Would you stop dating someone if you didn’t like their friends’ ?

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately I have , if I don’t like her friends’ then I am not going to continue a relationship with a girl that has friends’ that I can’t relate to whatsoever, why I prefer girls’ that do not have a bunch of friends’ instead of a girl that has a shit ton of friends’ , it use to not bother me , until I accepted girls’ that had a bunch of friends’ before , and it all turned to shit , some of her friends’ usually turn out to be toxic and bad influences on her , that she is blinded by. So that’s why I don’t waste any more of my time on a girl that has a shit ton of friends’ that she is clueless about. If her friends’ are polite and respectful then I will consider continuing with her , I am not the type of guy that tells a girl she needs to choose me over her friends’ I will make it clear to her that I don’t care for some of her friends’ and tell her it’s best for us just to remain friends’ as well , because I can’t be in a relationship with a girl that chooses to have toxic disrespectful friends’ , what would you do in this situation , if you encountered it?

[AviatorTom]

I'd probably keep dating her, because she is more important to me than her friends. Of course, she would know that I don't get along with her friends, and would be smart enough to either end the friendship, or continue it without ever involving me.

[Finchie40]

Dating her is one thing, but I wouldn’t commit to her in a relationship. I would just consider her a friend with benefits mainly and nothing more

[OneViewpoint]

Yeah, "friends" can be a problem. They could be jealous or possessive. They may try to undermine the relationship. They may be cockblockers. They may be alcoholics or drug addicts. And it may be a disaster asking her to choose me over her friends.

I wouldn't necessarily throw the baby out with the bathwater. I'd have to weigh the person and the relationship vs dealing with her "friends". But yeah, I'd do it if there was no way to win against a pack of vicious backstabbing women. Vaya con Dios muchacha.

[Crimsyjo]

I wouldn't make it a deal breaker no but your right.. it's probably going to cause problems somewhere down the line. Either because they are toxic and put toxic ideas into his head about me that will make us argue or he will stop seeing them as much and I'll still get the blame as if I forced him to choose.

Still.. if I'm doing nothing wrong I'll see what happens. I'm not one to give up on a potential thing and have a "what if" situation in my mind.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Depends on why I didn't like them. I don't believe I need to love his friends - would be ideal if we all could be a part of each other's group and hang out though.

But if they're people I just cannot defend being with, or it becomes uncomfortable for me to have to meet them, or they are a bad influence on my partner, then yeah, I would maybe have to break up the relationship.

So far I haven't been in that situation though.

[Avicenna]

It would have to be pretty bad for that to happen. I work try to get along with them and make the best of it.

[Purpleronnie]

Well , it’s never happened but perhaps. Knowing myself as a fairly diplomatic , reasonable and open minded person there generally isn’t going to be many folk who rub me the wrong way. Additionally I have found that many of the woman I have dated have had very like-minded friends and it stands to reason they would , right ! I mean most people that are good and decent don’t keep asshole friends , at least in the sense that I understand a “friend” … I’ve met far too many acquaintances of folk where I think “ how is it right that I have to share the same oxygen as you “


Should I ever be put in this position and the woman I was dating couldn’t see the “friend” through my eyes as laid back and open minded as I am then there is clearly something wrong with them and I’d be forced to extricate them.


People change though don’t they , this is where iit can get messy I guess.

[PrincessC16]

I agree right with you. Many of my past boyfriends had friends that were toxic. Like guys that constantly wanted to go out to bars, or go to strip clubs, or go do stuff around other women that they know he shouldn't have been doing because he was in a relationship with me. So yes I totally agree with you. If her friends are toxic or if she's letting them come between you to, then she's immature and you need to let her go.

[molonski2]

Well , it says a lot about the person doesn't it?
No one really has a " shit load " of friends , they just have some massive group they hang with , so Yes , it would be incredibly annoying to also have to hang around these people.
So I'd say certainly Yes.

[Anonymous]

Yeah if his friends were cheaters, players, assholes or something I’d stop dating him because either he’s like them, will become like them or at the very least accepts such behaviors and still want to have such friends which is unattractive and a red flag in itself.

