Guys, MEN, PLEASE, I REALLY TRULY AM TORN, AND NEED YOUR VIEWS ON THIS?

[Anonymous]

So,... this woman has let me know her very strong interest, attraction, and care for me. Meaning, she's heard my life story, and has this strong interest and care for me.. and wants us to date... she's wanting to be married, that's her purpose in dating anyone, she always hopes it ends in marriage, finding love. Literally its all she wants,- to be loved, and to give her love. She is so attracted to me for who I am, both inside and out.. so much so.. that she literally thinks the world of me, that I'm the most handsome, and most wonderful man, that a woman could ever dream, or hope to have.. and I am 2,000% sure she means every single word, I know she does, she's an angel, a total sweetheart. On top of all this,.. i've heard her life story... and I feel this very deep, strong, care for her... there's no other way to put it except this... but her personality, her heart in general, and her heart for me... has absolutely blown me away... as far as her personality, her heart, how she feels about me, how she makes me feel... I am just in awe, I'm literally breathless, speechless, blown away. BUT... there's just one problem... As far as her looks... the one issue is... she's pretty, she's not omg wow pretty.. but she is pretty.. but... I'm not attracted to her body... It's hard cause otherwise besides her body... she literally is a dream, I mean a mind blowing dream... the kind of woman that most men wish to God they could find... MEN.. would you give her a chance.. in hopes you'll maybe somehow become attracted to her body... should I give her a chance? it's just so hard to decide either way.. how can I give up such a dream.. and not at least see about us? yet the attraction for her body isn't there... an prob will never will be there... please be honest.. would you go for it, give her a chance? see how it goes? please be as detailed as possible, i'm really torn about this. Thank you very much.

[Zack-Bann]

I know first hand it will never work.
I had the same thing with a woman last year.
She was everything a man could dream body included.
But she was religious from a religion that isn’t even mine (Im not religious regardless) and she let it govern her life


I tried hard to get past it. But ultimately I broke up with her even though she did nothing wrong towards me


In your case it’s a lot more practical however:
A body can be improved on.
If she’s skinny she can eat and if she’s fat she can lose weight.
The only question remains does she want to


My best friend has been dating an absolute angel for a couple of years now and she’s gained weight at a steady pace.
He’s fighting really hard to get her to go to the gym with him (he’s very much into fitness) and it’s not working so well because she doesn’t want it that bad


All this to say: it’s hard to look a gift horse in the mouth when you’ve been single and wanting a partner and then a good prospect enters your life.
But a marriage is a lifetime commitment, on paper at least.
So you can’t overlook it and hope it goes away


You will be one of those husbands always wondering about the road not taken and dissatisfied with their own lot


But if you can get yourself into fitness. And talk her into doing with you as an activity. You could end up changing her body and your own for the better


I love the idea of “couples that lift together stay together” and it could work


But you can’t wish that problem away or out-logic your emotions on the matter

[ohsheeT]

It will never work

If you like her brain if you like her heart if you like her kindness if you like her smartness or wisdom her morals values and ethics

That would be the person I would be looking for

And if I didn't like her body I would take her by the hand and we would start walking every night we would start doing something physical every night

Because it's not the body that I fall in love with it. It's the inside of a person who the person truly is the outsides all just an extra bonus you just don't know it

That's pretty sad to say you love all these things that I can't do it I cannot do it because of her body wow so I say

It'll never work because you're only after because she makes you feel something you've never felt before she has a good looking face but just not a nice body

So I say no

I say she can do better

[molonski2]

Honestly , I've had this before , unless there is some way you can clean up that body ( maybe though toning and cardio ) weight loss , or whatever it is you want , then I'm sorry to report it will never work , you'll be constantly fcking her and thinking of someone else and you will never be faithful , this is the truth.

If things can be corrected , you need to address it.

[Asker]

I get what you're saying, I know it's high chance of that, it's just really hard to just throw her away too... i don't know, thanks.

[molonski2]

This is a lifetime commitment my man.. its something you cannot overcome.

[Asker]

so what about when men marry a woman with a great body, and she gains weight from pregnancy, or she burns her face, loses a limb in an accident, does one just throw her away? you'd prob see them as a jerk, then whys it different for me now, to accept her as she is, and build off this care we have for each other, an what attraction is there

[molonski2]

You are grabbing at a 1% er to justify your own actions bro.. NOT relevant.

[In_Trance]

I think you're wasting your time

[Asker]

why's that