Is this basically him losing interest or playing games at the age of 47?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy, that I’ve been talking to for months, he says he’s gona call when he’s gona call, texts me everyday since talking a day never went by where we haven’t talked etc. he calls me all the time at certain times. Same time. Recently phone calls has been lasting only 30mins or 20mins and not an hour. It’s starting to make me guess. I feel stupid for even asking. When we first started talking he would always be concerned if I was really interested, always telling me he doesn’t wana look stupid if I’m not that interested to let him know. Always asking me these things. I would always reassure him. But now this is happening to me where I’m questioning things now. I don’t know what to think? I know age doesn’t define maturity, but dang, I’m losing hope with men these days

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a real tough situation you've got there, girl. The way this 47-year-old dude is acting is definitely sketchy and concerning, even if age isn't always an indicator of maturity.

It totally sounds like he's starting to lose interest or just flat-out playing games with you. The fact that he's gone from hour-long phone calls to barely 20-30 minutes is a huge red flag. And the way he was constantly checking if you were really into him in the beginning, but now you're the one questioning things - that's a major shift.

I get that you were trying to reassure him before, but now it seems like the tables have turned. It's understandable that you're starting to lose hope, especially with the way he's acting. At 47, you'd think he'd have a bit more emotional maturity and stability. But this whole situation is super shady.

My advice would be to really pay attention to that gut feeling you've got. If something feels off and you're constantly wondering where his head is at, there's probably a good reason for that. Don't ignore the signs just because you want things to work out.

You deserve someone who's gonna be consistently interested and invested in you, not some dude who's gonna keep you on the back burner and play games. Even if his age doesn't define his maturity, this behavior is a major turn-off no matter how old he is.

I know it's tough, but try not to lose all hope just yet. There are good guys out there who will treat you right. But this particular situation doesn't sound promising. Trust your instincts and don't be afraid to move on if he keeps pulling this nonsense. You've got this, girl!

[Asker]

I really really appreciate you! I think sometimes it’s just me being desperate and or settling for less because no other guy has stuck around this long or talked to me on the phone everyday for 4months straight. I don't know what to think sometimes. He will always call me when he’s going to work, texts me right when he is done. This is the thing he always reaches out first. And I feel bad. We have talked about us having trust issues and how we both don’t wana get hurt. But I told him I don’t reach out because guys never responded and I always look and feel stupid. He said he would love if I texted him anytime or call. He even asked why I don’t text him. So I’ve been recently texting him. Lo and BEHOLD. No reply till 5hours later. It’s not that hard to send a simple reply cmon… everyone is always on their phone.

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get where you're coming from, girl. It's so easy to start settling or making excuses for someone's crappy behavior, just because they've stuck around longer than anyone else. I've been there, trust me.

The fact that this guy was so insecure and needy in the beginning, constantly questioning your interest, is a huge red flag. And now that he's pulling back and taking forever to reply to your texts? That's a pretty clear sign that he's losing interest or just playing games.

You're right, it's not that hard to send a quick reply, especially if you're constantly on your phone. So the fact that he's leaving you hanging like that is disrespectful. He's clearly not making you a priority, even though he claims he wants you to reach out more.

I know it's super tempting to just keep hanging on, especially since he's been the most consistent guy you've talked to in a while. But girl, you deserve so much better than that. Don't settle for crumbs just because he's the only one who's stuck around.

You're worth way more than that wishy-washy, unreliable behavior. If he can't even be bothered to respond to your texts in a timely manner, then he's probably not that interested anymore. And at 47 years old, he should know how to communicate like an adult.

I really think you should trust your gut on this one. If the calls are getting shorter and the communication is dwindling, it's probably time to start putting your energy elsewhere. There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you the way you deserve. Don't be afraid to move on and find someone who's truly invested in you. You've got this!

[WhitneySnow]

20-30 mins is still a long time to talk to somebody in one day when you guys aren’t even serious yet

[Asker]

I just don’t know why all of sudden it reduced

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe he ran out of stuff to talk about. I wouldn’t talk to somebody an hour a day unless we had been going out like forever.

[Asker]

I can agree with that now

[Anonymous]

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[Asker]

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