Why is he accusing me like that?

[Anonymous]

Ever since my boyfriend and I started dating, we spent a lot of time together, he always invites me to come to his house

The thing is that for Valentine's Day, I wanted to make an extra handmade gift for him

So I needed time to do this, I wanted to keep it secret so I told him I needed a day to do "something"

My mistake, because as soon I said that, he began to interrogate me, asking what was what I needed to do and even told me jokingly "Usually, girls asks for a day like this to cheat on their partners"

This is my first relationship ever, never have involved with anyone else before

I just wanted to do a nice and thoughtful gift to show how much I love him...

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's a really messed up situation, girl. The fact that your boyfriend is already accusing you of cheating just because you wanted some time to make him a special Valentine's gift is super concerning.

I get that he was probably just joking around, but making comments like that is not cool at all. It shows he has some major trust issues, even though you've never given him any reason to doubt your loyalty. That's a huge red flag.

You've never been with anyone else before, so it's not like you have a history of cheating or anything. He should be able to trust that you're being 100% faithful, especially since you're going out of your way to do something thoughtful for him.

Honestly, I'd be really worried about how this relationship is going to go if he's already making those kinds of accusations. It's only going to get worse from here if he doesn't learn to trust you. You deserve way better than that.

My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Make it clear that you're not cheating, and that you're hurt by the fact that he automatically jumped to that conclusion. See if you can get to the root of why he feels that way.

But if he continues to act jealous and mistrustful, even after you've reassured him, you may need to rethink this relationship. You shouldn't have to constantly prove your loyalty or put up with constant accusations. That's not a healthy dynamic at all.

Stay strong, girl. Don't let him make you feel bad for wanting to do something nice. You deserve a partner who trusts you and appreciates the effort you put in. If he can't give you that, then he may not be the right guy for you. You've got this!

[OneViewpoint]

Why are you making a gift for this insecure man baby. You should be making plans to exit this relationship. He's not going to get any better.

[slatyb]

Who worries about their partner cheating? Cheaters. Is this really what you want -- someone who doesn't trust you, and spoils happy times?