Why are there women who say “I can have standards” but don’t think men should?

[Anonymous]

Women are ENTITLED for a man to do everything and offer nothing in return. They get defensive saying they have standards. But so do men…. Men with options can choose whoever they want. There is women and men with a LOT to offer. I’m sorry. The type of men they want also have the right to standards. And if they really offer nothing and demand the world. Most of those men will find better women and if they get witn them. Find other women later on and leave

[KymberliB]

Men with options stood out to me as if to say women don't I don't think there is anything wrong with women who state what they want it's then a open conversation she isn't hiding it or lying does that make her a bad choice No just not a choice you'd make Me personally I believe everyone brings something to the table even Gold diggers I mean some men like it love the eye candy above all else and then there are men who want something more and it's all a choice no one is strong holding someone else so I think if men and women would spend less time judging each other and spent sometime talking they may find something totally different than what they put out to the world it's just my opinion but I have seen a friend throw away a lot of good guys for turds but hey they're her shitty choices and I've met men who are very superficial and gone for the fake 10 only to find out she's a 3 on the inside I personally hold myself at a strong 7 because I can always improve but I love me and respect people and have a lot to offer because I'm kind funny smart and have the main thing all people need Empathy so maybe you should ask the real question why do women behave this way what do they feel they've been missing how have past men or father for that matter treated them it's all in what makes a girl part of who she thinks she needs to become just say..

[Asker]

I do agree. We are all looking for something different. Having options and knowing what you want is great. Wanting your soulmate. Absolutely. It’s just some men and women have this sense of entitlement.

If a woman’s after money. If she’s honest. Yes! That’s one thing. If a woman wants to be a homemaker. Be honest. Whatever the case may be. Im all for people finding what makes them happy. But not as the cost of hurting someone or lying to someone.

[blueonblack22]

@KymberliB women in your generation are not even remotely like they are today.

[4ngelic]

why does the manosphere always invent random things... like no one out there thinks guys should have no standards and date freaks while women can demand chads regardless of how hot they are. honestly that sounds a lot more like manosphere dudes (cough cough especially incels) than women, if you flip the genders lmao

anyways just saying but most girls think dudes should have standards. like no one out there is saying that some hot 22yo 6'2 model dude from a rich family should date a fat ugly 40 yo woman who lives in a trailer...

[Asker]

“Manpsphere” seems you’re a little sexist. I see plenty of nonsense from both genders. Im talking about some women, not all. But the fact your triggered and defensive days a lot about who you are.

Maybe search tohr heart and see why you’re offended

[Asker]

And you see women here calling out this exact woman. I bet I’d I said “womansphere” you would cry sexism. Like how you make up terms like toxic masculinity and don’t think toxic femininity exists.

[4ngelic]

i'm not triggered just kinda tired of redpill dudes having weird views and trying to fuel the gender war. it's nothing to do with me being sexist or whatever, i'm not even a feminist lol

[Asker]

I ain’t a redpilled dude lol. I think they’re pathetic too

[Asker]

There is a percent of both sexes who suck

[4ngelic]

sorry misunderstood you lol. and yea agree

[Flatmanlewis]

There is a common thread in society that women are told they are special because they are women. That’s it. You’re a woman so you’re special and you should expect every man you encounter to treat you as such. Of course, they should pay for dates, accept “beautiful at any size” and be fully accountable while accepting her independence and privacy.


These standards are so widespread that I see it impacting my own coworkers. We are a organization which is constantly hiring and seeing people move and transfer within the structure. The quantity of entitles women is starting to be a topic of official conversation. (We had one girl who got pregnant, demanded we adjust her man’s schedule to her liking, and actually thought she could just take nine months off of maternity leave and we would paid her a full salary while she did that. - No sweetheart, it’s called maternity leave, not a nine month paid vacation.)


Anyhow, I see men who have a standard and are quickly labeled as some kind of derogatory or demeaning insult but the female staff.


I’m glad I’m married and over the shenanigans of the current dating scene.

[Asker]

I do agree. I think it starts with some dads and moms. She’s the princess. She gets what she wants. She gets away with anyrhint.

Do all parents? No. When I have kids. I want to raise tjem with good values. I want them to have a good childhood and teenage years. But teaching respect and not to demand things from others and when someone does something for you to be thankful

[Anonymous]

It is a sign of an immature woman blinded by fairytales and the common narrative.

