I had my first kiss when I was drunk. Can’t stop feeling bad about it. Shall I tell him?

[LucyG]

Hey everyone,
while some of you might think that’s no big deal at all, for me it’s something that just doesn’t want to leave my thoughts.
I met my boyfriend last year and there were a couple of times where I thought we would kiss, but we didn’t. Then one day we went to a party and the whole night I was thinking, I really do want to kiss him today. Because I couldn’t wait any longer. He is my first boyfriend and I had never kissed a guy before him. At the party we had a couple drinks though. I wouldn’t say I was completely drunk, but I wasn’t completely sober either but had enough confidence to kiss him later when we were having some alone time on a chair in the backyard... He was a bit drunk too. Now thinking back to it, I did feel more confident initiating the kiss in that state than I have ever felt. And it was exciting and lovely and all that. But I keep thinking of how first kisses in movies go. How there’s long prolonged eye contact, excitement, sparks and a lot of tension. You literally can’t wait and don’t know what’s going to happen. I remember I felt similar when we almost kissed that one time before we even started dating. And it felt magical and gave me all those butterflies in my stomach just by looking at him. Whereas when I did kiss him at the party for the first time being tipsy/drunk, I didn’t feel butterflies. I felt them ever after though. I think because I was drunk. That makes me so sad, looking back at it. Because I am a type of person that takes first times very seriously and I think they are very special. Should I tell my boyfriend about it?

[drsatan]

Tell him if you want.
He will probably wonder why you're telling him but I doubt it will cause any harm.

The first of anything shouldn't be significant, it's almost always the worst. I literally can't remember any of my first kisses and all I remember about my first sexual encounter was that it was pretty bad.
Spend less time concerning yourself with firsts and more time looking forward to the next.

[On_cloud_wine]

“Never take yourself too hard or seriously the first time!” This is my mindset when it comes to learning a new skill like catching a 🥎 or baking blueberry muffins, but when it comes to kissing and sex... it should be fun and playful, and with experience, comes skill, yes... but she was talking about an emotional feeling that skill can’t acquire. Those feelings are derived from having chemistry outside of the bedroom, and if it’s not there, no amount of kissing even on a sober level will manifest.

[drsatan]

Oh yeah, the first time, if it's with someone you really like, should still be fun and playful, if a bit awkward because neither of you know what you're doing with each other.
It seemed to me that this girl may have had unrealistic expectations of a first time, though, due to how it always seems in the movies.
It sounds like she just got a bit drunk to get the courage to kiss him for the first time, but because of the belly full of booze, she didn't feel the intense butterflies she was expecting. That could be a problem, but she's saying that since then she does get them with him and it's great.
To me that sounds like there's no problem.
But like I said, if it's really plaguing her mind that much, I can't see it will do any harm to tell him and get it off her chest. Just if I was the guy in that situation, I might be a bit confused as to what the issue is.

[Bad_Man55]

Firsts happen under various circumstances rarely do they happen in a fairy tale manner that you cherish forever. Firsts are usually things you remember but become learning experiences to make the next time better. Dont get caught up in the romanticize version of everything, get caught up when romance just happens and remember that.

[On_cloud_wine]

You don’t have to, but think of it as a lesson learned. I don’t understand how some people talk about getting drunk to celebrate a special occasion is a good thing anyway, lowering your inhibition or losing it all together, and possibly blacking out. You want to remember and cherish those moments. I can’t rush things, I let the urge grow.. then when I’m ready, there’s no holding back.

[Unit1]

"But I keep thinking of how first kisses in movies go. How there’s long prolonged eye contact, excitement, sparks and a lot of tension."

I strongly believe, that this is what puts your relationship under stress to the extend, that it can potentially cause a break up down the line. Forget about hollyweird and the media. This is reality.

[loveslongnails]

Save yourself some time and trouble and just tell him... " I want a do-over on our first kiss - I want it to happen when we're both perfectly sober. Now get all over that, asap".
Then let the build up begin anew and see if your fantasy works out better !! :)

[Tunasub]

Very sweet... yeah have the conversation just so it won't be bothering you any longer. After use it as motivation. because now, you want your second first kiss while sober. Cherish and hold these moment dear to your heart.. good luck. Oh kissing is the bomb digitty isn't it😉

[hatim_tai]

Well... If you really feel that bad and you want to tell him, he might distance himself. But if you do really bad... Best to distance yourself and try again when you feel better.

One second thoughts... Even if you had your first kiss when you were drunk... So what? What's the issue? I'd say don't worry about it. Take it easy and enjoy yourselves...

[theCobbler]

I wouldn't worry about It , I bet he's forgotten about it, ( not to hurt ) , but guys few and far between, remember that kinda thing! Its history let it be history!

[LiamSawyer]

He's extremely lucky to have you as a girlfriend, you're very sweet, sincere and extremely gorgeous.

[chriscdi]

nothing you can do now, its in the past, at least he was your boyfriend, stop stressing about it and move on, its couldve been worse

[Shamalien]

So true about alcohol taking the magic away

[7771999]

I dunno if you should tell him that

[Anonymous]

I see nothing wrong with this