to be the other woman for you." He is so understanding, he truly is. There's never any arguments. He found a way to ease my mind and it actually has helped drastically but there's still that little voice in the back of my head sometimes that says "well maybe she is trying something and he simply isn't telling you". It's so stupid and I know it's all me. I'm not going to bring it up with him again BECAUSE it's all in my head and I know this. But do you guys have any tips on how to combat this in a healthy way? Thank you so much in advance.
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