Of course when a woman realizes that she isn’t what a man is looking for, she goes on defense to try and justify her poor decisions. But ultimately, reality is reality and sooner or later she will have to come to terms with it.

[Texaskid1]

It implies that a man can reject a woman. Also , it is a way for women to exert control in the dating market ; here women can control things by having their "standards" which is to say they control the gates. Men , on the other hand are expected to take what ever is thrown at them. Many people believe that a man cannot say no to sex and will bang on whatever woman crosses his path. I have done my fair share of rejecting. Most of them were unattractive women but I have also said "no" to some hotties too. For example , I have met good-looking women that were boring , snobbish , lazy, or just had an all-around crappy personality - and to them I say "next"

Oddly enough , when I have walked away from these women it seems to piss them off and they start chasing me around. As a side note- this is one of those traits that I have always found odd in women - they can have a 100 men peruse them but will want the one guy that is unphased by them.

Oh well.

[Flatmanlewis]

Damn. This is it, isn’t it? I can think of one chick I worked with, who I just wasn’t interested in. (She even followed me in a transfer to a new location). Once I found a woman I liked and started dating her she got stalker crazy! It was scary. None if my team believed me when I told them I never slept with her.

[QuickToAsk]

Because that type of woman is off-the-charts delusional, hypocritical & has an over-inflated sense of self worth. They try to project their own self-create realities onto others around them. I don't think there's been any other time in human history, outside of high school, that this many females have ever been this delusional at once. As soon as you find out a woman is this far gone, mentally, R U N.

[IslaTheWitch]

If you don't like that specific woman, put some effort and get to know another... isn't it the standard way?

People can have standards or say they have standards. That's their right. But we don't have to agree with them or comply.

[Asker]

That’s exactly my point. Some people feel like they’re entitled to standards but also that everyone must abide by them. And they are entitled to someone… when they aren’t. Because everyone has standards

[IslaTheWitch]

but why do you care so much about their "entitlement"? It's their problem, right? You just walk away. Why even bother?

[Asker]

It is their problem more curiosity. Most women aren’t like this and no I don’t pursue them. Lol.

[Smashingdoozy]

You can absolutely have standards. But you can't complain when nobody meets them because they're so much higher than your worth.

[Asker]

Yeah…. Yeah

[billmunch]

To help the fat, the ugly and the stupid of the female population feel like they're on the same level as the fit, the beautiful and the educated of the female population?

[Asker]

Yeah. Many times these type of women get bitter. It’s just like incels are disgusting men who are sexist.

[DextroShade]

Most men only have three simple standards for women: don't be fat, don't be a hoe, don't be a bitch. Most women still manage to screw these up horribly.

[Asker]

I would say there is plenty of men and women with reasonable standards. I’ve met some amazing men and women…. Others not so much.

[Sirenboobzilla]

That's idiotic. Everyone is entitled to their preferences and standards. Some people's standards are broad, others are more refined. Some people have impossibly unrealistic standards then complain when no one meets them. Then there's, as you said, what people have to offer. Some people have none but ask for their dating prospects to offer everything.

[mathnerd]

I think everybody should have standards, and you should never tolerate something others don't tolerate in you.

[Asker]

I agree a million percent. Reasonable standards though. I mean someone can have unreasonable standards if they choose but they may be alone

[mathnerd]

Of course. All of us should want respect, loyalty, and honesty in a partner, but then it would be stupid to publicly say you don't date under 6 ft, that you don't date a guy who doesn't make 150k+ a year, or that you only date virgins who cook and clean and do what they're told. And while all of us have preferences, these are the types of things that make people with "standards" arrogant.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree. I can get wanting someone whose not promiscuous. But if the persons sleeping around themslves. That’s another story.

Some guys want housewives and some women want that. As long as they’re honest. But there is the extreme end of bein fcontrolling

[mathnerd]

Yes, of course, it's not bad to want or want to be a housewife and I agree with you on the promiscuity, but some guys go and post incel-like, controlling stuff and these guys are usually the ones full of contradictions. But yeah I agree with you on that

[SolitarySolace]

Those aren’t women those are misandrists who sadly are allowed to be because no one gives a fuck about men in 2024

[Asker]

Plenty of people care. You have to find the right people

[SolitarySolace]

That’s truly hilarious, man. You actually think there is such a thing? I feel bad for you. Hope you don’t get screwed over with that kind of thinking. One day you’re gonna regret it

[RavenDarkheart]

I don’t know any women who said that. How idiotic would that be. Would be saying, “Guys have to meet high standards for me, but they can get with every tramp in the gutter.” If we date guys with low standards they bring everything they get from being with anyone they have to the relationship. So I say, EVERYONE should have high standards, no matter the gender.

