Speed dating? Thoughts? Have you tried it?

[Anonymous]

It’s a thought in my mind, anyone tried it? I feel with dating sites, some people don’t take them seriously, plus you still don’t really know the person you’re talking to. Yay or nay on speed dating?

[Anonymous]

I smoke meth before dates, but I think you meant something else.

Joking, and tbh I never really even dated. I think if I had to start dating today, I'd prefer speed dating over modern dating anyway. Why waste so much time when it really only takes a couple minutes to get past the initial vibe check.

[Anonymous]

Never tried it but I have a friend who’s got her foot up my ass about meeting men and going on dates trying to push me into attending speed dating events constantly even though I’ve told her several times that I’m not interested in dating. I feel like (for me) getting to know someone within one minute is very forced and wouldn’t be fun at all.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Maybe your friend was hoping to date you herself.

Just a thought.

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa haha, maybe. I doubt it though. She has a boyfriend. For some reason though she sees being single at forty is some kind of character flaw that needs to be corrected ASAP. She’s also frequently trying to fix me up with guys she knows even though I’m always telling her to get off my case.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Is that how old you are? 40?

Maybe her guy friends are always bugging her to fix them up with you. That might be possible. I'm just guessing though.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

You might be way more "in demand" than you realize.

[AManOnTheWeb]

I've never done it myself, but I would imagine you can learn enough in 1 minute to know if you want to spend a second minute with them. That, in-and-of-itself, may be valuable to you. It's true that you can be happy as a single person, but it can be a lot of fun being in a relationship with the right person too.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Are you divorced? Or have you always been single?

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa I never married, so I’ve always been single

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

So you basically have never had any interest in relationships?

Have you casually dated before?

Just curious.

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa lol, I’ve dated and had boyfriends, I just have never been married 😄

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Are you like done with men and relationships now? Or you just want your friend to leave you alone about it?

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa no I’m not really “done”. I’m open to a relationship if one comes along, I just don’t want my friend pestering me into it

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Why does your friend care so much? Has she ever explained it to you?

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa to be fair, she does do it with all of her single friends. She found her Mr. right last year and I feel like she just wants us to find the same happiness. I think she’s more pushy with me because I have a more laid back “eh, whatever” kind of attitude towards relationships

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa to answer your question, I have but she’s insisting on me getting a man.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Are you laid back because you were always the "hot one" in your group, and finding men was never a problem for you?

Are you hoping to get married eventually?

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Sorry if this is too many questions.

It's interesting though.

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa you have a lot of questions lol. I don’t rate myself as hot, and no it’s not that. I have that attitude towards life in general, not just dating or men. I would like to marry, but if not then it is what it is. I’m good with being single too

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Yeah sorry I do have a lot of questions. It's interesting learning about relationships and different perspectives. I've been on G@G for less than a week, so it's still new to me, all these people talking about relationship stuff.

Is it too many questions? Am I being nosey?

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa you’re fine 😄. I don’t mind the questions at all. I hear ya, ask as much as you want

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

You can message me if you feel like it. This thread is getting kinda long. If you don't want to it's fine.

Do you sorta feel like you're missing out on... you know... the physical stuff, not being in a relationship?

[Asker]

I have a feeling you’re attracted to your friend or she’s attracted to you. Why don’t you 2 date? Just a food for thought

[Opinion Owner]

Nope. I’m not into women and neither is she.

[Asker]

You be might be though. Just saying. I got nothing against. But I sense deep down you might be attracted to her. That’s why you talk about your friend. I’m an expert

[Opinion Owner]

No, I’m really not. I talked about her because I was annoyed with her because she keeps pestering me about dating. I mean yeah I’d like to go on dates but not with her getting on my damn case about it all the time. And it’s pointless telling her to back off because when I do, she argues with me and doesn’t back off

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Hey just to be clear, I don't think you and your friend are in some kind of weird sexual courtship ritual.

How much does she bug you about this? What does she say? Like does she tell you you're missing out, or what?

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa she says I shouldn’t be 40 and single, always insists on hooking me up with all of her single guy friends (who I haven’t met but she “knows” are perfect for me), asks me all the time “are you talking to any men lately?” or “you’re still on the apps, right?”. She says to me every day “you need to be going on dates” or that I need a boyfriend or that I need to be hooking up regularly. If she finds out that I have a date (I don’t tell her anymore because of this), she’s telling me what to wear, then she just comes over to do my hair and make up even though she knows that I can do both myself and she says it’s “to make sure that I actually go on the date”, then the day after the date she’s grilling me for details and gets annoyed when I don’t feel like giving her any.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Hahaha. It doesn't sound like she's attracted to you. It sounds like she wants to be your mom.

