Girls, What are Women generally Accountable for in Dating or Flirting?

[Shy_Steve]

[Nikki1989]

Everything, or at least they should be.

[Shy_Steve]

So they are accountable for the Guy or everything the Guy does?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

In what sense?

[Shy_Steve]

In Dating flirting and Courtship.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Okay but what do you mean in regards to dating specifically? Like picking up checks?

[Shy_Steve]

Anything for a date with a Guy or to get a date with a Guy or anything when Flirting with a Guy you like.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I don’t think women have any such expectations beyond accepting dates they’re asked on

[Shy_Steve]

But, What accountabilities do women have?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

What accountabilities do men have? Give me some examples to work with here

[Shy_Steve]

Like the things you Women expect the Guy to do when flirting with you and dating you.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Expectations and accountability are not the same thing

[Shy_Steve]

I know, I'm just asking do Women have either when Flirting or dating and if so what are they?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Wouldn’t you, as a man, be able to answer that question better than a woman as it’s your group that places those expectations?

[Shy_Steve]

No, The only expectations us Guys have is Sex.

Im Asking about Women.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then that’s what women are accountable for. Putting out

[Shy_Steve]

Interesting take, but accountability isn’t just about expectations like 'putting out.' Isn’t it also about mutual effort, communication, and showing genuine interest? Or does that only apply to one side?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Dude, you’re trying to have a whole separate conversation now

[Shy_Steve]

Sorry, I'm just asking about accountability and dating and the differences between Men and Women.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

No you’re not. You’re asking about what expectations women feel they have put on them and NEED to do, much like how men believe they’re required to pick up the check at a meal. That’s not accountability, that’s expectation

[Shy_Steve]

You're right that expectations and accountability are different, but they often overlap in dating and flirting. Accountability means taking ownership of actions, like being clear about intentions, communicating honestly, and respecting boundaries. Both men and women should share these responsibilities. For instance, if women expect men to initiate or pay for dates, shouldn’t women also contribute by showing genuine interest, planning dates, or being equally invested in building the connection? It’s not about one side doing everything, but mutual effort that leads to a balanced dynamic.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

This isn’t accountability you’re talking about, that’s just common sense. It’s not the woman’s fault if the man has zero emotional intellect and can’t pick up what she’s putting down

[Shy_Steve]

Accountability in dating is mutual. If men are expected to plan and pursue, women are equally accountable for clear communication, showing interest, and contributing effort. Both sides share responsibility for building a balanced connection.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’m not doing more than 20 replies for this conversation to just go in circles. You wanna keep talking the. DM me, I’m done