[Akam93]

Probably because they think there to good for some men.

[Asker]

They do for sure. Which it’s fine to have standards to a point. But when they feel entitled and then get mad at men for not wanting them. But they’re allowed to have standards.

[Asker]

And there’s men like this too. But my gosh

[Apple1996]

I think it's because men tend to have long lists of standards while women only have a few. Maybe if y'all only had a few as well then women wouldn't feel that way

[Asker]

I think it goes both ways. Some people have no standards and others are unreasonable. There is plenty of women with unreasonable standards and men who only want good looks

[Apple1996]

Good looks are extremely hard to achieve as a woman

[Flatmanlewis]

Are they though? Fitness, fashion, and some class aren’t that hard to come by.

Any harder than a man making six-figures a year, owning a home and some investments?

[Apple1996]

@Flatmanlewis it'd be easier to have a good job and home since those are basic necessities to live. Beauty is something someone is born with. There are some things we can do to change but it's not easy by any means especially with some people's genetics

[JHAYES317]

It’s the opposite actually…women need a guy who is taller than them, has an above average dick, full head of hair, richer than them, older than them, and better looking than them…men just want a woman who isn’t obese or disfigured or disabled that’s about it. There’s not as many guys as you think you care about boobs or butts that much

[kingmaker21]

@Apple1996

Every beauty have cost what yours? 😂

[postaldudePL123]

@Apple1996 Most women are good-looking, so you're not offering anything unique! And so are men if they work out and eat healthy.

[postaldudePL123]

@Apple1996 "it'd be easier to have a good job and home since those are basic necessities to live."

Not really! ONLY 28% of the US population make more than 100k a year. Only 1% of the population in the US make 1 million a year. Just verify the stats yourself! These are just in the US because the USA is the world's largest economy, but conditions are even worse in some not-so-developed countries.

[Apple1996]

@postaldudePL123 I did a poll on here about guys rating girls. a lot of them had harsh standards saying 10/10 girls are extremely rare so to some guys looks are hard to find

[Apple1996]

@postaldudePL123 it's easier to work for a house and job than to deal with the looks we were born with

[Apple1996]

@JHAYES317 I've never required those things from a man so I don't know about all that

[JHAYES317]

Yeah but you won’t date a guy if he has a certain zodiac sign so you have your own weird rules

[Apple1996]

@JHAYES317 the guys settling for any decent looks on girl are the same ones that cheat or follow insta models to jerk off to because they don't have a pretty enough woman to fill that need

[Apple1996]

@JHAYES317 I'd only date someone compatible ofc

[JHAYES317]

Usually it’s guys who have boob/butt fixations who cheat, them being pretty or not is not a factor unless it’s distractingly ugly but in that case I probably would need to be in love with their personality to even date them long term

[postaldudePL123]

@Apple1996
"It's easier to work for a house and a job than to deal with the looks we were born with."

I don't think so!

I'm not saying looks don't matter at all, they certainly do! But it's very subjective. It does not have any intrinsic value. For instance, if I want to fantasize about good-looking women, I'd rather subscribe to an OnlyFans model. They look so beautiful; I can fantasize about them all day. So it's not really scarce! But money is, and they're also selling their beauty for money in the end!

It's simple economics: money is a token for various resources, and resources are scarce. So those who have more money will have access to more resources.

[Apple1996]

@postaldudePL123 some people pay money to look beautiful so they really do the opposite probably more often then sell beauty for money

[Apple1996]

@postaldudePL123 money and a house are things you need to live. It's not some unrealistic standard to want a bare minimum man that can provide

[postaldudePL123]

@Apple1996

"Some people pay money to look beautiful, so they actually do the opposite probably more often than sell beauty for money."

That's the point!!

Money can even make you look good. You can get the best dermatologists, cosmetic surgeons, and fitness coaches; it's possible with money.

If you don't have enough, you even struggle for necessities. And I'm also not saying money is everything, but all I'm saying is earning good money is also not very easy.

I strongly disagree from your point when you said earning money is easy compared to looking good no It's not!

