Is it a good thing if none of your exes ever came back?

[red324]

You know how you break up and then they randomly call like 3 months later wanting you back? Yeah, that's never happened to me. I've always wondered if that's good or bad. 😂

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Well it's not like any of them bothered to put in any effort.

[ohsheeT]

In life whether it's in relationships are just everyday life there are things. That are going to happen it makes you look at things a little bit different makes you feel things a little bit different and if you're honest with yourself no matter what it is that has happened whether it's painful hurtful or even loving there's a reason for it if it's in the negative it's because we are supposed to become the best that we can possibly be and when you're with the wrong person I don't know if it's whether it's God or just this universe it's energy but it's trying to tell you something is trying to make you think it's a learning experience I mean everything in life from the moment you wake up to the moment you go back to sleep things are going to happen and if you understand if a negative thing happens or even a positive thing it's a learning experience


And if you don't learn from it you're going to lay in bed and you're going to mope when your partner broke up with you or cheated on you or what have you and you're going to make it all about yourself because you hurt you're in pain instead of taking a couple steps back and really looking at it and really being honest and truthful with yourself first were you really happy were you really the best you could be I mean just everything look at it and you will find out that when you break up with the ex it might take a week it might take a month it might take a year who knows but somebody else will come into your life and you will understand why you had that break up because this new person is for you in that moment anyway because the same thing can happen once you learn your lesson there the same exact thing can happen you can break up again you have to look at everything and really be honest with yourself you can't just go blindfolded into something and think it's just going to work you have to make things work and if you don't and if you don't learn why you're trying to make them work then it's going to be taken away from you and you're going to learn that way but no matter what we're going to learn we have to to get to where we're going we have to learn

become one with self
That means understand yourself be honest with yourself love yourself be the best that you possibly can be stay out of the negative stay out of drama give of yourself love of yourself


Then become one with others that means teach them help them become the best they can possibly be in every way you have to do this so they understand loving themselves

And then become one with this universe the fabric of Life the energy of life whether it is just Energy whether it's God Jesus is positive whatever it is whoever he is it's beautiful and it all works together we are all supposed to work together as one


Because we all have a destiny that is death when we go in we're judged after we die guess who judges us I believe we judge ourselves we walk into the light the white light the positive light and the most ugliest the most scareful things in this world are going to hit us they're going to be right in front of us to scare the crap out of this and if you allow it to scare you then that means you didn't learn that means you have to come back and do it again but if you take it on and don't run from anything because that's who we are we have nothing to fear in life except for ourselves but if you take it on you get to walk to the next door and the next door I would think would be a beautiful thing that's our destiny energy lives forever we are energy but


I guess to answer your question I don't want my exes to come back I like my ex's except for one that was my first wife she put me through hell and she did it at a spite she premeditated it and it's wrong but anyway now I still like All My exes I'm still friends except for with her I'm her friend just to teach my kids how to. Treat people but that's it so the answer is no

[ManOnFire]

Yes, it actually is a good thing. Better to be forgotten than to have an ex come looking your way again. Why? Because any time an ex comes back even if it's a year later, most times it's cuz they're either not getting any sex or are lonely and not in a relationship. Or they are in one but not happy so they're looking to see if they can make the jump from them back to you. Largely what women do more than men, but you have dudes who do it too.

I would rather be forgotten than have a chick still thinking about me later on down the road - which has happened to me and twice last year - but only out of regret and never really saying sorry.

[naartjie]

People won’t go back if it was bad.
I’ve never gone back to any bad ex, they’ve all come back to me and I’ve had the joys of giving them an earful about how disappointing they were and how my future husband would never do that shit but they still come back! Because they know they messed up.
I know i never did so I dont run to them, why would i? I dont lose anything but saw how shit they were.
They come back and ask to try again because they know they messed up and want what they now can’t have- also because they think I’ll take them back for the second or 3rd time.


So it’s usually not a good sign if they don’t come back

[petitedollbabee]

People don’t usually go back to an ex who was terrible. So, I wouldn’t see that as a good sign if no ex’s ever tried to come back. It means there was nothing good to come back for.

[FunkyMonkee]

I WOULD like to have my most recent ex back.
My previous ex, I don't really care if I ever see again. The one before that I COULD be friends with if she'd EVER get over my not being able to give her 58c 6 years ago!! I DID invite her back into my life a year later but, no response! Maybe, some day, she'll get that bug out of her as and we can go back to being best friends, again. I haven't seen or heard from my 3rd ex since 1984. My first ex DID sort of come back about 18 years after the fact and, we'd still have no problem with being friends if she'd ever try to get in touch with me. I haven't seen her in 24 years. Best I can do is ask her daughter where she is, these days. She might even be a grandmother, by now.