Men, please help?

[Anonymous]

The guy I’ve liked for a year & a half is currently deployed. When he gets back, he’ll be here for a month before he moves across the country.

He’s kept in touch while deployed & says he wants to stay connected after he moves. I want to see him before he leaves. If he doesn’t want to see me / won’t make the effort, should I walk away?

Walk away

Hold on

[ohsheeT]

Okay so when he gets back
Is he coming back to your city or is he going someplace else for that month


If he's going to be stationed where you live in your city I'm sure he will come see you but if you are going to be all the way across the planet he goes to the east coast you're on the West Coast and he's only here for a month that month he's going to be busy with a lot of different things and for him to fly someplace for a day to see you and then get back would be very hard to do and depend

But his situation his finances and everything like that he might just have to go to wherever he's going after he's here for a month and then either send for you or come see you but if he's going to be in the same city that you're in I know it'll definitely come see you but you have to think about all the stuff that he has to go through in that month

I mean I understand what you're saying but at the same time there are so many variables that are going to be happening with him for him to him that he has to take care of while he's still in the armed forces me personally if I was stationed on the East Coast or West Coast and you're on the other East Coast or West Coast I would have to still fly out to see you just because that's who I am but depending on his situation that's what you have to think of you you can't just say oh you didn't come see me later bye because there's a reason for everything like that I understand what you're saying but you have to give him the benefit of the doubt he has a lot of things going on and he likes you too I would have to say to keep in contact with you everyday or whenever you can but I wouldn't just be hasty and just make a jumping decision I've been really think about it cuz there might be things out of his control you know

Sometimes we can't get what we want when we want them sometimes it's just that of our control or out of somebody else's control so just be patient and see which way it goes depends on how much you really like it I guess

[Summeroflove]

You need to keep taking to him and tell him you want to see him. Look dating someone in the military isn’t what a lot of people think it is… It’s HARD at least for someone with a genuine heart it is.

You need to both for your own sake as well as his know if you’re capable of being in a serious relationship. Being there for him emotionally when he’s coming home with traumas. Not knowing if he is even coming home… Having to trust that he’s not cheating and him trusting that you’re not.

Look it’s not easy. It can be done if two people are made for one another. But it’s hard.

[Asker]

Thank you for your encouragement

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[Zack-Bann]

Classic case of right person wrong time it seems.


Im sorry to say: you’re looking at a lonely long distance relationship at best.


It would be better to end it now and let him go one with his life as you go on with yours