Does weight loss really open doors for dating?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been a big girl. Never petite, never slender, FAT. Most of my family days I’m not fat I’m just thicker. I’m Tall at 5’9”, plus size and currently 222lbs. I don’t look it but I do need to lose weight. I’ve had boyfriends but they left of cheated on my for prettier/thin girls.

My recent boyfriend just cheated on me with a petite, short, gorgeous woman. We’ve dated for six months. My first boyfriend in high school (junior year) cheated on me with a skinnier girl and he couldn’t deal with having a bigger or taller girlfriend. He was like 5’6 and I was and still 5’9”. I was heavy and plus size.

Then when I was 23, my other ex who I dated for a year in a half was seeing another woman. I caught his and i immediately dumped his ass!

I was told weight loss opens doors for weight loss. Men do not want overweight or obese women or women that don’t take care of themselves.

I know my guy friend likes me and doesn’t care that I’m heavy but I told him I only see him as a friend. He’s a big guy was well. Tall and overweight. Sweet thought.

I seem to get short, skinny or short chubby guys.
I went from 223lbs to 190lbs a couple years ago and I have gotten more attention and now I’m heavier none accept for African men.

[ohsheeT]

Happiness opens doors. I've learned in life everything changes.. and you have to change with them or get left behind..

I've also learned if something is not working the change it up re invent your self. You said it in your question

You lost weight ant things started happening for you. I have known some big beautiful girls. They went on All kinds of diets. But never.
Really committed

And when they got tired of all the bullshit they Committed to themselves and followed through.
They changed their life. They became who they new they were it was hard work at the same time easy they said. .. they use to say the same thing your question said . . .

Time is Time
That has no time
But everyday our lives get shorter
You don't need to be Un happy and stuck in a ditch it's your choice. Your the only one that can make anything happen and your the only one inside of you that either makes you happy or sad.. motivates you or holds you back

Your the boss take control

[Summeroflove]

I’m really sorry you have been treated like that is these men weren’t happy they should have simply left the relationship but many people take advantage. Maybe they see you as someone wanting to be loved and take advantage of your heart for some reason or another. But then cheat just to have sex…

You don’t deserve it and I promise you these men will reap what they sow especially when these men marry these women they cheated with. You can absolutely loose weight for health reasons as well as for yourself but love shouldn’t just be about what’s on the outside. Plenty of vain people can obsess over looks and that’s all they care about and when these men find these women they deserve everything they get.

Obviously you have value and these men seem that and took advantage of it. But remember this quality of attention beats quantity. Just because you may get more attention doesn’t mean it’s all from the right type of men either.

[IslaTheWitch]

do it for yourself and your health... not for guys... when you are healthy and happy with yourself, it's what opens all doors... the natural confidence and happiness...

[Nikki1989]

No, it really doesn't. It is not so black and white. I was well over 200 pounds once and received far more attention than I ever do now, so go figure.

[HighValue]

Women often bring very little value to a relationship, and looking decent is one of the few things she can bring. Overweight women should realize they can only keep low quality men long term that have very limited options.

But, immoral cheaters will still cheat on people regardless of their attractiveness. Cheating has more to do with someone's morals than their partner's appeal. If they weren't interested, but had good morals they would end the relationship before looking for someone else.

[jahaims]

Obviously being more attractive makes you more appealing. Don't act like that is surprising lol

[Asker]

Why would I. Be surprised if it’s true? Iike I said my exes dumped/cheated on me with more attractive, fit women.

[TallAnon]

Lower weight is definitely more attractive to most people, it changes how people treat you a lot too.

[Anonymous]

It might if it gave you a better self image. The actual weight loss itself probably would make no difference.

[In_Trance]

Do you date fat guys?