Who should initiate the talking?

[InsecureLivesMatter]

Men, always

Men, often or sometimes

Women, always

Women, often or sometimes

[DishLady]

It depends on the situation, however I'd say that usually guys should initiate. Why? Because if a girl initiates she's not sure if the guy is actually interested and will flake on her or end with "Hey babe, ok call me later" which is code for "I'm never calling you but you can chase me if you like... all the girls do." And whether that's true or false about that guy, it's wholly unappealing to me. Guys are all about "action" so I prefer to know that a guy is choosing to spend time on me, is interested, etc. by showing me he wants to be with me. Period.

Having said that, if there's an event kicking off and I'm on the event committee or something and I see a guy standing around looking forlorn, I'll go up to him, introduce myself and connect him with other people to help him break the ice. It's hard for some guys to figure out where and how to break the ice. I don't know why, but in those instances I'll be friendly enough to give the guy a boost towards a nice person or group to chat with.

[Caroline91]

Whoever needs to talk about an issue and the other, ideally, will respond in a positive and helpful manner.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Under normal circumstances, it should be the men. However, the circumstances in the Western societies these days are no longer normal. Personally, if a woman does not explicitly show me that talking to her is fine, I would be wary of talking to her. I do not wish to get hit with "inducing fear" or harassment charges. However, that initial contact can be anything. All I need is an explicit consent for me to speak in her general direction. She can ask me to tell the time, comment on the weather... Anything. But there is no way in a Western society these days (a. k. a. "hell") I am going to speak first. Unless, perhaps, I already know her from the internet (say, some Discord server - and that actually did happen, and twice).

[HawkPerception]

Whoever wants to approach the other. If you're interested in someone, you shouldn't let the moment pass by and regret not approaching them. Sure people can be mean when it comes to rejection, but that also helps you filter the types of people you date.

[Summeroflove]

Whoever’s interested nobody is obligated to come talk to you… So if yoI wanna meet someone walk your happy ass over and meet them. People who wait around limit their options to only who talks to them.

[Anonymous]

The one that is interested. This should NOT be gender specific. It's these nonsensical unwritten rules that causes so many problems in the dating world. This might have been fine 50 years ago when genders had VERY clearly defined roles and everybody played by the same rules. But not in modern dating.

If you have interest in someone, man or woman. Say something! The worst thing they can say is no. And if you're on the receiving end. Whether you're interested or not. Try to remember it is a compliment.

[Jonnywayne]

That one should take the initiative, that is interested, equal if gurl or guy.

[Pohjolan]

Should have a "Doesn't matter" option.

I don't know why some people think that this changed with Covid? but talking to someone is just basic socialising.

Its not anymore hitting on someone or flirting than cutting bread.

[rosemilk]

both, either, male, female... it doesn't matter.

[dustybiker2]

The person least interested in wasting their life?

[NicholasRedone]

Men and women 50 50 however I guess realistic me says me most of the time lol 😆

[Priya99999]

Whoever's interested.. I like to ask my fantasy man who's real by the way to go out with me on lavish dates.. would like to spoil him so much.. I mean spoil in the sense give him stuff or any he desires

[MikeTheBartender]

Men often. But absolutely nothing wrong w the girl coming up to you.

[Crazzyyworld]

Men expressing himself is sexy because many men can’t do it. Women are lesbian basically. So be a lesbian, man

[NathanDavis]

the one interested in the talking...

[Anonymous]

Well, i prefer girls who like to take initiative.

[Kingofkings1992]

Silly question. This is circumstantial. All circumstances are different.

[PeachyPie93]

Whoever wants to talk.. lol

[Valdemort]

The person who wants to talk.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Anyone…

[SpaceGalaxy]

A 3rd party