Is it appropriate to share personal stories about past relationships or traumas on a first date, or reserved for later stages of relationship?

[Being_a_good_Indian]

[HawkPerception]

Despite what everyone is saying here, there is no "one size fits all" rule for relationships. Some people like sharing early and some prefer to keep things to themselves.

I personally value honesty and transparency and I have shared all the negative aspects of myself and past relationships when going on a first date. When I do so, it usually encourages the girl to share hers as well as long as she feels comfortable to do so. It has worked for me every time because of the type of girls I tend to date and is also a likely effect of me being who I am.

I personally think the more you share, the better. If they can't handle listening to you, then it's likely they lack empathy and aren't a good fit for you anyways.

[ManOnFire]

I'm not sure I'd say it's inappropriate to share them, but it would definitely be premature. I would wait until I get to know the person a little more before diving quite that deep.

[hippio]

Don't share your trauma with anyone people do change and use your own traumas against you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not a good idea

[AviatorTom]

The first date should be about learning about each other, typically at a high level, and becoming comfortable with each other. Past relationships and personal stories are usually saved for later dates.

[MrOracle]

Especially on a first date, you should be focused on each other, NOT on past relationships. If you talk about past relationships, people will assume that you aren't over that relationship and shouldn't be dating.

[ArrowheadSW]

I have dated women in the past who would tell A LOT about their past on the first date. Actually I didn't find it to be off-putting as I am a bit of a "listener" anyway. But overall it is probably best to not bring that up on a first date and better reserved for later.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I think it depends but if we don't know each other previously then I think it's fine but I think people need to have some common sense. Don't ramble or vent about that in a first date, it's fine to bring it up but it shouldn't be your main taking points

[BonzoInBitburg]

Never talk about past relationships unless asked and even then be vague. Less history and more mystery is the rule for datingre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[SixFootSexy]

Depends, do you want a second date or no?

If not, keep that trauma under wraps until it can be shared after mutual attraction is established otherwise you'll probably never get into a healthy relationship.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Horrible idea on a first date. Don't be that person who constantly talks about their ex on a date. Only a good idea months down the road when she shares her experiences and asks about yours.

[Nikki1989]

The past should always stay in the past.

[Ironic_Method]

I know it's considered a faux pas, but I don't mind it. As for my own, I don't really share unless asked. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[DrPepper12]

It's fine!!! If you don't want a second date!

[morganherrel]

use common sense dude

look at your audience and read the room

[noohair]

On the first date, never. On the second date, never. Everything should be positive.

[NathanDavis]

lmfao... and what for?

[RageBabe]

On the first date? No, no way.

[Avicenna]

Absolutely not

[LiamJHayden]

Why share at all?