What’s the point of dating if you will never be any woman’s dream guy?

[Anonymous]

Like there’s no possible way for MOST men to meet all of a woman’s preferences…so inevitably that means they will be settled for. I dunno about you, but I only want to be a woman’s first choice, not her consolation prize…

[Effably]

What do you think makes a dream guy? Or girl?

Even if we skip the important bits like talking, enjoying each other's company and all and only focus on looks.

Now I am not saying you watch porn! But I reckon you have heard of it. If your ideal girl has... thin shins, big thighs, pilate princess butt, hourglass waist - the chinese type where they remove some of the ribcage to make it smaller, big breasts, one of those uppity noses, dimples, lets for a kicker say you only like redheads and also want them to have buffed arms so she can carry You. In this elaborate hypothetical if you were to be on some adult site, would you search up all that, knowing it probably exists, or would someone attractive in an appealing context be the goal and outright more appealing?

For almost everyone, that ideal is dropped so quick that me making one up seems silly and wasteful. Because all of that doesn't amount to as much as liking the same weird thing or being able to look at someone with desire and make them feel both wanted and comfortable.

You are in this false narrative of perfect. Of needing to be a retired lawyer, ceo, doctor who is now a veterinatian for sick puppies - and just 23 years old too! When in reality, you working a helpdesk and cheekily offering some from and under desk support can go just as far. Or ask for it! Lots of people are supportive minded!

People don't even look for whatever idea of perfect you have with perfect rizz etc. So stop deluding yourself and realize that to someone you being awkward but pushing through it because she is worth it to you is going to be the most endearing thing in the world.

[Anonymous]

You never know if a woman even likes you for certain man. Or whether your just one big game to her. You date accepting this possibility or you simply don't date. Why do you think so many men don't date today. They know there's nothing in it for them.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

My fiancé is my last choice, that’s how he became my fiancé. You could be a woman’s first choice if you want to, but don’t be surprised if she leaves you for her second choice.

[Asker]

@xhopelessromanticx I don’t mean first choice as in the first person she started dating but more as first choice as in she finds me more attractive than any other man

[ChiTown33]

What do you mean "last choice" @XHopelessRomanticX? Like your latest choice (hoping to be your last , as in final choice?) Or do you literally mean he was your last choice. Like "oh, alright I'll give him a try".😂

[XHopelessRomanticX]

@ChiTown33 Last choice as in I don’t need to look anymore. I have found the one my soul loves.

[Nikki1989]

Wow, insecure much?