How far is too far when it comes to seeing someone new?

[Simslover92]

Is an hour away too far?

[Shiprex]

1 Hour is my daily commute so going out with someone that distance is nothing as long as they're reciprocating on the travelling.

[NathanDavis]

some jobs take longer than that... and people hate it, but they still go...

[Simslover92]

That's true they do

[NathanDavis]

nowadays... people spend even more, just scrolling for tiktoks, so...

[Simslover92]

That's true too

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

seconded lol

[Finchie40]

It would just depend if she was willing to travel to me as well , the longest distance I drove to be with a girl I really liked was 4 hour drive , and she met me half way a bunch of times or she came to my area to visit her family as well, we ended up moving on together and got married and had kids’

[ShellyB]

Every situation is different, like if you are in a big city, an hour might not be very far and either or both of you might move and end up closer together at some point. I guess it depends how permanent it is and how the two of you feel about driving that far (or however you travel, maybe in some places it would be a bus or train, but where I live it would be driving). I think living an hour apart temporarily might be OK. JMO!

[DizzyDesii]

Its never too far for me. But ideally they’d be same city

[Simslover92]

Yeah ideally it's the same city for me too but an hour isn't too bad either. Better than 2 hours like with my ex. 😏

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Well, I've seen a case where 28 hours away was not too far.

Time means nothing when the urge is there, time means everything when the urge isn't there? In many aspects of my life, if not all, I experience time in psychological terms, what the clock, objectively, says has not much impact since I don't live in an objective world.

[natured]

1 hour away is not too far, it's pretty manageable, especially if both of you have your own houses and cars, you can switch and one time you meet him in his town and another time he meets you at yours, or sometimes y'all can meet in the middle somewhere. It can work, it's not impossible if you actually like someone.

[wynning]

Depends on how much money you have to burn on fuel or the extortionate public transport to and from...

[Simslover92]

Luckily for me driving there isn't a problem for me. It's probably $30 for there and back. I have a Toyota corolla. I'm not sure how it is for him though. He has a dodge dart. I'm not sure how the gas is with those.

[wynning]

I'd ask tbh

[Simslover92]

Yeah I probably will ask.

[IslaTheWitch]

it depends on you... I have nothing against to start to get to know each other while living far away... if we both are ready to live together if the relationship will progress... what means some discussions should happen early enough :D

[Blunky]

An hour is nothing in most places here in the US. Since it's someone new, I'd be sure to have a backup plan to make the most of the trip in case things don't work out.

[Simslover92]

That's true. Thanks.

[spartan55]

I live in a major metro area, so I cap it at about 45 minutes. Now if I know sex is guaranteed then the clock gets unplugged. 😂

[spartan55]

When I first glanced at this question I thought iit said how fat is too fat? 😁

[Simslover92]

Lol 😂 I can see that if you look too fast.

[spartan55]

Good thing you didn't ask what's the furthest you've traveled for some actiin. In college... shit... lots of trips..

[Bricealan]

I was driving more than an hour one way to see Marie in Oceanside... Rarely did she offer to drive here.

[Simslover92]

I'm sorry

[exitseven]

after having a long distance relationship for 4 years I made a rule that 100 miles was as far as I would go.

[Simslover92]

It's around 94 miles with the current guy. I think after dealing with my ex I made a deal with myself that I wouldn't travel more than 100 miles myself. It's just too much especially if things don't work out.

[exitseven]

a hundred miles does not sound too bad when I was travelling 1500 miles to see my ex girlfriend. i even drove it 30 hours straight once.

[Simslover92]

Wow that's a lot. I don't think I could ever do that much or ask that much of a guy I was seeing. But yeah a hundred miles is nothing.

[exitseven]

@Simslover92 Looking back I do not know what ever possessed me to put myself through this. I could have found a nice girl who lived close by but instead I put myself through 4 years of misery.

[Simslover92]

I'm sorry. I guess you live and you learn.

[bowenw]

I don't believe there is any limit, but it's best to keep in mind how things would work going forward if the relationship became serious.

[Simslover92]

Yeah that's true. Thanks.

[lightbulb27]

I went 9hr drive. Relative went across an ocean. All are married now.


Depends on your resource and flexibility.


Cast a larger net get diff 🐟.

[molonski2]

I would not set actual distance limits , yet they'd be in the back of my mind..

Here , 3 hours is good , thats the capital , and it means Id get plenty of peace.

[Caroline91]

It depends on how motivated you are to see each other. I was once in a relationship that was an hour's flight.

[DrPepper12]

Is that meeting in middle or you going to him?

[Simslover92]

Going to him and him coming to me

[Nikki1989]

I can't imagine anything further than a 30-minute drive away.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Another state… I’d be thrilled if he wasn’t from my city because my city is known for crazy men

[MannMitAntworten]

Probably anything more than 300 yards and my enthusiasm completely diminishes. Granted, this probably has more to do with my appreciation for living alone.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I don't think an hour away is too far at all.

