Maybe it’s just a lot the boys my age but I’ve noticed they’re insanely dry texters and it’s just a huge automatic turn off for me. I always do my absolute best to engage in conversations especially at first when I’m trying to get to know them but they rarely ever return the same energy, their responses are usually short and they rarely ask me any follow up questions if I mention anything about myself
Because females’ do the same shit , us guys’ don’t waste are time texting a girl that doesn’t text us back the same. Most females’ are bombarded by guys’ texting her constantly , if she is an attractive girl , if I text a girl I am interested in , and she barely responds to me back , I will start to walk away and no longer waste my time with her , because she is more than likely investing her time into someone else , I will only. continue texting a girl that does the same for me , it needs to go both ways or it’s not going to last long between us period I won’t hate her, I just know she isn’t interested in me the same way I am interested in her. When a girl is interested in me , she will invest a lot of her time into me and the communication goes both ways between us.
Actually a good question. Text messages, or SMS, are meant to be purely functional. My wife also had in the beginning some difficulties in understanding that the sms messages I sent were not meant to be flirty or to engage into longer text conversations. She felt as if I was angry or not willing to talk, which was nonsense of course. To have a deeper conversation, a plain phone call, or letter, or even a plain e-mail, or still better, a real encounter, seem more adequate to me. Sure one can be friendly or at least polite in text messages.
One of the best pieces of (dating) advice I've ever received, is that texting should be treated as a means to get together in person, and basically nothing else in regards to a relationship. Trying to have a relationship over text is soul-sucking, and women especially constantly try to project a deeper meaning into anything as simple as an affirmative thumbs-up emoji or "Ok."
I've consistently stood out from my age group in any given workplace almost entirely because I can actually carry a conversation with people. The digital lifestyle is decimating society.
Because I never want to be texting anyone to get to know them. It is unorganic when we can carefully craft who we are through the phone. I will be boring and to the point.
If they want to know me and I them, we will actually have to do things together, spend time with each other, talk, and work through the inevitable awkwardness of getting to know a potential partner.
When I was your age, I would try very hard to be active and engaging, and its honestly a waste of time and energy for something that, while in the real world, is not manifesting itself physically. It is a message on a screen.
Not gender based in my experience, also, there has to be interest in text-based communication in the first place, if not, then it's just a task among other tasks. No one likes tasks, except the personalities obsessed with todo lists maybe?
Could be just the guys you are messaging. For myself. The only time I am abrupt in my responses is when I am busy - which I do tell them - or just really am not interested in engaging with the woman messaging me … particularly after I expressed my lack of interest towards them too.
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Because men don’t need to talk as much as women. I honestly don’t see how women can have so much to talk about. Not only that the more responds she just keeps going on. A man will text a lot of he’s trying to get w you whether in an actual relationship or just for sex, it’s all part of the game. Once he achieves that it’ll go back to the same. Just the same as women. A lot of women may swallow in the beginning but once she lands her man a lot of times they stop swallowing.
It is the problem solver complex. Men in general tend to be more to the point. Women tend to be more conversational. I have a female friend for whom I need to be prepared to give three hours minimum when she wants to chat. I've never spent more than a few minutes on the phone with a male friend.
I often get asked questions that require short answers. Like "do you live alone?" "What is your job?" "What kind of movies do you like?" That said I don't want a text based relationship. I want a real relationship, let's go out on a date. If it goes well we can try another; if it doesn't we can move on. Simple, easy, effective.
I think women are dry texters. I respond to all messages, texts, questions. But women don't respond to my messages, questions. Family, friends and relatives say that it's my mistake that I don't know how to socialize? how to make friends? how to find a girlfriend? I am trying my best to find a girlfriend. But I don't understand what's wrong with girls?
They are probably texting many other people at the same time and aren't putting any thought into any of the conversations. Hopefully when you meet someone that's really into you they will give you what you want.
I don’t understand people that do that. I usually only talk to 1-2 people at a time max to see where things go because talking to so many people at once it’s hard to really get to know anyone so kind of defeats the whole point
Yeah, age might be a thing. But also maybe they are simply not interested. You might change your mind about this once you receive a love bomb novel (hooray, I learnt a new word!) from a guy you are not interested in.
I know it's difficult but try to find men who are engaging in the conversations because the dudes you are talking about are probably looking for sex instead of a relationship
One of the worst things you can do to keep a woman attracted is engage in long meaningless text w/ women. I teach guys one text per day should be the max unless you're specifically setting a time to meet.
To me texting is like an outline, hit all of the points and you are done… I would much rather have a conversation on the phone or in person so I can laugh with the person instead of at what they wrote.
They're boring people, there's nothing going on in their head, no personality or sense of humor. Women can be just the same though, unable to carry a conversation or take it anywhere interesting.
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