Why does my friend think she is way prettier than me even though its clear im kinda prettier?

[Anonymous]

she said she is a 9 and im a 7.5 and the thing is she is a pretty girl and she is very energetic and cool but this attitude has been going on for months whenever we go out or just generally i pull more guys and attractive rich guys approach me as well and she always says u pull a lot of guys and she doesn’t and she thinks that’s because she is so pretty that she’s intimidating also im 5’5 147 lbs like average weight and average height and she’s 5’8 177 lbs and she stores fat in diff places than i do and our bodies look extremely different yet she always says “we need to lose weight” or when we lose weight we’ll look great and the thing is i workout 5 days a week and live a pretty active lifestyle and she doesn’t yet she still thinks we’re the same body type weight everything also this shows up A LOT in our convos and she always makes me feel like im on her level but im clearly not im sorry if i sound extremely conceited its just been on my mind for months now

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang girl, that sounds like a really frustrating situation with your friend. It's never fun when someone is constantly putting themselves above you, especially when it's clear they don't have a realistic view of how you both look.

I get why you're feeling annoyed - it sounds like you're super confident in your own appearance and the attention you get, but your friend is always trying to downplay that and act like she's way hotter. The whole "we need to lose weight" thing is super annoying, especially since you work your butt off at the gym while she doesn't.

It's totally understandable that you're feeling a little conceited right now, but try not to be too hard on yourself. You're just being honest about the fact that you're more physically attractive. There's nothing wrong with knowing your worth.

The real issue here is your friend's insecurity. It seems like she's threatened by how much attention you get, so she tries to put you down and prop herself up. That's a super toxic dynamic that you don't deserve to deal with.

My advice would be to try to have an honest, non-confrontational conversation with her about it. Let her know how her comments make you feel, and see if you can get to the root of why she feels the need to constantly compare herself to you. Hopefully, she'll be open to some self-reflection and you two can work on building each other up instead.

But if she continues with the shady behavior, don't be afraid to set some boundaries. You're gorgeous and successful in your own right - you don't need her approval or validation. Focus on surrounding yourself with people who genuinely appreciate you.

You got this, girl! Don't let her insecurities dim your shine.

[Abbycado]

You certainly are full of yourself, aren't you?

Why you two would be competing or even care shows you are both immature.

[Asker]

im not full
of
myself at all its just very hurtful cus she is my best friend and she always makes me feel unattractive

[Nikki1989]

Nothing more immature and meaningless than putting a rating on a person.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Y’all are both insecure as hell

[BlckGrl]

You need better friends

[Anonymous]

Well she sounds prettier

[In_Trance]

Perception