Is it still love bombing if you mean it?

Question

I tell my girl I lover her multiple times a day I write paragraphs about what she means to me I’m very affectionate in person she loves it but i don’t have a problem I love our relationship I’m just curious what people think

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Dude, that's a tough call. On the one hand, if you genuinely love your girl and you're showing it in a genuine way, then that's awesome. Showing affection and letting her know how much she means to you isn't a bad thing at all.

But on the other hand, the whole "love bombing" thing is a real thing, where people use over-the-top displays of affection to kinda manipulate their partner. So I get why someone might look at what you're doing and see it as a red flag.

The key is to make sure your actions match your words, you know? If you're truly feeling that way and it's not just a tactic to like, get her hooked or anything, then I'd say keep doing your thing. But be honest with yourself - are you doing it more for her benefit or yours? Is there an underlying motive or are you just genuinely feeling super connected to her?

Ultimately, as long as you're coming from a place of real love and care, and not trying to control or smother her, then I wouldn't stress too much about the label. Just focus on maintaining that balance and making sure she feels genuinely loved and supported, not just showered with attention. As long as you're both on the same page, that's what really matters.

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

Love bombing is a manipulation tactic by abusers, if you mean it and you care about her thoughts & feelings and can take ‘no’ for an answer then you aren’t love bombing.

Love takes two people and being respectful, willing to listen, and clean up the mess / pick up the pieces then you are doing good.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

No, however it takes two people to see a thing for what it is where love and relationships are concerned. What you see as "expressions of love" the other person may see as "love bombing"... It just means you shouldn't invest too much in someone who isn't a willing recipient.

jenn2838 · Accepted Answer

If she likes it and it’s not too much for her why not? Maybe ask yourself it you would be able to sustain that level of attention and care in the long run. If the answer is no then maybe you are just abit too excited , maybe you’re in some type of honeymoon phase

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It can be, yes. Especially if the relationship isn't really at a point where one would typically expect that level of devotion/infatuation/romantic gesture from their partner.

Even if you mean it genuinely, relationships change. And if your partner doesn't feel like they've earned your devotion, it could come across fake.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Some people feed off it for a lifetime - no wonder some couples are as exceptional as left handers who populate only 10 percent - there's something there 👀😌💍🤞🏻🥳🥳🥳😜😜😜 party animals - however yes, if there's genuine care on both sides and like that famous divorce lawyer in YouTube world "you have to be each other's cheerleader, otherwise you're not gonna last as a couple" 🤮

itsannalee · Answer

When you do something too often it becomes meaningless. It’s just as if you exercise or lift the same weights too often with the same frequency it will not have much effect on the muscle building.

LionBrasa · Answer

Does she do the same for you? It's hard to answer without knowing her personality, but if she does the same then it's fine, but if she doesn't get into it, she might find it clingy.

Yyyyp789 · Answer

If it's genuine and coming from a pure affectionate heart? Then she's lucky to have you

RedThread · Answer

Love bombing is a manipulation tactic. If you genuinely love her then there's no issue. Different people have different boundaries and limits though.

Anonymous · Answer

that's not love bombing. are you doing this with the intent to manipulate her into trusting and depending on you? because then that'd be love bombing.

McLlovin · Answer

Thats like one of those things. “You are over qualified for the job”, 🤷🏾‍♂️

WhitneySnow · Answer

If she’s cool with it and you’re not trying to manipulate her then it’s not love bombing

GAGsucksballs89170 · Answer

The more you say it, the less meaning it has. That's why they say the more you repeat a lie, the more likely you are to believe the lie, since the lie has no meaning

Anonymous · Answer

It’s sweet as long as she likes it :) Sometimes I get this funny icky feeling in my stomach if a guy gets too cheesy with my lol

Staximus · Answer

I suppose it's not love bombing if she feels the same way or you never stop feeling that way

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

That's not love bombing. You're just in love.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

How do you know if you're love bombing or being love bombed?

Anonymous · Answer

What a toxic world we live in where you actuay have to ask that question. What the hell happened to the dating scene.

Abdul17w · Answer

Sounds very needy to tell her multiple times day.

Douglas1180 · Answer

It's probably manipulative.

alice55 · Answer

I don't think is it then,

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

People overthink way too much...

DrPepper12 · Answer

If it works for you it works for me!

Manuelwe · Answer

As long as you mean it. Is love.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. It is.  Love is Love.

slatyb · Answer

Yes, it is.

Yannae · Answer

It is yeah.

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