Men help me out?

[Anonymous]

Is it possible for a guy to like you or be attracted to you but still just refuse to admit it. Searching for shallower connections and pushing others away

[Summeroflove]

It does happen but at the end of the day if you’re rejected 9/10 they genuinely aren’t attracted. For that 1/10 times there are possible reasons behind it.

Fear of how it ends. They are scared you’ll hurt them. Chest on them. Do something of that nature especially if people did them dirty in the past.

Next reason is he doesn’t see a future. Maybe a guy likes someone but he doesn’t see a future with this person. Maybe he’s Christian and she’s a atheist. Maybe he’s going to move. Maybe he’s a very conservative man and she’s a liberal or vice versa.

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Another possible reason is it’s a risky situation. Maybe you’re a coworker. A boss. A subordinate. Maybe you’re his best friends sister or sisters best friend. Maybe you’re just somebody that would be too big of a risk

[Asker]

They are friend with a family member yes

[Asker]

That’s how I met them

[Summeroflove]

Asker, if he does like you this could be why he isn’t taking the risk. Just be respectful and talk to him privately and ask if this is the situation and express your feelings honestly and see where you stand with him

[Summeroflove]

Don’t wait around because he will likely just move on and find someone else

[Asker]

He does what he does regardless if he has a girlfriend or not

[Summeroflove]

If he has a girlfriend drop it

[Asker]

Sounds like a plan

[Summeroflove]

Yeah hopefully look getting between someone in a relationship if they have decent morals will result in a rejection especially if they know that you know they’re in a relationship.

Another thing is. It tells you where someone’s heart is. People act absolutely shocked to cheat with someone to eventually have the same sone to them.

It also shows bad morals on both peoples part. If someone is meant to be it will be. But if someone’s single there one thing. If they’re not drop it. Which I think doing that is the best thing you can do and I’m glad that you have the wisdom, intelligence, and self control many don’t unfortunately

[Asker]

Well I certainly am not particularly ever interested in a guy who has a girlfriend. But his behaviors extend before her and after her. But he never has gone after me. So it’s definitely enough to know what I know. But he’ll never act on it. Except the weird things he has done. I just will brush them off like I have been and not acknowledging them.

[Asker]

He for sure doesn’t like me enough to do anything but the odd things. And he probably won’t ever as he’s friends with my family members

[Summeroflove]

Yeah asker you just really never know. At the end of the day if you’re interested in somebody (whose single) just make a move on them and show you’re interested and see if they do the same thing.

But yeah as for me if someone’s just not showing interest then it’s just not worth it. If somebody is risky and they’re some I just genuinely want to be with.

Yeah it’s okay to wait a bit just to see if they’re someone you’re really attracted to or if they’re just attractive. As well as to see if they show mutual signs maybe a little flirting.

But it’s just more of pulling someone to the side and saying how you feel and how you want to know how the other person feels and I will respect how you feel no matter what you say

[Nik1hil]

Absolutely!..

Just confirm it from his Male best friend. He knows, But first, win his friend's trust over. That you do not want to hurt is friend and want his friend to find happiness, no matter if it is a short happiness or long-term happiness with you.

[236color]

I suppose it's possible. More likely you're trying to make something out of nothing because you what a different answer other than:He's not interested".

[Asker]

He done have to be. That’s not a requirement for me.

[236color]

Then why do you ask? What is it you want?

[ProbablyClueless]

That's very possible. And we do it for the same reason that so many women do; feeling like we aren't good enough.

Lack of confidence really wreaks havoc in a lot of people's lives.

[Asker]

Yeah but what if like he is good looking. He works hard to look good. He is handsome I think he knows that. But could there still be insecurity? It’s like the ones he picks they all look the same.

[ProbablyClueless]

It could absolutely still be insecurity. And again, just like with beautiful women, handsome men catch their share of shit from people. So they might not be feeling too confident in life.

You don't get born with +10 charisma in life, just because you get born a man.

[Asker]

lol I play dnd so that was awesome 😂🤚🏻

[FunkyMonkee]

They do? Well, that's really nice of them! Sometimes they help me out, too. Well, at least one of them.

[Anonymous]

Rejection