Should I assume this guy isn’t into me?

[Anonymous]

I matched with someone on 2 other OLD apps before we matched again on this one. The 1st time, maybe 2-3 msgs were exchanged before I deleted the app. 2nd time, we move to IG & he initiates wanting to meet up but I was put off by the fact that he never looks at my stories/reacts to posts but wants to meet in person. I just feel like you should show some kind of interest in my personal life if you’re quick to meet in person. This time around, he asks how I’m doing and actually talks about something interesting, which is what makes me reconsider. From earlier last week to this past weekend, we’d message maybe 1-2x a day on the OLD app but it was 24 hrs before he replied again to me. He answers my question & asks if I’d be interested in doing some kind of activity with him. Tbh, I’m busy this weekend & would consider the next but I don't know if he’d buy that.

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[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky situation. Based on what you're telling me, it does seem like this guy might not be super invested in you or your conversations. The fact that he took 24 hours to reply, doesn't really engage with your social media, and was quick to suggest meeting up in person - that could be a red flag.

I get why you might feel put off by that. It's like, if he's not making the effort to get to know you digitally, how can you trust he'll really be present and attentive in person, you know? That's a valid concern.

At the same time, the fact that he's now asking about a specific activity and you're both interested in meeting up is a good sign. Maybe he's just not the most active on social media, but is more responsive in direct conversation.

My advice would be to be upfront with him about how you're feeling. Let him know you'd love to meet up, but you want to make sure there's a genuine connection first. See how he responds - if he's receptive and makes more of an effort, great. If not, then yeah, it might be best to assume he's just not that into you and move on.

Don't be afraid to trust your gut on this one. You deserve someone who's excited to get to know you, both online and off. If this guy isn't meeting that bar, there's no need to force it. Stay true to what you want, girl!

[Nikki1989]

Well, I wouldn't waste too much time on him.