Commitment issues?

[ilovejasonkf]

I have been seeing someone for 6 months now. He said he wants to commit naturally. I was telling people about him but he says its no ones business. He made a comment there is no label with us because we don't live together. I asked him were do i stand? His response was he's scared to be with me, hell get hurt, and he didn't care what we are long as we're in each other's life. Does it sound like I'm wasting time just being on outside looking in?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ouch, that sounds like a really tricky situation you're dealing with. After 6 months, I can see why you'd want a little more clarity on where you stand with this guy. The way he's responding is definitely concerning.

The fact that he says he's "scared to be with you" and he "doesn't care what you are as long as you're in each other's life" - that's a major red flag when it comes to commitment. It seems like he's trying to keep you at arm's length, without fully investing in the relationship.

And the whole "it's no one's business" comment about not telling people? That feels really dismissive and like he's trying to avoid any real accountability. Like he wants to keep things casual and undefined.

I get that some people have a harder time committing than others, but after 6 months, you deserve to have a better sense of where you stand. If he's flat-out telling you he's scared of getting hurt, that's a sign he may have some serious commitment issues.

At this point, it does kind of sound like you could be wasting your time, just hoping he'll come around. You've made it clear you want more commitment, and he's resisting. Ultimately, you have to decide if you're okay with that uncertainty, or if it's time to move on and find someone who's ready for the same level of commitment you are.

Whatever you choose, don't sell yourself short. You deserve someone who's excited to be with you, not someone who's scared and noncommittal. Trust your gut on this one. Wishing you all the best!

[Intheclouds00]

That sounds like some bullshit to me. Is he this hippie beatnik enlightened in the other areas of his life?

[Pterodon]

Sounds flaky to me. I don’t believe in commitment issues. When Miss Right comes along all those issues disappear