What are ways to overcome insecurities in relationships?

[Anonymous]

I find myself feeling not good enough sometimes in my relationship and I don't know why. I feel like I have low self esteem. I used to not feel this way in the beginning of the relationship, I don't know what happened. I find myself getting insecure when it comes to other women. I don’t want to feel this way anymore, I want to overcome it, it’s affecting me and my relationship.

[jorfan3]

Is it possible that your PARTNER is making you feel more insecure about yourself?

I dated a guy once I basically worshipped when I was 13, and didn't realize until I was reflecting in my 20's that he gaslighted me, he made comments about other girl's appearances in front of me, he asked why he couldn't get other girls. He made me into an insecure monster. He was very narcissistic, and made me seem crazy.

Is it possible he is causing you to doubt yourself and your value in the relationship?

[malwins]

Lol i experiencedbit too they r crszy

[kylee2437]

I’m getting myself into therapy for this exact reason. A lot of insecurities have to do with your own mind and sometimes it’s just something a partner can’t help you with. It does help to have a partner that does know how to communicate, so make sure that you do have a supportive partner

[-Mad-]

Why are you insecure!
You look amazing, you got the face and body!
Women are weird, you’re never satisfied with anything.
The only thing I didn’t like about you is your tattoos and thats it.
You got a real woman’s body and you should be proud of it.

[kylee2437]

@-mad- well thank you but it’s deeper than that lol I have trauma from a different relationship that left me feeling a bit insecure when pursuing relationships

[-Mad-]

Oh sorry to hear that

[Itsnotperfect]

If that's the case, I think I'm confident to give you the sense of security you want. I'm serious. Kelly, if we can, we can send messages to each other, get to know each other as much as possible, and care for each other as good friends. I look forward to hearing from you if you like.

[Guy13]

Insecurity commonly creeps in the longer we are in Relationship. Sometimes, we start comparing, keeping lists, and totaling what he/she did.
That kind of thing can eat at one’s insides. And, if the other person points that out…and we already kinda feel that way…it really hurts. Sometimes…. that is

when 👻 👻👻 happens. If you are comparing and bringing it in yourself then get over it. If the partner is beating you down pointing out everything then get over him…🤷🏻‍♂️

[lightbulb27]

figure out why the change. likely, communications and he isn't protecting your feelings/emotions well. Then correct the communications.

sometimes things are rooted in our childhood... those wounds show up when we get into relationships.

you could talk to a professional/therapist, watch videos, read books, write, meditate, talk to trusted friends, etc.. observe yourself, but it's hard to see ourselves sometimes and our friends don't know all that impacted us.

[FriendlyCanadianGuy]

Insecurities are your own doing. If your partner is putting you down and destroying your mental well being, leave.

My insecurities with my ex girlfriend was due to her keeping in contact with all of her exs. Once I glances at her phone and they were talking about times they had sex (right beside me).

If your insecure about yourself, don't get into a relationship until you find that confidence.

[TJ1892]

Your partner is supposed to give you that confidence and make you feel like the best.

[Anonymous]

Can I have a little bit more information on your situation in order to help. Do you live together? Is there an age difference between en you guys? Is your insecurities effecting him? Why do you feel so insecure? Is it something you seen with him and another woman?

[Opinion Owner]

Did something happen for you to sudden feel insecure compared to the beginning of the relationship? Have you guys been together a long time? A little bit more information would go a long way in order for me to help and give advice.

[TJ1892]

It's hard to say, perhaps it comes from a previous experience in either life or relationships that's left you with the trauma of always questioning yourself even sub consciously every day. My advice would be, your partner is with you FOR A REASON. 💯‼️ If they didn't think you were great they woudnt be there! I hope you resolve it anyway, all you can be is the best you possible.

[Luciferstar]

My girlfriend used to feel that in our relationship, I think what we did was communication and we gave each other assurity whenever she felt like that

[FilmGuy93]

It could be that you haven’t taken time to really think about what you contribute to relationships, as you have gained more experience with dating.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The key is too quit focusing on other women and comparing yourself to others.

It only robs you of your peace of mind. Focus on yourself.

[BJP21]

Do not give in to your inner sabature it will just cascade into anything in your relationship. Id focus on the positive no matter how simple it is.

[rienna888]

Just don’t give a fuck, you could also hang out with other guys. Don’t put your soul into the relationship.

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

Talking about it and actually believing your partner and take him serious when he voices his opinion on you.

[Luopio27]

Would you acept his insecurities? If so, maybe tou teo have common ground.

[Anonymous]

maybe Google ‘anxious attachment’ this may be the sort of thing you’re dealing with?

[Anonymous]

Don't do relationship...
Problem solved

[Asker]

So I should be single? We live together, so that makes it difficult for me.

[Opinion Owner]

You're not made for relationship...

Do fuck buddies.

You do relationship just for pleasure yourself

[Asker]

Why am I not made for relationships? Cause I’m insecure?

[Opinion Owner]

Yup and this insecurity won't leave you soon

[Asker]

😕😕

[Opinion Owner]

Aww baby you ok?

[In_Trance]

believe in yourself

[Anonymous]

Stay single.