Is it okay to have a celebrity crush while in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

[DishLady]

Yeah, why not? It's not like you're MEETING your celebrity crush...

Funny story... My gran would always tell my gramps she crushed on Patrick Swayze (RIP). Gramps would of course feel all ruffled and look over his paper at her. "WHYY?" he would ask, the little sizzle of jealousy sparking even after their 50+ years of marriage, which was ADORABLE bc HE used to be considered "a player"... She would smile and say "Bc he looks like you when we first met." He'd put his paper down and took her hand. And for Valentine's Day he got her the "Dirty Dancing" soundtrack for her, playing the record and learning "Time of My Life" and "She's Like the Wind" to serenade her every Saturday morning.

(True story!)

[Jay-_-]

But for me it's the "what if" how can you have a crush on someone else it's just not something that comes from a loyal heart.

[Jay-_-]

And that is adorable 😂

[DishLady]

@Jay-_- A "crush" isn't always an emotional "seeking out" of another person the way cheating is. It's not like crushing on the teacher, who is a REAL person you can reach out and talk to. It's a celebrity... someone you'll NEVER see and never actually think of meeting or interacting with.

[DishLady]

(In the case of celebrity crushes, I mean.)

[Jay-_-]

A celebrity is indeed a real person I've seen people who've met their crush and complete threw away all morality with their partner so I can't fully agree but we can agree to disagree for sure.

[Jay-_-]

And as in "celebrity crush".

[DishLady]

@Jay-_- Ok, man. Think what you like. I don't mean actors aren't human, obviously. If you're ACTIVELY worried your gal is going to seek out and fuck her celebrity crush then that's a mental issue you need to overcome. 95% of society is not thinking that way about their celebrity crush.

You want to motorboat JLo, for example... Ain't gonna happen. Your gal's not worried about that.

[Jay-_-]

I don't know if you read a word I said seems like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed so I'm not gonna entertain this but if you missed it I know people who've slept crush and were in serious relationship so you can say what you want but you can't argue with statistics. Just because it won't happen to you doesn't mean it's okay 😂

[Jay-_-]

Celebrity crush*

[DishLady]

@Jay-_- Wow, man. You're just ridiculous. Get a job or a project or something.

[Babygirl_S]

Yes! As long as you’re not insulting him and comparing him to that man. Men also dream of celebrities and many even insult their wives. Women are also allowed to think of dreamy guys. If they can’t accept that women can also like handsome men, they need to level up. If only men are visual, can they explain the existence of hot men? They’re brainwashing women so they face less pressure.

[Zack-Bann]

It’s unhealthy even when you’re single
It’s a parasocial relationship meaning you’re creating the image of a complete stranger in your head based on his public presence


Snap out if it.
Your relationship is the only thing that’s real not some fantasy about being whisked away by Chris Hemsworth to a life of romance and ecstasy on a beach in the Caribbean

[Crazyced]

Even if I had a celebrity crush, I just have to wonder for what reason I would divulge/keep mentioning that to my partner. Non of the reasons I'm coming up with are good. Plus if my partner is taller/stronger build and I keep commenting how hot that petite Asian girl is, more likely then not it's gonna do damage, I can tell you that.

[Summeroflove]

It still is emotionally cheating to me. To be interested in someone other then your partner. Especially if you fantasized about acting on it. If a opportunity came up most people would act on it

[orange_roach]

You really think your partner would cheat on you with her celebrity crush? 😂😂😂😂

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach well a lot of people would man or women if they could…. But I would find someone who has integrity and that I could trust.

If I was worried about someone cheating I would just break it off

[orange_roach]

You’re seriously worried about your partner cheating on you with a celebrity when said celebrity doesn’t know your partner exists? Either you’re really this paranoid or you’re trolling.

[orange_roach]

I mean come on. We’re talking about celebrities. You know…people who don’t know you or I are alive. And how many stories have you heard where a normal person cheated on their partner with a celebrity?

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach not many but the point is hypothetically even if a opportunity did come up you would want to trust your partner has the integrity to never do it.

Also… most celebrities I wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole. Do you don’t gotta worry about me

[MaxW1]

@orange_roach I don't think its necessarily cheating lile physically. i mean, how would you feel if your partner fantasized about someone else while you're living with them? You shouldn't have eyes for someone else when you have your partner

[Summeroflove]

@MaxW1 I agree with that

[orange_roach]

You do realize none of the celebrities know you or your partner exists, right? They don’t even know you’re alive.

