How can women clearly communicate their standards to men used to the bare minimum in a relationship?

[MzAsh]

When the dating world is full of low effort, it’s important for women to make their standards known right out of the gate. This filters out the unserious but also sets the bar for relationships worth their time. How can women best convey these standards?

[RiseofArtemis]

By having realistic ones, there are too many who have either standards up the distance to the next Solar system or they are impossible to begin with.

You can't have a career focued guy who wants to be a family man and spent time with the kids while also having the body of a Greek god and make 200k a month.

Then you need to be aware that the guys you want have a huge selection of women who want them. What makes you think he will chose you if you bassicaly give him the same as 99% of the others. You want to be the 1% Then do what none of the otherrs do.

Then most of the successful men nowadays basicaly don't care at all about marriage if they can have women all the tiime with no requirement of marriage to get them into bed.

Men put women in two categories. Relationship/marriage or a casusal fling. Most of you will be a casual fling since you lack the things required for a man to see you as a serious relationship.

A rich guy will always take the young virgin family oriented girl who doesn't give it up right away over the 30 year old party chick. Always, because what most men search for in their partner is someone with the same mindset. A rich guy will take advantage of party girls because he can, nothing stops him, except if women didn't get fooled.

You can't party around in your 20 and expect a rich guy to marry you in your 30 when your best years are over. That delusion does not exist in reality.

And lastly my actual advice. Date who shows you effort and who wants to get to know you instead of wanting to have just a fling. Always dating the jerks and badboys who clearly show no sign of wanting a relationship and expecting something different isn't going to work.

This comes to mind. ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.’

[loveslongnails]

Not to sound snarky Mz Ash, but the first thing a woman should do is seriously figure out EXACTLY what her standards are, from deal breakers to maybe's/acceptable through to the truly wonderful stuff. I believe that once she knows this, and can articulate them in her own head (or on paper if that works better), then she'll have no trouble communicating them clearly to anyone.

The two biggest issues I observe are that 1) Women don't firmly "know" the level of interactions they want, but seem to somehow know when it's not enough, and 2) being willing to accept less than they have stated they want when they DO know.

[Grond21]

This is the right answer

[DishLady]

VERY interesting question. There's a Catch22, though. By the time a woman figures out how to offer a guy "the bare minimum" at the level that the guy deserves she has already invested WAY WAY too much time on the guy and given away (to him) way more of her time and energy than he ever deserved.

[AnonAndrew]

By using their mouth words, I think. Also commonly known as talking. ;)

That's a joke, but seriously, it's also true. How could you possibly convey your standards except by communicating them?

[HungTexan]

It’s difficult without it being a turn off. Maybe infer a few things to begin with, rather than set strict standards.

[Ariesman81]

Yes. By all means let us know how much of a nag you plan on being from the jump. We'll both save time and effort.

[backdoorman]

Interesting question. What would you suggest?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just sit down with him and have a serious conversation about what you want