Asking me to delete his number?

Question

I broke up with my ex boyfriend (call him Kyle)2 months ago. Our relationship ended because basically my ex before Kyle (call him Joe) kept trying to get involved in our relationship, even though I NEVER speak to Joe - and have no feelings for him at all anymore. When I say he was getting involved, he'd tell Kyle's friends that he was still in love with me, and he thinks there is a good chance of us getting back together. This hurt Kyle even though I told him that I only want him. I broke up with Kyle because he would constantly go on about it and I told him we just had to ignore Joe, Kyle is my future. But he wouldn't leave it. And I know that breaking up with Kyle, he might think I'd gone to Joe... but I've spoke to him about it and he knows I have nothing to do with him.  Kyle wanted to get back together and I said I wasn’t sure what I wanted but I still love him.  Now he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I text him the other day and he asked me to delete his number to stop me from contacting him again, why has he done that?

nordique · Accepted Answer

He doesn't trust you.

Unfortunately, he didn't take you for your word, which he should have.

He just has some trust issues, and you breaking up with him didn't help at all...not your fault, its his issue and its sad to hear that he simply couldn't deal with his insecurities.

But you breaking up with him probably only hurt him more, and in his mind, "proved" to his irrational, jealous side (a guy really likes you if he gets jealous), that he was "right" and that "Joe was telling the truth".

So, he feels betrayed, and he's real hurt. Its really sad because its not your fault...Kyle did it to himself by not getting over his insecurities.

If you really love him still, you should try your best to prove that. You need to reassure him he can trust you, and that Joe is just a homewrecker.

But the crux of his deal, is you didn't reassure him enough. Maybe there was something you could have done in the past that you didn't do that got on his nerves? I don't know, as I don't know how your relationship functioned. But if Joe is causing sh*t, that's maybe something you should have worked on to protect your relationship with Kyle.

So there's things you both needed to do, he has some serious insecurities, and maybe you should have reassured him at certain points.

But it seems he's acting primarily out of emotion right now. Breaking up with him didn't help, and if you really loved him, maybe you shouldn't have done that. It doesn't send the right message to a guy. That's on you.

But his own insecurities are on him.

Its always sad to see when, what seems like an otherwise good relationship, gets destroyed by all this other bullsh*t. Guys won't always admit it, but deep down they can be saps, and some dudes just need that reassurance. Perhaps you didn't give him that; and that might be the answer to your question.

sinful1620 · Accepted Answer

He told you he doesn't want anything to do with you. He then asked you to delete his number to stop you from contacting him ever again.

His intentions are pretty clear, he doesn't want anything to do with you, and he doesn't want you to contact him ever again.

hazeces · Answer

Well here's the thing, your now ex(Kyle) was probably, mad that  you never took manners to your hands and went up to Joe, and tpld him in front of others to stop interfering in your relationship. Kyle must feel that if you didn't do that, then you obviously still got feelings for Joe for not sticking up to him, and putting him in his place. As to Kyle's friend hearing this, he (Kyle) probably felt like a total fool, because this guy was going around telling his (Kyle) own friends he (Joe) still had feelings for you. You can't let things like that happen to you, you have to go and put Joe in his place, otherwise, he's never going to stop, and is going to keep doing it on purpose.

Wlad14 · Answer

He is pronbably saying this out of anger. It should nt matter ti you if you know that you dont' want him back. now do you want him back or not? if yes give him some time to cool off if not just go on you way and delete his number