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach again it’s just the fancying someone. That is the issue besides your partner

[MaxW1]

so basically you like your partner cause they know you, not because of experiences or the personality or looks. it seems all it takes for a celeb to be with you is if they know you

[Summeroflove]

@MaxW1 the thing is if I’m loyal to someone only wanting her…. I don’t think it’s too much to want the same

[orange_roach]

I like to know how many couples actually broke up because they found out their partner had celebrity crushes.

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach some I would assume.

[orange_roach]

@MaxW1 I feel like y'all are trolling me

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach I’m not lol.

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach you just don’t want my honest opinion you want the answer you want to hear

[orange_roach]

Because I never heard anyone have this much issue. Nor have I ever heard anyone say having a celebrity crush is considered as emotionally cheating. That’s a new one because half of society have celebrity crushes.

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach well a lot of people cheat physically too and think it’s okay

[orange_roach]

If having a celebrity crush is considered cheating, then let’s push it as such. Make it more well known. That way a lot more people can end their relationships.

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach still not changing my answer

[orange_roach]

That’s why I said to make it well known so that way people can break up with their partners.

[Summeroflove]

@orange_roach I mean true

[jennifer_bloom]

It’s not ideal but it’s forgivable by most people’s standards. A guy told me that no relationship companion is totally perfect.

[Finchie40]

Yes , as long as you aren’t obsessed and disrespectful about it

[HawkPerception]

I find it immature and reflective of a more shallow way of thinking.

[OlderAndWiser]

Many people may see that as a sign of immaturity.

[HawkPerception]

Including myself

[Anonymous]

I give you kudos for asking yourself this question. Most women who have celebrity crushes just plow straight ahead with it regardless of what their partner thinks.

Anyway most guys have just accepted that women are like this. As long as you aren’t a “direct access to groupie” to a famous person then I don’t see a problem with it.

But remember this is just a fantasy. You can waste a lot of time, mental effort, etc. indulging in fantasies. There is an anon program called SLAA that deals with it.

[blackeagle007]

That’s addiction support. Alon is for people with loved ones that have addiction

[Opinion Owner]

@blackeagle007 I belong to a co-ed SLAA and I know exactly what it’s for.

Not saying she’s at that point. If she was she would never even think about asking a question like this. In fact she would cheat the first chance she got if she ran into a celebrity if she was a sex fantasy addict. But I don’t think she is.

[blackeagle007]

I don’t think you know though. I know a little better

[emeraldsaphire]

I don't think it's really a crush. Like I say I have a crush on Markiplier, but I don't know him. We may not be compatible, I don't even want to meet him, I just like him. My boyfriend has a has thing for Mirajane from Fairy tail, and she's not even real.

[blackeagle007]

Who’s mirajane?

[emeraldsaphire]

@blackeagle007 She's one of the characters from an Anime named Fairy tail preview.redd.it/...iscussion-v0-ii4cfseuk6jc1.jpeg

She Normally just works in the guild hall being a waitress, with a very happy and bubbly personality. But she has strong magical powers that allow her to transform into a demon.

[molonski2]

My opinion will be against the trend , that's because I don't think it's reasonable to lust after some celebrity , if you lust after them you can lust after someone who looks like them.
So , if actually committed to your relationship then it's simply not a good idea , even though you will never meet them , because that may just happen.
And throws into doubt , who is she thinking of while the boyfriend is fcking her? It's not good.

[molonski2]

Its actually like saying " I love you " but.. if ever Xtzj were available , you can just fck off.. you were the best I could get " then " , but now I'm with JD and my circle has improved..
Sorry Boyfriend.. what was your name again?

[Joshydavid25]

I mean I don't know if I would necessarily say "okay", but it doesn't hurt since you're not going to meet them.. Hell, people in relationship have crushes on someone they know IRL, and never do anything but gaze from afar.. Not that that's a great thing.

[MemeSupreme]

yeah it's normal

like i think ian somerhalder is hot but i DON'T fantasize the dude or wanna date him. doesn't mean i'll talk about my celeb crushes in front of the guy im dating bc that feels rude

[Valdemort]

Sure. A crush is just a lack of information. I doubt many people would sincerely be willing to cheat with the celebrity crush. If they do, it might just be any given person.

[Sonorous]

We evolved to be serial monogamous creatures. Our capacity for attraction doesn't stop just because we act out commitment. The body doesn't really know or care that you're committed.