[LazerBean]

Sure. If their friends are trashy, then they are most likely trashy

[Finchie40]

Exactly , trashy and disrespectful and immature on a consistent basis , it wasn’t once in awhile , it was all the time , and that’s what turned me off , it made me lose respect and trust for her that she allowed herself to be controlled and manipulated by these so called friends’ that weren’t really her friends to begin with , they just got off on controlling her and manipulating her to do things that they knew they could easily make her do because she was vulnerable , it was like they were jealous that she finally met a guy and they didn’t. I see right through this bullshit a lot of times. and once my instincts know something is off , I am pretty good at being right and not wrong. But I keep my mouth shut and observe , I am not going to tell a girl she can’t be friends’ with whoever she wants to be friends’ with , that isn’t my place to tell her that , She is her own person , I don’t own her period. i just choose not to continue dating a girl that is blinded by that type of behavior. It’s just a turn off to me , that she can’t say No to these so called friends. that are clearly up to no good , if I try to explain to her why I feel the way I do about some of her friends’ , she would yell and argue with me about it and instantly say I am being insecure , I would laugh and say no insecurities here whatsoever, but thank you for proving me right about what kind of person you truly are , I’m sorry but you aren’t the girl for me. I still like to be friends’ with you but I don’t want to date you anymore and I would move on. The messed up thing is , I ended up being right about her friends’ and she would call back after some time to apologize to me and say sorry for not listening to me. I would say thank you for apologizing and sorry you didn’t see through them like I did. But we all live and learn one way or another. I didn’t tell her what some of her so called girl friends’ did after her and I ended. some of them hit me up and wanted to hang out with me without

[Finchie40]

Her knowing , which made me laugh even more because I knew I was right about her friends ‘ why people should never prioritize friends’ over their partner, I been saying this for years and sadly most people don’t grasp this concept

[LazerBean]

Man that's too bad. Yeah, a lot of people sadly do not know what a good friend is. I've heard it said that a person is the aum of their 5 closest friends, and that seems to be true.

[RavVid]

Well I have been. I don't know it correlates with the number of friends. I have experienced girlfriend's girl friends deliberately trying to sabotage.

She could have poor influences on her and if her girl friends cheat I would assume she will under their influence. So I would exit stage left... or right, which ever is the closest.

[Unap0logetic_]

I agree with this take. I can relate to what you’ve said.

[Finchie40]

It’s something I have experienced and witnessed a lot of times , to the point , I choose to no longer date a girl that has toxic friends’ that she is blinded by. I won’t tell her she can’t be friends’ with them , because I don’t own her , and I am not her boss , I just choose to walk to other way , I will still be friends’ with her , but she isn’t a girl i would be in a relationship with

[Unap0logetic_]

I completely agree with this. I would walk away from a situation like this too.

[Finchie40]

The less drama the better

[ProbablyClueless]

Yes. I wouldn't have let it bother me earlier in life, but I've learned better at this point. Even more than with men, a woman's friends are a statement about who she is. So if you don't get along with her friends, what that means is that you wouldn't get along with her if y'all weren't sexually attractive to each other.

[SolitarySolace]

It depends on the situation. If their friends are just people I don’t personally click with, that wouldn’t be a dealbreaker. But if their friends are toxic, manipulative, or constantly trying to sabotage the relationship, that’s a different story. In a healthy relationship, partners should be able to maintain their own friendships, but there should also be boundaries if those friendships negatively impact the relationship.

- Eva ❤️

[sage2021]

Yes! Sometimes their friends are very different than the person who you are dating and this difference can prove to be too difficult for you to be around. They make you feel uncomfortable on purpose because you took their friend away from them.

