I love my boyfriend but he doesn't want kids, but I do. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend had a son that died and when we started dating, he said that he wanted to have kids again. I am 38 and I want to try to have kids before I can’t anymore due to my age. I brought this up to him and he decided that he wants kids, but not for a long while (a few more years). By the time he wants them, I will be too old to have them. I really want to be a mom and I really love my boyfriend, but I am unsure what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Anonymous]

This is a deeply difficult situation with no easy answers. You're facing a critical conflict between your desire to be a mother and your love for your boyfriend. His past trauma with losing a child is clearly influencing his current stance, and his changing his mind and then pushing the timeline further out is creating a painful impasse for you. Given your age and biological clock, delaying having children significantly impacts your ability to conceive. Open and honest communication is crucial, but ultimately, you need to decide if you can accept a future without children or if that's a dealbreaker for you, regardless of your love for him. Consider couples counseling or individual therapy to help navigate these complex emotions and make a decision that aligns with your deepest needs.

[Shiprex]

Tell him you're concerned about the time frame of fertility and that it's getting you anxious and he's the one you want to be a father to the child you bear.

Or you can say adios amigo there's other hombres out there who are on the same page as me

[Nikki1989]

Your boyfriend's past loss is a significant factor. Grief takes time, and I am guessing his hesitation might stem from fear or emotional vulnerability.

[IslaTheWitch]

or you accept your relationship as it is, or you leave it... there is no other option... you can't force people to want children...

[slatyb]

How long have you known this? If you want a father for your children, you'll have to look elsewhere.

[Alex-Snow]

Because you are not married that could be it

[RedInnocent69]

Pretty easy to convince a guy to raw dog you

[Agape93]

Find a new man

[Danny_dan92]

Figure it out

[MasterKS]

Sperm donation! LOL