Is there any reason she's focused on you specifically? Or is she like this with all her single friends?

It's weird to me that she wants you to be in a relationship OR hooking up regularly. Is she under the impression that you need more sex for some reason?

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa because (no offense to her) some people can’t go more than a few days without sex and can’t understand how others can, and I think she’s one of them. I know she gets on all her other single friends. I’m not sure if she does it with them to the same extent she does it to me though.

I feel like she’s a bit more extreme with me because I actually fight her on it.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Ooohhh... maybe she thinks you're like the main character of a romantic comedy. You're the mean, argumentative girl who has given up on love. And she's the warm, loving, supportive supporting character who's going to help you find love so you stop being so mean and argumentative. And then there's this really heartwarming scene at the end where you're being warm and supportive to some other mean argumentative girl.

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa yeah, I think that’s exactly it.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Are you mean and argumentative? I mean, maybe she sees you that way because you disagree with her about guy stuff, but in general are you?

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa in general, no. Only when I feel like I’m being pressured or
pushed into something that I don’t want to do. Other than that, I’m actually really nice.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I'm picturing you as a romantic comedy type girl.

Are you looking at all? Or are you like taking a break from guys?

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I'm guessing you have REALLY high standards when it comes to guys.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Okay, is it possible that your friend is on G@G? because this post made me think of you.

I can post the link, but it's in "Relationships" and the title is "Am I wrong for wanting to find a good man for my friend?"

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa oh I just read that post…. I don't know. Maybe she posts on here? I’ve never seen her, and no I don’t think she’s that extreme. She’s pushy, but I think she thinks of herself as Cupid. She doesn’t tell me that I’m old or that it’s going to be too late for me, she just likes to Cupid for everyone.

[Opinion Owner]

I think she just thinks of me as a hallmark movie and sees me as the woman with the idyllic life that’s just missing a man in it, and she thinks she’s helping me fill that void

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

What sort of life do you have? Like I know you're not married, but like what's your career? What do you do with your free time?

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Sorry if that last question was too nosey.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I'm surprised your friend didn't try to get you a date for New Year's Eve.

[Opinion Owner]

@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa no, she knew that I already had plans for New Year’s Eve (I went to a party), so she left it alone

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

How was the party? Did you get kissed?

(I did but not at midnight)

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I was still in bed by 11:00 though.

Lame.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

You can message me if you feel like it

[MoonFace2]

Speed dating is good for people who are good at making small talk and making a good first impression. I had more luck on dating sites, tbh.

[Asker]

Women have it easy there. Guys don’t.

[coachTanthony]

It's like Karaoke... just have some fun with it. It's a fun night out.

[HawkPerception]

First impressions are made within 7 seconds of meeting a person and that usually translates to your behaviour of a person and how much you respect them to an extent. In your head, you've already decided whether or not they're potential dating material.

I don't think speed dating is necessarily a bad concept, but it's not my cup of tea. I prefer one on one scenarios where you can talk to the person and get to know them in depth. Get to know their values as a person, their past, sense of humor, interests, etc, while having fun with it all the while. That's what makes a date fun.

[IslaTheWitch]

nope... I prefer to do things at my own pace...

[ArrowheadSW]

I don't think it would be for me. I think I would act embarrassed.

[Asker]

That’s fair

[KrakenAttackin]

A complete waste of time. Women don't want to date men who will actually go to a speed dating event.

[ArrowheadSW]

LOL You're probably right!

[KrakenAttackin]

@ArrowheadSW The event will be 90% women and a handful of guys who the women say "aren't very attractive".

[Asker]

Kinda like you

[BonzoInBitburg]

They used to have some in my city but they stopped because no guys were going

[KrakenAttackin]

That's a good thing.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I've never tried it.

Honestly it seems like it would be stressful, trying to remember so many details about so many different people.

[KostasKouvalis]

It's stupid. Whatever happened to relationships developing out of friendships?

[ArrowheadSW]

Good point.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather have waited for a natural deep connection than sign up for disappointment.

[LiamJHayden]

Never tried it, but I would if the opportunity arose.

[Anonymous]

I never tried it how can you really know somebody in one minute

[Asker]

Can you not follow me around on here? I appreciate it

[Opinion Owner]

What you’re blue anonymous I know nothing about your origin or if you live in South Africa or Antarctica

[linka_pat307]

No but I think it's interesting

[Asker]

Same. What do we have to lose?

[linka_pat307]

Nothing never know might get some1 meant for u

[Crazzyyworld]

I would wanna go if there is any