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s sadly immature behavior, like they are still in high school. I would understand if she was in her late teens and early 20’s having friends’ like this , but in your 30’s 40’s etc. it’s time to grow up , you aren’t in high school anymore. To me it’s a huge turn off to be controlled and manipulated by friends’ like that , if her friends were mature and respectful and acted their age , then I wouldn’t mind her friends’ at all. But these friends’ were sadly immature and disrespectful, cheating on their partners , backstabbing people and lying to people like it was a normal thing to do, thinking they were funny and cool bully hurting other peoples’ feelings. So I wasn’t rude to her , I would just tell her she isn’t the type of girl I want to be with and explain my reasons why. I’d tell her I don’t hate her , I just don’t want to be in a relationship with a girl like you , but we definitely can still be friends’ . I consider myself an observer , for many of years I worked in the Armed security industry and observing people was something I was trained to do. I am pretty good at seeing through bullshit when it arises. So when my instincts know something is messed up , I am pretty good at spotting it. Her friends’ were all two faced people , and I would tell her why I feel this way about some of her friends’ , not all of them but some of them that she was sadly blinded by or she was a good bullshitter as well. I just don’t trust people that act that way period. I am only into girls’ that are honest and respectful and are mature. It’s ok to be silly and immature once in awhile but consistently, it a Huge Red Flag to me. Why I prefer girls’ that don’t have that many friends’ that stay away from drama as much as possible. That’s a turn on to me

[sage2021]

It's really sad for me to hear that her friends treated people so hurtfully. They sound like my caregiver I hired because she would like and steal a lot of my belongings.
That is elder abuse and is against the law.
So when she just moved me into my new apartment from just a few doors away she stole A LOT of my belongings and this time she is in trouble for doing it. I am fighting back because enough is enough so I have reported her to the police and her boss.

She also threatened me that if I ever called her boss on her that she would do something to me. What? You can steal from me and I am not supposed to tell your boss because you are going to hurt 🤕 or kill me? Screw that!!

[knottyguy]

No, people can't please everyone. I would however explain the problem and let her decide what to do. She'll probably keep her friends due to the social bonds but I'd let her know that I don't like to be around them and would hopefully be able to avoid them as much as possible while I was with her.

[Staximus]

I have not dated a couple of girls because they hung out with scum bag tweakers, and they turned into tweakers too. You run with dogs, you get bit by fleas.

[Anonymous]

It would depend on her connection to her friends. I might if I felt they were a really bad influence on her and she couldn't see that.

She comes first in my life over my friends I expect the same from her.

[Nikki1989]

I have had any issues with that and I prefer they have friends, I prefer they have many friends if possible.

[Finchie40]

I don’t mind if she has a lot of friends’ friends’ that are respectful and mature for their age , but sadly some girls’ have immature disrespectful friends that act like they are still in high school , that lie and cheat and backstab people left and right , friends’ that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves, that thought they were cool but far from it. I would ask her why she is friends’ with people like this , that are more than likely a bad influence on you. She would make constant excuses for her friends’ behavior to the point it was a huge turn off , I would understand if these friends’ were still in their late teens early 20’s but 30’s 40’s , it’s time to grow up. So I would stop dating her because I don’t like being around people that act that way at those ages. I didn’t dump them rudely , I just said you aren’t the type of girl I want to be with. But I still would like to be friends’

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on why I didn't like their friends and how much did I have to be around said friends.

[Finchie40]

It was toxic friends’ that were pretty much in control of her , like she couldn’t make decisions on her own , it was whatever her friends’ wanted her to do. Also some of her friends’ were cheaters and liars so I assumed she would eventually be like them , it use to not bother me back then when I dated a girl , until i experienced this with girls’ a handful of times , and they all fell into their friends’ tracks. Constantly making excuses for her friends’ behaviors like they were these innocent angels , when really they were disrespectful pieces of shits that had no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. That type of behavior is a big turn off to me. It’s immature and disrespectful. Like they are still in high school

[Hellraiser1984]

Yes. Especially if their family hates me. I know that from experience. Also if they are a different social class don't date them their parents are guaranteed to hate you.

[alice55]

No, I would make him break up with me but I won't break up for this.

[Anonymous]

It would depend on the situation.

What are they doing that makes you dislike them.

How does your partner react.

[Lottydotty]

No, unless the friends became a problem somehow.

[Emmat178]

Not really not unless their friends were awful to me and he didn’t defend me

[NathanDavis]

I'm not dating their friends...

[Anonymous]

That has happened to me and I walked away from it

[Opinion Owner]

Hey guys friends were giving me shitty looks all the time. I figured one of them had strong feelings for her. So I let them have her

[Wayneg89]

I have and would again.

[Manuelwe]

Yes but still have sex of they want

[lonestarguy2000]

Yes I probably would