[Unap0logetic_]

For me distance would only become an issue if the other person is not willing to make the same effort.

[Yoursweetgirl]

For me More than an hour drive away is already too far. I would rent smth halfway or they would have to come to my area to make it work

[Joshydavid25]

I mean if I really like them, and we plan to eventually see each other soon, then as long as it's within the country I'm good.

[Valdemort]

I love traveling so no place is too far, though I'd like to actually know them too. Lol.

[sawno]

For me as long as I can see myself migrating to her country I don't have many limits.

[sawno]

If you mean physical date without knowing them well first i'd stay within my own country.

[Anonymous]

An hour is long distance. It's an entire dating community removed. Trust would be tough in the early stages.

[douride2]

Years ago an hr was nothing. Now a days an hr is way to far to go.

[LiamJHayden]

Where I live it can take an hour to get to the other side of the county. Still, I prefer someone who lives nearby.

[Ironic_Method]

My last partner was from out of the country. I'd just fly her to me for a month at a time.

[Wayneg89]

Furthest I've gone for someone was 2.5 hours. Ended up dating for a year and a half.

[SomeDudeGuy]

No, as long as you can see them often, it's not an issue!

[Jay-_-]

30 minutes is too far if it's "someone new" 😂

[Simslover92]

Lol okay

[Jay-_-]

Wait wait wait...

[Jay-_-]

Is it someone you like? cause if someone I like and she's inviting me over or we made plans 1 hour is alright and 2 if she's worth it 3 if you have future plans to be together.. Call it the 3 hour rule... (I just made that up, I probably won't ever be using this "3 hour rule"😭😂)

[Jay-_-]

On a serious note If it's someone worth it I'll go state to state...

[Simslover92]

We're just in the talking stage right now with plans to meet soon. They live in NC and I live in SC but it's only an hour away. But I think he might be worth traveling for from our convos so far.

[Jay-_-]

That's great if the feeling is reciprocal, yes it's worth it.

[Jay-_-]

Just hope you read him right, you know, realistically speaking.

[Simslover92]

Yes I definitely am. So far everything seems to be going good. He seems interested and wants to meet.

[Jay-_-]

I genuinely couldn't be more happy for you. I know we don't know each other but believe me if I hear something is going right for someone, anyone, I wish nothing more. I pray it goes your way. 🥳

[Simslover92]

Thank so very much! I pray it does too! This would be my third go round at this. Hopefully third times the charmed!

[Jay-_-]

Well remember this you didn't miss out on anything, if it didn't go right with those last two they weren't meant for you, you're right on schedule. Third time will be the charm🤪😌

[Simslover92]

Aww thanks! ☺️

[Jay-_-]

Yes of course and I mean it.

[kaucky1]

They not made like me to even want to waste your time with them they not letting many see me so there is no future

[Little_Bumblebee]

That's really up to the two of you.

[SixFootSexy]

About 2 hours max.

[nawtee_me]

Is half way around the world to far?

[nawtee_me]

The girl I have been talking to for months now lives in Vietnam. Her time zone is 12 hours ahead of mine. We are like two ships passing in the night. When I am coming from work, she is going to work. We video chat a few times a day.

[Manuelwe]

Knowing what is ok now and what is ok a lot later like oral sex

[Yannae]

One hour would be the max for me.

[dudeinohio]

An hour would be my max; but it isn't too bad

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I never had a date :/

[abc3643]

47.3 light years

[spartan55]

Lol... what's that, the approximate distance to Jupiter?

[abc3643]

@spartan55 NOOOOO... Much further than that.
For instance, as of today (24 MAR 2025), Jupiter is approximately 793,306,183 kilometers (5.302924 Astronomical Units) away from Earth.
The speed of light is 299,792,458 m/s.

So, let's make the numbers round...
Jupiter is 7.933 x 10^8 km = 7.933 x 10^11 m away... that is, almost 800 billion meters.
The speed of light is about 3 x 10^8 m/s.
So, dividing that distance by that speed, we get about 2644 seconds which is 40 minutes and 4 seconds.

So, that means that it takes about 2/3rds of an hour for light to travel to Jupiter from Earth.
Written a different way, we'd say Jupiter is 40 light minutes from Earth.
For light, Jupiter is 40 minutes away.

47.3 light YEARS is much different.

47.3 light years is about 4.4749584 x 10^17 m
The distance to Jupiter was about 7.933 x 10^11 m

So, 47.3 light years is like going to Jupiter over 564,094 times.

[spartan55]

I make a dumb joke and it's Galileo... 😂 😂 😂

[abc3643]

@spartan55 What is Galileo? Other than being the name of the primary shuttlecraft on Star Trek...

[spartan55]

Galileo the astronomer. Invented the telescope

[abc3643]

@spartan55 Yes, I know that. I didn't understand why you referenced him.

[slatyb]

No, its not.

[StevenMcGarrett]

An hour is doable.

[PaleDale]

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[wkhan_87]

One hours isn't far

[eagle1951]

beats me