Would you date someone physically attractive but uninterested in deep conversations or someone highly intellectual but physically unappealing?

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Chthou95 · Accepted Answer

The first. Conversations don't have to be deep or meaningful. Most conversations people have with others are pretty generic anyway. Im not going to entertain a conversation with someone im not attracted to when it comes to dating

meepmeeperton · Accepted Answer

Attractive but not interested in deep... that type can still make a good mother and have a good sex life. I can talk about deep stuff with male friends.

DishLady · Answer

Neither. Both types are stuck on themselves for different reasons. A guy who is too physically attractive thinks too much of himself bc he gets a lot of attention from women and is used to that, so my attention would just be like a drop of water in an ocean of attention. Nothing special to him no matter what else I bring to the table. Meanwhile, a guy who is overly intellectual gets lost in his thoughts and is often condescending in sharing them or gets upset at having his train of thought disrupted. The "sweet spot" is the guy who is a little of both.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'd prefer someone 8n the middle, somewhat attractive and likes some deep conversations.

But, sticking with just the two choices in this question, I'll take the shallow route and go for looks over conversation.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

Ugh. I think I'll take the bullet on this one, Hawk... :D

hahahmm · Answer

Now you know that the vast majority of men don't care if a woman is a genius or not. We weren't wired to require a woman to be an aerospace engineer with 3 advanced degrees and astronaut suit in her closet. Then you have all these women who claim it's wrong for a man to pick a woman based on her looks, but she turns around and says she's not dating anybody under 6 feet tall or she's dumping dudes based on their penis.

Vast majority of men need physical attraction first or physical plus personality. But deep conversations? The human race would have stopped reproducing thousands of years ago if dudes needed women to have deep conversations. They would have spent all of their time talking and getting off on philosophy.

That said... a dude could be proud that his woman has extra abilities besides filling out a dress, just like a woman could be proud her dude has a high paying career instead of him working as a McDonalds cashier at age 30. Speaking of which, studies have shown that when women are shown pictures of random men they try to guess his profession & don't mention his looks. When men are shown pictures of random women he only talks about her looks and doesn't care about her profession.

Okay, enough blah, blah. Only one time in my life did I ignore the physical and try to give a woman a shot even tho she didn't meet my standards for looks. It was a disaster. She was more b*tchy than any other woman I'd been with. I thought to myself... at least with a hot looking woman when you have a bump in the relationship she still looks good.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Gun to my head and I have to chose:
Option A.

But realistically: neither one are good enough in the long run.

Even a person with average looks and average intelligence is preferable to someone who’s extremely high on one side and extremely low on the other.

SomothErgai · Answer

neither. i wouldn't date someone i'm not attracted to and i wouldn't date someone i couldn't trust not to be a fucking retard.

But, I would fuck the hottie and discuss the universe with the uggo though. sure thing. I used to have really great intelectual debates and conversations with his girl i worked with. but fuck if i'd ever stick my cock in that thing.

Evidently1 · Answer

When someone mentions "deep" or "intellectual" conversations, I think of nothing but academic or professional matters. And for that, I want to leave that exclusively at work as it sucks away all the fun and makes me feel like I'm being dragged back to work during what should be my spare time. Therefore, I would easily prefer dating a woman who is hot but uninterested in deep conversations.

On_cloud_wine · Answer

Well I fall in love with someone’s personality firstly.. if I don’t find them attractive in the beginning, I become insanely attracted to them as I get to know them.

Meanwhile I come across physically attractive people all the time but they’re just pretty to look at. No butterflies if I don’t like their personality

OneViewpoint · Answer

I didn't answer the poll. It makes no sense to offer only 2 choices that very few people would choose.

A gorgeous dimwit gets old really fast.

A seriously unattractive genius will eventually have you headed for the exit too.

Almost everyone is average. And we all end up choosing another average person who's pretty decent looking and intelligent enough to navigate life without too many disasters. What makes that work out is good character and shared values.

naartjie · Answer

I just want to laugh so if he’s making me laugh and makes me feel happy I don’t care how smart or dumb, how hot or not he is.
And TRUST when he’s making you feel good and yous are laughing all the time, he IS attractive to you.

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't date someone who I didn't find physically attractive. But I wouldn't continue dating her if she was unable to carry on interesting conversations. However, she doesn't have to be "intellectual". Some intellectuals can be boring.

RavVid · Answer

I've said intellectual but it is not true. I am quite happy with a girl who is interested in the world around her. It is maybe a mid point between the two levels suggested.

I am far more stringent on character than anything and would choose a desirable character over any of the above.

Nonetheless you still must want to fuck them. Other wise you might as well date your sister (presuming you don't have sexual desire desire for sister)

Levin · Answer

Eh, there's enough dunderheads at work who are incapable of nuanced though. I think that would be unbearable.

And I need to be physically attracted to the girl.

Sorry, but won't play ball on this one, old boy.

emeraldsaphire · Answer

I've dated my fair share of himbos and I'm over it. Granted I'm not that smart either, but I want some mental stimulation. Lets not just talk about sports XD

NicholasRedone · Answer

Physically attractive I voted A) - after all I tend to babble or ramble so if I wanna rant, she can just absorb or ignore me quietly 😈💜🟣

WhitneySnow · Answer

Probably not, but I guess it would depend how unappealing. Highly intellectual and kind excuses a lot of physical imperfections.

jazzy34 · Answer

Physically attractive, but can’t engage in deep, thought provoking conversation? Ew gross. 🤮

queenofcardio · Answer

I sometimes get excited by deep conversations so I'm gonna vote physically unappealing

HungTexan · Answer

Neither is a good option. I know I’m vain , but physically attractive is a must for me.

SingleGuy101 · Answer

Neither. Physically attractive and intellectual are ideal. What guy wants an ugly smart girl?

Jupiter1 · Answer

Well, if she’s not interested in conversations, she shouldn’t mind if I tape her mouth and f😛😜k her repeatedly as much as I want to.

exitseven · Answer

I would date the hot one.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I care little about outer beauty.

Pterodon · Answer

The deeper you know someone the better they look

Yannae · Answer

I can't vote. I will not date either.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Are they Unappealing to me or others?

Dongie · Answer

The smart girl.

Professor-college · Answer

I would prefer a balance of both

__Nikki__ · Answer

No, I wouldn't

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Eww no

RingOfFire · Answer

Neither

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