Why do so many people use dating apps when everyone claims to hate dating apps?

[Anonymous]

[Simslover92]

For many people especially once you reach late 20s to 30s, it gets harder to meet people organically. It's not impossible and if you make the time you certainly can meet people organically but it just seems a lot easier for a lot of people to search for a person online. You look at their profile, get somewhat of an idea of what the person is going to be like before going out with them and make a decision based on that. I used to be anti-dating apps but lately I've seen the appeal especially since my time is taken up by work and hobbies. It's just easier. So I would say convenience.

[Asker]

Would you say that if someone isn't getting matches, to continue to spend hours on apps swiping?

Are people who complain about apps being made to make a profit just salty losers who fail at a moral level?

[Simslover92]

No they should figure out what's causing them to not get matches which is usually their profile pics or prompts. Usually people who don't get matches, don't take flattering pics or don't say much in their profile. There is a place on reddit to help those who need their profiles modified.

And no they are not salty losers. They have a right to complain. But usually again it's their profile pics and prompts that are making them not get the results they want. They have to change it up.

I've had to revamp my profile to get more matches and it worked. It's just that simple.

[Asker]

I guess why would people not simply take flattering photos? The barrier of entry to getting consistent matches seem super low based on what you're describing.

Do all the frustrations people have surrounding getting matches stem from laziness to fill out the profile and take flattering photos?

[Asker]

And are things like racial and disability bias a thing on apps? Like if a disabled person can't get matches, it's just that simple for them to take better pics and reword their profile?

[Simslover92]

As far as racial and disability bias goes, there are particular dating apps that accommodate for that and make it so that they can get matches. But there is definitely bias. There will always be bias on that kind of thing.

Why would people not simply take flattering photos? Because people don't necessarily have the best judgment in what makes themselves look the most flattering. The barrier of entry to getting consistent matches are super low when you don't have good discernment in taking nice photos or have a great description of yourself.

No not entirely about the frustrations people have surrounding getting matches stemming from laziness. But in some cases that is certainly the case. Sometimes it's simply not having much time to fill it out to the best of their ability. They make it too general and don't really take the photos or what they say into deep consideration. Not necessarily laziness but just maybe too busy to make it flourish.

The average person is around late 20s to early 30s on these dating apps so they don't have the time like someone in their early 20s or whose retired age.

[Abbycado]

It is a last resort is my guess.

[Asker]

All other resorts were exercised?

[Abbycado]

It’s one possibility. Perhaps some have tried everything and feel like that’s there last option, even if it isn’t.

Just a guess. I’ve never used one.

[Asker]

Can you give a more comprehensive answer than a blind guess?

[Asker]

You can guess but it sounds completely random and not critically thought about at all.

[Abbycado]

Everything is a guess. If you are suggesting one reason applies to every person on the apps, that’s ridiculous.

You critical think about it if you don’t like my guess. Muted.

[Anonymous]

Because most know that is thier ONLY option. Despite what they might claim. so it's suffer through that or admit it's all over for them.

[Asker]

I never read read replies that start with "Because". They are always reductive and toned in a way to undermine the question and take away nuance from the conversation.

[slatyb]

They worked for me, and have worked for many others. A substantial fraction of couples met online.

[Asker]

So why are the apps hated?

[slatyb]

Mostly sour grapes. People join them but get no responses, so they pretend that there is no one worth dating on them. I was fairly successful; most women responded to me. It probably helped that I was responding to their specific profile and that they were close to my age. I wasn't 40 trying to date 21-year-olds.

[Asker]

It's basically a "if your poor just get a better job" situation?