Kissed another guy behind my boyfriend Back :( feel so guilty?

[Panda88R]

Not making excuses for myself am such a whore bag I know xxxx :( I deserve him to leave me X but background info : being with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have being going through a hard patch. I am dealing with anorexia , anxitey , depression again not an excuse but we have not being getting along mainly due to the fact I shut him out and isolate myself in my room (we live together ) X I feel he dosent understand and I never want to do things with him as I feel low and unwanted and we stopped being physically a while ago cos of my choice xxx I started talking to an old school friend online and one thing lead to another and we met up and he kissed me I was taking back but felt awkward so I didn't stop it and now feel awful and to make matters worse my boyfriend is acting soo sweet and nice to me but am paranoid he knows xxx what do I do xx am scared the guy will tell my boyfriend and I know we will finish :( should I explain it to him. He will never trust me again :( I feel wrecked with guilt

[TiffyPuff]

Like, you know what you did was wrong, but you're being too hard on yourself (and people here are being way too judgemental).

So like, why are you shutting him out? Why are you anorexic and depressed? Have you seen a doctor?

It wouldn't be right to blame the kiss on your depression, but like, there's a reason you're depressed, and there's a reason why you have distanced yourself from your boyfriend. So talking to a therapist might help you figure things out.

I don't think you need to tell your boyfriend -- seems like you're punishing yourself enough, and it was only a kiss. But like, if it would make you feel better, then you can talk with him about it. And maybe this is something you two can use to improve your relationship, cuz it sounds like things have been rocky for a bit.

[Supermen]

You need to tell him first Asap it will be never wrecking but he has right to know specially when he is been so considerate of you, and than you both can decide probably it will be his take wheather he should trust you again or not or whether he should continue with you or not.

I do believe You were never in love with him when you started to seek love from some where else. Plus you said you isolated from him for your convienace as well you stopped being intimate with him which also point your lack of love for him.

[Anonymous]

Don't be too hard on yourself, I think if you know you regret it and know you won't do it ever again, keep it to yourself. It was a silly mistake. But if the guilt is killing you or your paranoia do tell him. If the other guy does tell him it'll hurt more. Just explain your state of mind wasn't right and it won't happen again, that you felt unloved by him and wish it never happened. Best of luck.

[Truthatanycost]

I always see women saying this phrase ''one thing lead to another'' or ''it happened'' or ''we ended up...''

One thing does not lead to another unless you decide that it will. Stop making excuses, stop using language to distance yourself from your decisions and take full responsibility for your actions.

You also said that he kissed you which again, attempts to distance yourself from your decisions and actions. You kissed each other.

One thing I will say though, any man dumb enough to move in with a girl in this day and age should not be surprised. There is no loyalty or honesty!

You should tell him what happened and own your actions.

[madhatters4]

you need to be honest and forthright. you're not a whore you just made a mistake. but you need to own your mistake

it sounds to me like you need to really get things together in your head (anorexia, anxiety, depression) before you can really give yourself to a relationship. relationships are hard enough on their own and can be near impossible to navigate when you are dealing with so many internal issues. it doesn't mean you can't be in a relationship but you should be actively working on the issues within. whether that means therapy or whatever is up to you

[Ripper_E]

There are no excuses. From what you say, everything that happened, you have yourself to blame. Best thing you can do is come clean because it's going to be worse if he finds out from someone else. Plus, he deserves to know. It doesn't matter if he leaves you or not, if he trusts you or not, because you did it to yourself. He deserves to make that choice for himself and it is selfish to believe anything else.

To be honest, if it were me I would leave you. I've been through depression and I know how bad it can get, we work through our problems though. Sometimes the best thing to do is walk away. Also, when a girl becomes anorexic, I lose all attraction towards her.

Confess, allow yourself to feel guilty, answer anything he asks, and hope for the best. If he doesn't leave you, you're going to have to work your way way to being fully trusted.

[noahreus]

This is horrible. He does not deserve that. I feel bad for bro man. He being sweet ad Nell and trying to talk to you for comfort and you push him away.. why? then you start talking to a friend online who you meet up with and then kiss? Fam wtf. that's fucked up man. I feel so bad for that man. You are horrible. How would you feel if he kissed another girl? You would be mad right? Yo immature ass don't deserve a real man. Real men are so rare and we got hoes like you ruining them. Gtfo

[Anonymous]

Here's what you SHOULD do: you should TELL HIM WHAT HAPPENED. Trust me, the same information can have profoundly different effects depending on how it's breached to the person finding out. If you keep it from him and he discovers what you did, he won't be happy. He won't be happy either way, but at least you'll have a better chance of him being understanding if you tell him as soon as possible. The less time passes, the better!

[Anonymous]

geez calm down, nobody died. its not the end of the world

he deserves to know though and you have to deal with the consequences. if he truly loves you he'll get over it

[Anonymous]

Yes you are a whore , you don't deserve him , he deserves to be with a better girl.

[Whaaaaa]

You are a terrible person oh my god

[noahreus]

and girls cry that men ain't shit nowadays😂😂

[Whaaaaa]

Everyone is just terrible. I only trust dogs

[noahreus]

Same !! Never go wrong with the huskys 😇