Why do people believe opposites attract?

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I am asking this question because I'm baffled at why some people believe opposites attract. It makes no sense for a person to date someone with different personality traits, values, & hobbies.

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

Opposites attract and birds of a featuer flock together can both be true just for different things.
Same is better for hobbies, general interests, energy, libido.
Opposites are better for things like, being a follower or a leader, being giver vs. receiver, one taking the initiative with someone that likes to do things but not plan stuff, sometimes shy and confident can go well together.
There is more but just to give some excamples.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

I think that birds of a feather flock together might be more accurate when it comes to long-term relationships.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Opposites only attract in aspects like man and woman, masculine and feminine, extroverted and introverted, dominant and submissive, etc.

What truly makes people compatible are their similarities. Similarities in terms of views, interests, sense of humor, in sync vision of their future, sexual compatibility, etc.

Birds of a feather flock together. birds of a feather

jahaims · Accepted Answer

It's just a saying people use to comfort themselves and others.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well the thing of it is that it depends. For some things it can work completing one another. Such as… One may be extroverted and the other introverted. Both people can push one another to either be around more people or enjoy more time in alone.

But for some people that would never work. I would say major differences in politics, religion, etc. Such as one being very pro life and the other pro choice maybe aren’t the best fit. Some may be able to put their differences aside but

ohsheeT · Answer

Positive attracts Positive
Negative attracts Negative

And it seems some times
Positive sees. The potential in someone negative and tries to help them

Negative can con positive pull them in. And eventually positive turns negative.
. Or has a very big long lesson to learn

RingOfFire · Answer

I think it depends on how you define the word opposites.

I think the original intent of that expression was to suggest that people with opposite but complementary traits make each other whole by joining forces and that we have a tendency to be attracted to those with those complementary traits. Someone who is particularly well endowed with the good traits that we lack can fill in the holes for us and we can do the same for them with our good traits. (How's that for sexual innuendo?)

exitseven · Answer

I dated somebody who was the opposite of any of the girls I ever dated. I met her in a bar. She was the bartender. She never went to college and hand no real ambitions except going out to bars and drinking. She was a lot of fun to be with but she was crazy as well.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

They believe that because they aren't talking about values and hobbies when they say that opposites attract.

The only thing they're talking about is personality traits, and it's true that opposites attract in those situations because the partners balance each other out.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It's a common saying, amusingly there is another common saying stating the opposite so... You know, common sayings are just literary amusement with words. They are not meant to guide anyone's life

Anonymous · Answer

Remember the venn diagrams in math at school? As long as there is strong common ground between them, unique skills and abilities make the couple stronger. Some perceive this as opposite attraction.
If they really are polar, I expect they'll drive one another crazy even if there are aspects that they find admirable

Anonymous · Answer

Because males and females are supposed to be very different and supposed to be complimentary. Now, women want to be men, and men have been completely emasculated. That's why marriage is ending and birth rates have plummeted.

kmg9150 · Answer

Why would you want to date a version of yourself? Also think about a magnet…. Or how about atoms?  Nuff said.

Anonymous · Answer

because they don't hot people are attracted to other hot people. not ugly people conservatives want conservatives. not liberals

NathanDavis · Answer

because it does happen sometimes... when you go with "light" definitions of what things mean

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Because of the idea of balance and balancing out one another’s faults

oldpigg · Answer

They say this because women tend to be attracted to the Dark Triad: narcissism, manipulation and psychopathy.

Anonymous · Answer

Opposites can attract, but that doesn't mean they get along well all the time.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Let's see... coal black handsome Brady, buxom blonde Blossom. THOSE opposites should attract !!!1

lillybloom · Answer

because it’s exciting, why would you want to be with some one who doesn’t challenge you to try new stuff?

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

Humans are simple creatures. Magnets

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Dracula and shit attract each other I guess

NicholasRedone · Answer

Its such hogwash 🤣

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