Let's the end the discussion here!

[Apple1996]

@postaldudePL123 getting money is a skill you can learn. Beauty is something you are born with. It's easier to learn a skill than it is to be born into luck

[Kingofkings1992]

@Apple1996 you did not really just say that did you? Ok, it’s official. You are the biggest troll on gag

[Apple1996]

@Kingofkings1992 it doesn't make me a troll to think this.
It's well known that not everyone is born beautiful but everyone can learn skills to make money

[Kingofkings1992]

I’m just completely astounded a comment like this exists. Only on gag do people say the total opposite of what is true.

[Apple1996]

@Kingofkings1992 you are free to have your own opinions about this. To me this is true

[Kingofkings1992]

By any objective measure, you are wrong apple. Lmao.

[Apple1996]

@Kingofkings1992 what do you rate most women then? Are we all 9s or 10s in your eyes?

[Kingofkings1992]

@Apple1996 I don’t believe in assigning a number to a woman’s attractiveness

[Apple1996]

@Kingofkings1992 without the number do you think most women are beautiful?

[Kingofkings1992]

Many women are beautiful. I don’t know if would say “most”

[Apple1996]

@Kingofkings1992 hmmm okay. Would you say most people have a job and a house?

[Kingofkings1992]

Most people have a job, most have housing.

[Apple1996]

@Kingofkings1992 exactly my point.

[Kingofkings1992]

@Apple1996 this is your argument that your comment was correct? Wow that’s sad

[Apple1996]

@Kingofkings1992 it's correct to me. Doesn't have to be to you 🤷‍♀️ I won't judge your opinion

[Kingofkings1992]

@Apple1996

[Asker]

Not really. I see women change their faces with makeup.

[kingmaker21]

You guys unnecessary argue with her she is damn cute just njoy her 😂

[Apple1996]

Makeup comes off at night. A man is eventually gonna see her without it

[Apple1996]

@kingmaker21 awh thanks for saying I'm cute

[Flatmanlewis]

Well, I don’t think simply ‘income & a place to live’ is the criteria of most desirable women. Seems like everybody wants to get the best they can get.

[Apple1996]

@Flatmanlewis that is definitely true for some women

[Flatmanlewis]

Perhaps. Seems like a very low threshold to attain. I have to imagine all the men with jobs and a roof over their heads & are single may disagree.

[Asker]

Exactly about the makeup. No woman will look perfect. But so many men expect their woman to be perfect all the time

[bobalife]

Everyone is free to have standards, wants, needs, and preferences. It’s just natural 😶 maybe reconsider selecting the type of women you’re investing in who’s not open minded?

[LiamJHayden]

I have never encountered that, but if I did I would just hard pass.

[Nikki1989]

I have never heard ANY woman say that.

[Asker]

You have a very self righteous attitude yet show your tits everyday

[KittygosMeoWW]

Everyone is allowed to have preferences

[Asker]

Absolutely. It’s just sone peoples are extreme and they don’t really get what they want

[KittygosMeoWW]

What would you consider an extreme?

[Anonymous]

Considering 80% of women only want the top 1% of men, and see the vast majority of men as unworthy, its hypocritical from any female to say a guy with standards is unacceptable.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I never heard in my life woman say a man can't have standards. Literally never.

[Anonymous]

Men are the ones who claim women can’t have standards💀

[Opinion Owner]

A woman could literally say she wants a taller guy and men would lose their shit and project their insecurities

[Flatmanlewis]

I don’t think I’ve heard that as much as the opposite. At least I’ve never seen a guy upset because a woman liked a taller guy. Contrast that with a man telling a woman she would need to lose weight, have bigger boobs, or dress differently… well THAT wouldn’t go down very well.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s not true i argue at least once a day with a man who gets pressed about women having a preference lmao

[Flatmanlewis]

“That’s not true i argue at least once a day with a man who gets pressed about women having a preference lmao.” Does this imply “…a man…” as in the same man or a different man each time?

Also, while subjective, I wonder how much manhood this man possesses. A self actualized, confident, and self aware man is equally comfortable and understanding of a standard. No doubt he has one. Doesn’t stand to reason he would be angry for somebody else also having one. This sounds like the attitude of a petty & insecure “man-boy”. Not a real man, at least by my measure.

[Anonymous]

While not all women are like this the ones that are like this are hypocrites.