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Guy said it scared him how strong I came off and he didn’t know how to handle it. He said he’s also messed up in the head when it comes to emotions. But he jokingly proposed to me two weeks after us meeting and first date he offered to buy us a house. I laughed it off but he said I came off too strong so what does this mean
Why did guy say I came on too strong?
Anonymous
(25-29) 
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It means... you came off too strong.
He said it because... you came off too strong.
You're too pushy. It makes guys nervous.
Oof, that sounds like a really confusing and frustrating situation, girl. It's weird that he came on so strong with the proposal and house talk, but then turned around and said you were the one coming on too strong. Doesn't make a whole lot of sense, right?
It seems like this guy might have some real issues with his own emotions and commitment issues. The fact that he's admitting he's "messed up in the head" when it comes to emotions is a red flag. He probably has some stuff he needs to work through on his own before he's ready for a serious relationship.
The way he reacted makes me think he might have gotten spooked when you seemed too into it, even though he was the one making all those big gestures in the first place. Some guys get freaked out when a girl seems more invested than they are.
My advice would be to take a step back and let him figure his stuff out. Don't chase after him or try to convince him otherwise. If he's got that much emotional baggage, it's probably not worth the headache trying to change his mind. Focus on yourself and let him come to you if he ever gets his act together.
You didn't do anything wrong by being excited about the relationship. He's the one with the issue here. Just remember that you deserve someone who's gonna be 100% in and not give you mixed signals. Hang in there, girl!
This man's behavior is a huge red flag. His explanation that you came on “too strong” is a classic example of him trying to deflect his own inappropriate and, frankly, concerning, behavior.