[adventurous-1]

doesn't everyone? My wife has a serious crush on Tom Sellick and when we are making love I don't know if she's calling out his name or mine when she climaxes as I'm named Tom as well! Such is life ;-)

[Vevv123]

Define “crush”, because you can find them attractive… but I’m not sure how far you’re taking this.

[MissTrix]

If it's a crush yes can't stop yourself feeling but don't act on it. Little jealousy is healthy

[Anonymous]

what, do you think that celebrity is just magically going to be into you and want you instead of your boyfriend? lol

obviously it's okay... because you'll never have them and they have no idea who you are

[Nikki1989]

It depends on your age. If you are a young teen, it is typical. If you are an adult, it is unfortunate you are still that immature.

[orange_roach]

Y’all are actually believing your partner is emotionally cheating with someone that’s famous and that they don’t know your partner is alive 😂😂😂 Better get the presses on this one. Oh, and don’t forget the paparazzi 😂😂😂

[HighValue]

As long as you don't mind your boyfriend cheating on you since that means you are emotionally cheating already.

[orange_roach]

What? 😂😂😂 So, if your partner had a celebrity crush, it means she’s emotionally cheating with them? Even though they don’t know her? 😂😂😂

[dustybiker2]

Happy people don't stray. It simply doesn't cross their mind.

[sirderpsalot123]

But... Maria 🤤

[pav616]

I believe its unavoidable. Everyone has one at least but I do believe you should be respectable about it and not put it in your partners face all the time. Celebrities are just people after all so if you crush on them you will crush on anyone

[Anonymous]

Yes if it's just fantasy.
If you are comparing your real other half to your fantasy or planning in any way to make it real then no.

[Datboi65]

Fuck no. It means you'll probably cheat if you get a DM from them.

[AnonAndrew]

You can't really control what you feel, so there's not a question of being okay or not here.

[Communicationisking]

Every girl does that I know. Maybe try for fill her fantasies and get that celeb's mask haha

[TsundereMatrix]

I think it’s only problematic if you go and stalk that celebrity. That’s a definite no no.

[Ironic_Method]

I think celebrity crushes are a red flag. Imagine having a crush on someone who has no idea you exist.

[DrPepper12]

Of course!! Hall passes too for that special someone you will never meet in your life and whom would reject you on the spot!! 🙏🏻💕

[Anonymous]

sure but it's still disrespectful

just like it's your choice to cheat on your spouse but it's still disrespectful

[orange_roach]

Oh no! Better get the paparazzi involved 😂😂😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

@orange_roach sure, tell yourself you wouldn't feel disrespected if your partner was crushing on a celebrity over you. defended them more than they defend you

[orange_roach]

Celebrities don’t even know that you’re alive.

[Opinion Owner]

@orange_roach it doesn't have to be mutual for it to be disrespectful. it only has to come from the partner

[orange_roach]

I honestly feel like you’re trolling me. I mean, how many couples actually broke up over having celebrity crushes?

[Opinion Owner]

@orange_roach more often than you think. partners will just claim "abuse" or blame their significant other to justify their cheating

[Anonymous]

No!!! What’s wrong w you? That’s cheating emotionally lol as long as you’re ok w him having a crush.

[Friendlybro79]

Of course it’s ok. A crush like this is normal.

[Iron_Man]

it depends who you’re crushing on and what do you do if you are fantasizing about him or not

[Anonymous]

Yes, as long as you don’t bang them for real if you ever meet them

[lucas262]

Don't see why not, iv had crushes on porn stars I'd never touch in real life.

[Staximus]

Celebrity crushes are for like high school girls

[Staximus]

This girl I know who is like 44 years old is posting pictures of her celebrity crush on Facebook and it's kind of embarrassing. I just want to tell her to grow the fuck up and come back to reality

[shortster]

Not unless you are in a relationship with your crush.

[Nightmoon23]

Yes your never gonna be able to date them I don’t see why not

[Manuelwe]

I have that problem. Many women have a crush on me, though there in relationnship

[Professor-college]

I don't see the problem it's not that you can see this person anytime soon hahaha

[hotcrossbunny]

I don't see any harm as I like a few celebs

[__Nikki__]

Absolutely, I think it's harmless

[sirderpsalot123]

Yeah lol you're never going to meet them

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah. Literally everyone has one.

[Caroline005]

As long it not obsession over top.

[Pterodon]

As long as you don’t act on it

[Wise4myage]

Seems ok to me.

[itsannalee]

I don’t really care

[Agape93]

Of course

[jahaims]

Grow up

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Cheerfull009]

Yes,