I don’t want kids and he does. what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I just found out I’m pregnant and honestly I do not want it. I think it will ruin my life and change is abruptly which I’m not ready for just yet because I’m fairly still young. But I told him a while ago and he is very against abortion and wants to raise this kid we are both 19. He keeps saying he’s excited for it and all this stuff but I’m not I’m worried sick and his excuse is that “we already done “it”” so this is what happens. Well he’s wrong because there are other options. Also my entire family is very hardcore INSANE Christian’s who would most likely hate this entire thing. It’s just a lot and I need to find a way to make him realize this isn’t a good idea

[ohsheeT]

I'm sorry but I and I know you don't want to hear it And it's not in my fucking business.. but just bare with me for a moment wtf wait wait wait hold this isn't going to help by me caring and being piss off we don't even know each other. But I can feel yourcwords. Ok so he's right it happen. .. and he wants to take responsibility that's fine. Dies he have a house. A car. Insurance that is paid. Does he have two hundred and fifty to 3 hundred thousand dollars in the bank because that's how much it cost to race a child... Has he graduated from school. Because He's going to need his diploma to get A minimal wage job. That says 30 to 40 thousand a year
It's going to cost 50 to 100 dollars a week for diapers. Then Formula is another hundred dollars a week if he's lucky he might have 50 to 100 dollars left out of his pay check. That's going to have to go to child care or clothes. Or rent ir power to keep the house warm that leave no money fir food or gas to get back and forth from working jobs he can't Go to college to get a better education to get a better job because you will have no ti'm or the money to do it.

Most guys walk away by now. A or they play the game. Fighting you all the way telling you that they want the baby. Until about 2 weeks before your do date then they walk away.

This is your body your the one that is goingbto go through the Emotions and anger and just everything. The moment he didn't put on a condom to Protect himself or to protect. You tells me that he did not love you. Because anybody in their right mind we protect each other... He's not financially stable Let alone take care of himself.
How's he going to do it with a baby

I do understand where his head is. But he see you stressed and he could lose you at any moment. So is he doing what he's doing to keep you. .. Because if you want to see what he's made out of tell him goodbye then He's going to have to make a plan and get a lawyer if he wants to keep the baby. But if he's saying it so he doesn't lose you and you tell him Goodbye.
Then to see who he is and what he's all about. He will either get a lawyer or he will just walk away. That's what you need to find out. Is he doing it for selfish reasons Or is he doing it because he truly cares
And if you walk away And tell him good bye

I don't believe in abortion you both made a choice you both have to live with. There are people out there right now. That would what love and take care of your baby to become the best child. They could possibly Do And make your child's the best Person it can be And a way better future than what both can do for your child

So that's what you have to explain. It's better off being adopted and loved with a good future.
You both would struggle the baby would struggle. The baby does not need to grow up struggling.

Ok so I truly do apologize for wanting to snap.
But I try to tell girls on here. All the boss of your body. Do not let any boy any man. Any guy have sex with not unless? They are wearing.
A condom. If they don't want to wear condom, that means they don't love you. They're being selfish and this is the price that you have to pay. Not only him, but you too, because it has to be even harder for you and I feel bad. But you need to make some decisions very quickly If you need to talk dm me You have to tell your parents. You have to tell his parents, but you are running out of time. You both have to do the right thing.
If he cannot see that the child would be better off with somebody that loves them and has the money to raise them. He's foolish because he has nothing I. Guarantee it , he needs to see that

[MrChinaski]

Your body, your choice.

[PeachyPie93]

I'm not sure what advice to give you. I don't think having one kid would destroy your life especially if you are done high school. And abortions can end up traumatizing you if later you decide you want kids, you might have regrets on it. But if you are adamant on not having kids then abort it and make sure to get on a good birth control so this doesn't happen again. Your boyfriend will probably breakup for going through with it especially if you never want kids.. But never make a decision to appease anyone but yourself and always take Plan B within 3 days if your boyfriend cums inside you to make sure you never have to have another abortion..

[Zack-Bann]

Can’t tell an inspiring father that you’re gonna kill his kid without him resenting you


And he shouldn’t he able to force you into a pregnancy you don’t want


The relationship is doomed Im sorry


End it for everyone’s sake and then you can murder the kid without reproach or judgement from anyone

[TheSpaceGnome]

Abortions aren't birth control, they are done to safeguard the mother during pregnancy complications. If you don't want to get pregnant, don't have sex without getting your tubes burned first.

That said, what is it you want to do in life that the baby will prevent? You should be certain there is even a problem before panicking over it.

I don't want kids, but I have specific lifestyle reasons for it, and I'm remaining a virgin until I find a woman who can't have kids.

[QuestionObsession]

Do not fuck an innocent child's life up by having it. If both parents do not want it, the child is unwanted. All previous generations are guilty of bringing unwanted kids into this world. Do not make the same mistake.

[slatyb]

1. You terminate the pregnancy.
2. You get on birth control.
3. You end the relationship. Your goals are incompatible.

[DecentLovelyMan]

I think u are not ready for it
Why didn't you make him use condom?

[Anonymous]

Take plan b or get an abortion. Or just put it in safe haven baby box.

[PeachyPie93]

Plan B isn't an abortion pill.. You need to take that before you are pregnant lol..

[Anonymous]

Get an abortion and get ready to get dumped.

[seeyounexttuesday]

you can give it up for adoption.

[Nikki1989]

Find a more compatible man.

[Anonymous]

Cut him loose (for his sake).

[Anonymous]

Birth control people! Dear god!