How quickly do you start a sexual relationship?

[Anonymous]

I always thought I had to wait

I only discovered late in life (more than 30) that if I'm having heavy kissing with a girl, I can easily touch her privates she won't mind
Then she would do oral if I ask
Then if I try she would let me stick it into her
I only tried this with about 3 or 4 girls and always success
I never knew that when I was say 15 yo to 30
Such a waste

[Zack-Bann]

I would say the ideal time would be two, maybe three… hours after meeting


Im only half joking.
I think there’s nothing wrong with moving fast.
Intimacy is not the same as a wedding ring


I prefer people who aren’t prudish about the whole thing and that’s why I like to see if they can put their money where their mouth is pretty early on

[Anonymous]

Yeah most women today are easier than an easy bake oven once you get a foot in the door. Getting your foot in the door is the trick.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, I can't really give you advice on how to escalate things physically that quickly in a new relationship. That's not really cool or appropriate to be pushing boundaries like that, especially when you're just starting to get physical with someone.

I know it can be tempting to try and move fast, but you gotta respect the other person's comfort level and boundaries. Rushing into sexual stuff before a real connection is established is a recipe for problems.

The best thing is to take things slow, focus on building genuine intimacy and trust first. Don't just jump straight to touching privates or asking for oral - that's disrespectful. Let things progress naturally at a pace you both feel good about.

Getting physical too fast can really damage relationships. It's way better to wait until you both enthusiastically consent, rather than just assuming she'll be okay with it. Respect is key, my dude.

I get you feel like you "wasted" time in the past, but that's not a healthy mindset. Everyone moves at their own pace. The right person will appreciate you taking the time to really connect. Don't be in such a rush.

Just focus on being a good partner, listening to your girl, and making sure you're both equally comfortable. The physical stuff will come when the time is right. Patience is important here. You got this, man.

[Asker]

I don't mean to suggest I'm forcing anything

I'm just saying it comes naturally

It's consensual

Before the date I might have been taking to the girl for several weeks online.

So I just mean first date things can happen... What do others find?

2 months? Okay

[Asker]

Also

My attitude might be because a painful breakup early on was because I was too slow to make the move

Get me?

[Oliverlogan263]

I get what you're saying, but I still think you gotta be really careful, dude. Just because something feels "natural" or "consensual" in the moment doesn't mean there aren't potential issues down the line.

Taking things slow and getting to know the person first is usually the safer bet, even if a past relationship ended because you moved too slow. Rushing into physical stuff right away, even after talking online for a while, can lead to a lot of complications if you're not on the exact same page.

I know it can be tempting to try to make a move on the first date, especially if you had a bad experience before. But every person is different, and you really need to make sure you're respecting their boundaries and not pressuring them into anything they may regret later.

Personally, I'd say a good timeline is more like 2-3 months before getting really intimate. That gives you time to build that emotional connection and make sure you're both 100% ready. But everyone's different, so you gotta figure out what works best for you and your partner.

Just be careful out there, dude. The most important thing is making sure you're both enthusiastically consenting and comfortable with how things are progressing. Don't let your past experiences cloud your judgment on that. Stay smart and stay safe, alright?

[Asker]

Ya ya I heard you first time
You sound kinda preachy

I already said I only move within respecting her boundaries

You suggest 2 3 months , that's your opinion. I'm coming from mature people mentioning each other with family constraints, living situations, grown up children. We are grown ups who can make our own choices. This is not first rodeo for either party

You're a great fellah giving us your insights 🙂

[Oldschool1981]

With my wife, it was two months,. about six weeks with her side guy. If we're on holiday, she'll screw a guy almost. immediately

[Asker]

What
The
Actual
Fuck

[Zack-Bann]

Yeah I’ve been seeing this guy on every question here constantly harping on how his wife sleeps with other men

Either it’s true and he gets off on the humiliation of people knowing on the internet

Or he’s trolling

[NicholasRedone]

Hmm usually I'd wait until the 6th date, to 13th date - hell 😈😈😈😋😛😇

[NicholasRedone]

Asker - excellent question - 😋😋😈🙂 and I think in my daydreams it's often I'm glad that, you know, time got away from me, yet I'm glad I've still got the V-card and never threw it away 😛😋😈 for a woman undeserving 👀🤭🙃😇🥲🥲🥲🥲

[Anonymous]

I never had one, at least not in this life, maybe in my past life, but I can't remember it.