My friend that I asked on a date kissed another guy at a party the day before our first date. Why do I feel bad?

[Guyaskingyou]

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I had been working with this girl for 2/3 months, we clicked really well, she liked me, I liked her, I found out she had a new job so I asked her out on her final day, on a Friday..
She said she would love to go on a date but had to go to her best friends birthday on Saturday first, so we arranged our date Sunday. We kissed on the date and a few months later we’ve just made it official. She mistakenly admitted to kissing a guy at the party when she was drunk. Why do I feel gross and wronged?

[SueShe]

People do a lot of things when intoxicated and that is nothing new. It has been like that since the dawn of time.

When intoxicated, one loses all inhibitions, do and say things that one would never admit when sober. That is about the only nice thing about being sober. The true character of a person comes forward. Be happy that it did happen before too much damage was done to your relationship. Imagine if it would have happened while being in a relationship for 2 or 3 years?

The only reasonable thing to do is to sever this relationship as you must realize that she is not the right one for you. She is not trustworthy and likely to cheat as soon as the opportunity arises.

[Staximus]

She wasn't your girlfriend, it was before you even went on a date with her, you're being a fucking idiot

[Guyaskingyou]

I had options at the time but I didn’t waste my time on them, I asked her out, I liked her and she liked me, it was right before the date come on.

[Staximus]

You think you have the right to judge her actions before you were even in the picture? It was before your first date, genius

[slatyb]

I don't know. You seem to be assuming too much too soon. Get over it.

[molonski2]

Well you feel badly because you had a certain expectation , and now a little of that has been removed , she has passionately kissed someone else with her tongue down their throat , and you can't stop think of that.

[molonski2]

UPDATE = Because you were wronged mate , you had a commitment , being drunk is not an excuse.

[Guyaskingyou]

But she didn’t agree to be exclusive?

[molonski2]

Sure , but you had anticipation..
I went though this at a age a little younger to you -- its greatly affected me..
But , I decided to continue on and give it a shot , we ended up going out for 4 years together.

[Nikki1989]

Your insecurities are showing.

[Guyaskingyou]

It definitely makes me feel like she chose them over me. People kept telling me that she clearly liked me and it was so nice to hear, because I liked her. Every time she tells me how much of a crush she had on me before we started dating really rubs salt in the wound because I gave her a chance. Are you sure I’m not just turned off by “slutty” behaviour?

[ImalwaysrightOK]

She's a whore.

[Guyaskingyou]

I’m betting otherwise but we’ll see won’t we

[jahaims]

You have feelings for her