Should I wait or just delete his number?

[Anonymous]

So I met him online had a great first date but due to scheduling conflicts we couldn’t meet up for our second date till 7 weeks later. The week we were ment to meet I heard nothing from him and told him I would be using the tickets as the days he had said he was free had passed. He didn’t read my messages so the following evening I sent a message saying it was nice to get to know him and from his silence I can only assume he is no longer interested and it would have been nice if he had let me know as I had been looking forward to seeing him and wishing him the best. He then responded straight saying sorry he had a lost his job and all the best. I responded that I was sorry to hear that and if he had told me I wouldn’t have sent that last message and it’s more important then our date and said sending a big hug. Once again he left it unread and didn’t respond, reading it a few days later. I do like him but understand that with his job lose dating is probably the last thing he would want to do.

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1 mo

Thanks for all your replies, unfortunately he has definitely lost his Job , he posted about his last day at work but not that he had been made redundant which is understandable. He is still watching all my updates which sends a confusing message. I have deleted our chat

[Hawaiikai]

I don’t know about deleting it, but I wouldn’t just bother until he reaches out. What you are doing is actually very good in my opinion. You’re coming off as very gentle and you’re just being grown and wanting to know the honest truth, but if someone like this is gonna keep standing you up and giving you the runaround and can’t be straight up, I would wish them well and good bye. Honestly, I would leave him on read too that’s just in my opinion tho. It’s 2024 about to be 2025 who isn’t on their cell phones all the time? Even just to send A QUICK message reply. That’s the realistic part that needs to be taken into consideration. I would be so over it though. for me if I was in your position, I would get out now and just move on before you might just fall in more if it goes further, and he might just keep on doing this in the later future. You got this. But yeah, if you want to delete it, delete it 🤣🤣 I hope you don’t remember his number by heart so there’s no way you would be able to reach him. 🤣 Every time a guy gives me his number I literally will save it but try not to look at the actual number so if anything happens, I’ll just delete the number and there will be no way for me to contact them lol. I tend to do some drunk texting sometimes.

[Asker]

That is true, your right a quick message or even voice. I guess I was just thinking the shock of losing his job and that I over reacted. I have gotten myself back out there and now one of my first questions is what is your communication style

[Caroline91]

I think you are way overthinking it all. You had ONE date. It's not unreasonable for him to not want to start something new, given his circumstances. He may come back around when things settle down for him and he is back at work. Delete his number, don't delete his number. He still has yours.

[Asker]

I did thing to myself we only had one date but in the time in between plans where made , photos where shared of what we were up to of events we had attended which made it feel a lot more we had been talking for 2 months

[Asker]

Also deleting his number he will no longer see my profile picture or see my status closing the door completely

[Caroline91]

Well, then go a head and leave the door open. I probably would since it sounds like you really like this guy. And, I hear you that there was some additional online interaction besides the one date. And he's obviously a good enough guy not to ghost you. However, if a guy is interested in continuing something, he finds a way to do it. For whatever reason, including the job loss, it appears he does not want to take things further at this point. All you can do is leave the door open and move on for the time being. Good luck. I wish you the best.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

My read on this is that this guy is going through some major stuff right now, and doesn't have the time/energy/resources to be in a relationship with you. And also, he probably doesn't want to be dating anyone while he's dirt poor, which I guess he now is.

It's possible that he's lying about losing his job because he wants to get away from you, but that's probably not the case.

I would give him the space he seems to want, but leave the door open. Tell him you understand that he's going through stuff, and maybe doesn't have a lot of emotional energy for anything else right now, but if he would like to go on another date with you once he's settled again, you're open to the possibility. Then go on with your life.

If he asks you out again in a few weeks or a few months, great. If he doesn't, it will be disappointing but not devastating.

Good luck.

[ManOnFire]

I think you posted on this once before, but anyway at this point, let him go. It's very possible that he really did lose his job and he went into a complete down spiral and that's why his communication went dead, but sometimes some people really are shitty enough to make up a story just to get you to go away. I'm not saying he is doing that, but I am saying he could be. It's no different than people who fake their deaths.

Maybe he'll text again at some point, but you shouldn't wait or hope for that. Just give him the space he needs.

[Asker]

Hi no this is my first time posting just created this account as well 🙂

[ManOnFire]

Okay. Well, just leave him be for now.

[TrueConfection]

My opinion is delete and move along. I had a similar experience (except he was dealing with an ill family member) and months later, the guy wanted to rekindle things. I liked him a lot, but I wasn't ready to wait around. I'm glad I hadn't waited because that's when I met the man I married.

[AviatorTom]

I'd let him go, but why not keep his number? Don't delete it. Maybe he'll contact you in the future, maybe he won't. No problem keeping his number on your contacts list.

[Avicenna]

I’d talk to him about it and see what he thinks

[Truthatanycost]

Block, delete and remove. He is wasting your time and playing games. Regardless of what happened in his life, his response was not to communicate with you about it in any way, shape or form. This life is extremely precious and so is our time. Do not waste it on anyone!

[Flower7]

Delete. Sounds like he's no longer interested... either because of losing a job or for some other reason. Either way, it's not worth it to try to keep contacting him.

[Asker]

I haven’t tried to contact him since , I found it a bit confusing that he is watching my status updates so wasn’t sure if I should delete

[D_Bone_Steak]

I hope you get pregnant by this guy and not get any child support for it so that you'll calm your titts and think about the bullshit you're fucking with.

This question is why I think most modern women are probably better off with cats and boxed wine.

Want to touch my pussy?

[Asker]

I’m confused by your comment, I have been clam and left him alone

[strateguy632]

You were impatient. He thought you broke up. So delete his number.

[Asker]

I probably was impatient because the tickets where time sensitive

[WhitneySnow]

He’s really depressed and probably not interested in dating right now, but you can keep in contact and maybe you guys will get a second chance when things turn around for him

[WhitneySnow]

Update: he still likes you but he feels like he can’t be a good boyfriend for you without a job

[Squishyfeet]

It sounds like he was trying to let you down easy. You don’t owe him anything or to tell him you were looking forward to getting to know him - egotistical guys eat that up

[Asker]

I’m the one who ended it after he didn’t confirm our date to which he then replied straight away saying sorry and that he had lost his job. That’s when I got back to him and said sorry to hear that if I had know I would have sent the message ending it

[SmileyLady]

very sorry, but it sounds like he’s not interested. The way to go about it is to move on. He may come back. They usually do if you leave them alone.

[DtMe89]

If you think he's important enough to wait around on, then wait. But, remember, we don't age, backwards.

[Straight2thepoint]

Delete and that rush of mixed emotions... yeah that's called relief.

[Anonymous]

I feel he ghosted you. Better to delete his number. If he's gonna text you after let's say 2 to 3 mlmths after, ghost him back and never take him back.

[RedInnocent69]

Hard to say. Maybe check in with every week or two to see where he’s at

[Nikki1989]

Delete, move on.

[Alex-Snow]

I think it is time to move on

[noohair]

Wait for what?

[Open-minded99]

Delete