while some of you might think that’s no big deal at all, for me it’s something that just doesn’t want to leave my thoughts.
I met my boyfriend last year and there were a couple of times where I thought we would kiss, but we didn’t. Then one day we went to a party and the whole night I was thinking, I really do want to kiss him today. Because I couldn’t wait any longer. He is my first boyfriend and I had never kissed a guy before him. At the party we had a couple drinks though. I wouldn’t say I was completely drunk, but I wasn’t completely sober either but had enough confidence to kiss him later when we were having some alone time on a chair in the backyard... He was a bit drunk too. Now thinking back to it, I did feel more confident initiating the kiss in that state than I have ever felt. And it was exciting and lovely and all that. But I keep thinking of how first kisses in movies go. How there’s long prolonged eye contact, excitement, sparks and a lot of tension. You literally can’t wait and don’t know what’s going to happen. I remember I felt similar when we almost kissed that one time before we even started dating. And it felt magical and gave me all those butterflies in my stomach just by looking at him. Whereas when I did kiss him at the party for the first time being tipsy/drunk, I didn’t feel butterflies. I felt them ever after though. I think because I was drunk. That makes me so sad, looking back at it. Because I am a type of person that takes first times very seriously and I think they are very special. Should I tell my boyfriend about it?
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Tell him if you want.
He will probably wonder why you're telling him but I doubt it will cause any harm.
The first of anything shouldn't be significant, it's almost always the worst. I literally can't remember any of my first kisses and all I remember about my first sexual encounter was that it was pretty bad.
Spend less time concerning yourself with firsts and more time looking forward to the next.
“Never take yourself too hard or seriously the first time!” This is my mindset when it comes to learning a new skill like catching a 🥎 or baking blueberry muffins, but when it comes to kissing and sex... it should be fun and playful, and with experience, comes skill, yes... but she was talking about an emotional feeling that skill can’t acquire. Those feelings are derived from having chemistry outside of the bedroom, and if it’s not there, no amount of kissing even on a sober level will manifest.
Oh yeah, the first time, if it's with someone you really like, should still be fun and playful, if a bit awkward because neither of you know what you're doing with each other.
It seemed to me that this girl may have had unrealistic expectations of a first time, though, due to how it always seems in the movies.
It sounds like she just got a bit drunk to get the courage to kiss him for the first time, but because of the belly full of booze, she didn't feel the intense butterflies she was expecting. That could be a problem, but she's saying that since then she does get them with him and it's great.
To me that sounds like there's no problem.
But like I said, if it's really plaguing her mind that much, I can't see it will do any harm to tell him and get it off her chest. Just if I was the guy in that situation, I might be a bit confused as to what the issue is.