We was quite good friends at work we got into a little disagreement and not we not talking?

[Anonymous]

This is not the first time, I do feel a little heavy inside bc at first it didn’t bother me but after a few weeks I realize a little heavy on the soul, should I just let it go and move on?

[ohsheeT]

Why let it go if you were friends there's no reason why you still can't be friends and it takes a big person to walk up to somebody else and say hey I don't know what's going on but if I did something wrong I apologize there is no wrong or right everybody has their own opinion everybody sees things different and there there has to be that respect that same respect we could both be laying on our backs looking up at the sky at the clouds and you can see a cat I could see a dog there's no reason to argue about it it's what you see and what you feel at that moment and that's what I see and what I feel at that moment it's not a big deal we all have different opinions that's what makes us s but to walk away from a friendship something so petty that's just that's the stupid part right there is somebody can't say I'm sorry or you know we took it a little bit too far I respect your opinion I hope you respect mine but it's all good

[Asker]

Thank you, I just doubt he cares and also I’ve always been the person to ask for apology I think he only done it once from his side

[ohsheeT]

I love work for many many years with men and women in I've never ever once had to ask anybody for an apology nor anybody ever have to ask me for one I don't understand why it goes that far

[chefsam]

That tends to happen a lot at work. I do the same thing at my job; don’t talk for days then back to normal. If it was a friendly argument about stupid stuff, it’ll be fine. But if it was a conversation about something serious and one of you didn’t take it seriously, then definitely give them a few days to cool off then at some point; try to talk to them

[Asker]

lol it was something I couldn’t cool off about but it’s been weeks now and we didn’t work on holidays so that’s another week we was off now I feel how I miss the friendship or I feel some type of way I hate this feeling but we didn’t go talking few months back and then got back again and then this happened I’m just afraid to ruin it again

[Asker]

Not sure if he feels some kinda way about this but he hasn’t spoke to me either

[chefsam]

Pull him to the side at some point and have a conversation with him. It’s clear you wanna talk to him and he might feel same but waiting on someone to make a move. Just talk to him

[Asker]

I doubt he wants me to talk to him again

[chefsam]

Just try it anyways. You won’t know until you try. If you try but he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore; it’ll suck and hurts losing a good friend but you’ll have to move on

[Asker]

I guess imma have to move on either wau

[chefsam]

Yeah. Either you keeping your friendship or losing a friendship; unfortunately that’s life for you

[Asker]

Yeaaa true

[Flower7]

Forget him and do your job.

[Asker]

Okay best answer

[WhitneySnow]

Depends. What was the argument about?

[Asker]

Stupid stuff

[Asker]

I just kinda confronted him about something and tried to explain my point

[WhitneySnow]

I would need to know what you confronted him about in order to tell you whether I thought you should just let it go

[Asker]

Right but I think maybe he don’t care either

[WhitneySnow]

Just talk to him and try to work it out

[Asker]

No bc he might feel the same

[WhitneySnow]

What do you think you should do?

[Asker]

I don’t know I feel a little guilt and heavy hearted when I see him

[Asker]

Like guilty feeling bc we literally just made up as friends recently and than this again

[WhitneySnow]

Tell me what you confronted him about and I’ll tell you if I think it’s worth holding a grudge over

[Asker]

It’s really kinda stupid that’s why I don’t want to say it, but I mean his a married man and I confronted him about something that didn’t really look right in my eye I might have judged and yea

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah. Guys get really sensitive about that, especially if they’re guilty. If you’re certain you saw what you thought you saw, then you have nothing to apologize for.

[Asker]

So basically just let him go and let that guilt judge him

[Asker]

I just respected him as a married friend coworker and thought he wasn’t like that but I was wrong and it hurts me too I don't know what to do tbh

[Asker]

Bc we did get along well and always supported each other now..

[WhitneySnow]

Just let it go and move on. If anything, he should be the bigger person and apologize to you.

[Asker]

Thank you mam I appreciate it

[WhitneySnow]

No problem