Do you think he still likes me or is he just keeping me as an option?

[Anonymous]

When he first started talking we would text/call every day. Then about 3 weeks ago he stated sorry for the lack of communication and that he didn't want to bore me by texting me all the time. Last week it was only once a day texting and leaving me on delivered sometimes. Maybe he would call. If I called he didn't answer and not even a text saying why. When he finally did call me I asked him why and he said that he was busy. It literally takes 1 second to just say I'm busy I can't talk right now. I haven't heard from him since Saturday night and I message him back that day but he left me on delivered again. I'm literally over this 🤦‍♀️. I had a bad feeling so I made a fake dating account and his account is still on there. He knew that I deleted my account. Our schedules are busy so I didn't make it a big deal but I saw him a week ago and on our date he was texting his brother from time to time and replying fast. But when it comes to me it takes him hours. I feel he doesn't like me anymore.

Ask him about it

Leave him

[SteveSmith1985]

This just doesn't sound like a promising thing you two have. Its possible that it's because you were focusing on the texting and maybe there is something that would change my answer if I knew more.

It's not that I'm commenting on who fucked up where with the communicating. It just sounds like neither of you are that into this. It doesn't seem like your clicking. It seems like more stress and work than it ought to be just to connect.

I think you should just end this unless there's something about it (or how you feel) I'm just not seeing. It seems mutual. It doesn't sound like you think this guy's amazing either. Find a better fit, it shouldn't be stressful to talk to them in a way that works reasonably well for both people. Nobody seems happy with this.

[BadApple69]

I said ask him about it because I believe in communications. But the reality is he is probably shopping around for other girls. Guys do that and so do girls. Personally when my girlfriend texts me I get back to her asap because I want her to know that she is important to me. He should do the same.


And when you were out with him are you sure it was his brother he was texting?

[Asker]

This guy a workaholic so I know that he is busy so I try not to make it a big deal. It was his brother because he doesn’t hide his phone when he is near me.

[Finchie40]

It sounds like you aren’t the only one he is dating , you aren’t his top priority , you are just a convenience to him , he does t hate you but he wants his cake and wants to eat it to , he is basically weighing his options with you and other girls’ as well

[NoDecision]

Sounds to me like you already know the score. He is still actively dating and dating other girls. He is keeping his options open by keeping you hooked on the line. If he was really into you this would not be happening. If it were me, I would kick myself in my ass for being so dumb and move on.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

Ask him about it. He might feel like he's just wasting his time with you if you don't seem interested or you really are a waste of time for him. But then again maybe he is keeping you as an option and banging some sweet strange so much that he simply doesn't have time to invest in you.

Too much missing info for me to determine anything, so it's best if you just ask him about it.

[midnightmoon05]

did you sleep with him yet?

your gut feelings is correct.
block him

[Asker]

I did not. He wanted to the last time we meet but I told him I wasn't ready for that yet. He was okay with that because we continue the date and he wasn't mad. He told me Saturday that Sunday he was in charge of planning a birthday party for his grandmother.

[midnightmoon05]

Grandma? lol 😂
Okay…. Tell him you want to celebrate with him. Also help with the planning … k jk…
Don’t waste your time.

[Asker]

Do you think he was lying?

[midnightmoon05]

One lesson I learned in life is to not let that live in my head…
We will never know the truth.
The best you can do is meet the next one … 👍😊
Happy dating!

[On_cloud_wine]

Some people HATE texting, like me. I prefer a phone call or fave time, but If he’s not making time for you, then that’s when I would start to question.

[unknowngurll1212]

It seems like he's not putting in the effort he once did, which could be a sign that his feelings have changed. It’s important for you to feel valued, so if he’s treating you as an option, it might be time to reassess things... 🤍

[PeachyPie93]

I'd say leave him, you could talk with him about it, but most guys lie because they want to keep you as an option just in case his first priority girl loses interest in him.

[Shiprex]

Maybe he was hoping you would be more reciprocating in the communication between you. OR he could be just tired and not into time consuming texting or just busy

[Nikki1989]

Quality people don't text, they want to actually talk. It seems like you are incompatible.

[noohair]

Texting his brother while on a date with you is different from being at work and not being able to text. But texting anyone while on a date with you is telling you that you don't have any special value to him. Good Luck…

[glennos89]

You can always ask him about it but most likely his has other options and you are not his priority anymore

[thegreenyogi]

It sounds like he's getting cold feet and he just doesn't want to tell you directly.

[Anonymous]

My take is that once you start to question, it's time to move on.

[Lilly1979]

Your his plan b from sound of it. In case of emergency break glass. Cut ties you can do better. Sounds like could get worst.

[Anonymous]

This is really bad news. You should break up with him.

[Gani_4u]

Be honest with him about how you feel and confront him right away. Don't wait

[spartan55]

Have you gone on an actual date?

[Asker]

Yes we have been on multiple dates.

[Hawaiikai]

What’s his zodiac sign?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I think he just uses you for dates.

[seanscoopers]

Just move on

[In_Trance]

Option